Yes, but Is It Sex???

Just read a comment on an Instagram site that seemed to imply that orgasms induced by oral sex ISN'T really "sex" because one can get/give a blowjob and still be a virgin (if one has that status).
This is essentially Bill Clinton's statement: "I did not have sex with that woman!"

If that is truly the case (and I assert that is not correct), then partners in marriage could run around sucking/getting sucked/eaten out without a single moment of doubt or guilt.

What do married people (straight or not) on this site have to say about this??

 

Of course it's sex. I think it's as or more intimate than intercourse. There's no such thing as 'just a blowjob..' I had a co-worker that played the game "it's not cheating if it's more than 500 miles from home". Guess what - that's not what she thought ... Oh, they divorced.

 

I truly believe you are 100% correct. I'm astonished by those who maintain otherwise!

 

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For as long as I've been eating pussy and sucking cock, it's been known as oral sex, which makes sense given that both are sexual acts. I have never understood why there are still people in 2025 who don't believe that it's sex.

 

Those that say it’s not sex are just trying to convince themselves there is a loophole.

 

My wife can have an orgasm from oral, but not near as intense as from penetration.

 

Chocolate and vanilla!

 

Back in the late 70's and early 80's, there was this thing among more relgious youth that would have anal sex to maintain their virginity. Rationalization at it's best.

 

It's not sex if there's no penetration.
As to whether the partner feels betrayed; that's a different subject.
To conflate the two limits the possibility of actually finding a valid answer or reaching understanding.

BTW partners in marriage do get licked and sucked 'outside' of their relationship.

 

It's called oral sex. Penetration occurs, but with the mouth instead of the vagina. With some there is mouth, or throat, fucking. Anal penetration is called anal sex. Virginity isn't considered broken during anal sex. Still called sex.

 

Of course, oral sex is sex and if done with anyone other than your spouse it's sexually cheating on them. Sexual neglect (from their partner) will lead both men and women to rationalize it as not sex, but it really is. I fell into this in my first marriage; her sexual neglect led me to accept blow jobs from other guys and thinking it was just a blow job. But would I be OK if she was out giving other guys blow jobs? No, I wouldn't. No matter how you spin it oral sex is "sex" because you'll most likely have an orgasm.

 

Still is sex. Sex has many forms
Just the difference between genders even though a man will receive pleasure even if the woman only gives him

 

Sex is taking place when the nipple makes its appearance……..Seinfeld.

 

I have had a few married FWBs back in the day. Their motto seemed to be “eating ain’t cheating”. we never felt guilty about going down on each other, but the line was drawn at penetrative sex. Well, all but one. She had been married for several years and had never had sex with anyone, but who she described as her small dicked husband. So we did it, and she was quite pleased…. to the point that afterwards, she suggested she would get a divorce and we would be together. HELL NO! I was divorced/single and happy. She could not seem to differentiate the difference between good sex and love. Women! Others knew what they were there for. Enjoy the times together and went back to their normal married lives.

 

It's like the old 3-Stooges joke - Curly asks "Are you married or happy?"...

 

There's a reason why it's called "oral sex," after all. Some folks who weren't what anyone might call God-fearing Christians found that sex was more than just putting A into B - intercourse just wasn't the only way to have sex but it's the preferred, mandated, and required way to have sex. There's a reason why the Catholic Church - and probably other religions - prohibit masturbation, sodomy, fellatio and cunnilingus - because those forms of sex do not lend themselves to conception.

"Eating ain't cheating" was, indeed, a watch phrase of the day and I know of many a guy and gal who got away with cheating on their partner because they didn't have intercourse, but they had oral sex. I know that humans can be... morons at times but I've always felt that if oral sex wasn't sex, they wouldn't have called it sex to begin with.

Then there's the obvious question: If it's not sex, what is it, hmm?

 

@KDaddy23
Very much in agreement with you
Using our hands, mouth, toys are all forms of sex
You could say you lose your virginity to each form

 

When my wife played with other women, she didn't consider it cheating. mostly before we got married. But I know her pussy got a good work out from the big dildoes.

 

my wife has only played with another woman once…. it was her fantasy, and I encouraged her. Of course I was out of town, and she was very reserved with sharing details. WHY? This other woman called several times for a repeat, but my wife shut it down. Again WHY? I had no problem with it. I don’t know…. did she not like it, or did she REALLY like it. Who knows? Did it make her question her sexuality? Her sister was gay…. did that mess with her head?