I've just had a phone call from someone whom I apparantly got talking to at a party last saturday when I was very drunk. He wants to meet up and go for a drink again. I didn't have the balls to spell out to him that I wasn't sure EXACTLY what he meant but had a suspicion so I said yes. Apparantly I'd been talking to him about football and I said "why, did you want to talk about football a bit more?" and he said "we can talk about anything you want, mate!". I asked if I'd offended him at the party or something and he said "no, I really like you." Now then. Are there any gay men or particularly perceptive women on this board who can tell me whether this is a wind up, a genuine approach from someone who's assuming i'm gay, or what? I've no idea, I think I'm just going to have to go and have a drink with this bloke and see if i can get to the bottom of this without a) leading him on or b) offending him. What makes it really odd is there's absolutely no way I gave him or anyone else my number that night. Of that I'm more certain than anything else. I've a feeling he managed to procure it subsequently. That in itself doesn't tell me anything though. Anyway, i'm not desperate for advice nor am I getting at all worried right now - I'm just finding the whole thing really bizarre.
Well the worst thing that is going to happen is you will have to say "No thanks, I'm straight" so what’s to lose.
Yep, go to the trouble of arranging a meetup with someone who was pissed off his face at the time he met him and who doesn't even remember him, just to talk about football. And from what I DO remember that night, I managed to piss off quite a few people that night talking about football. He said he wants to get to know me better. I don't even remember what he looks like. I think he said (on the phone just now that is) that his name was Richard but that doesn't ring any bells either, and he seemed so nervous and anxious on the phone that he wasn't speaking very loudly and I had a lot of trouble hearing him - had to ask him to speak up at least twice. Also, the time he rang me, gone 11pm and yet he didn't seem to have a problem risking waking me up or whatever, it doesn't seem to fit with him being genuinely trying to approach me that way. I really think it might be a windup. I can't attract a woman when I'm trying, how am I going to be attracting a man when I'm NOT trying?
I think the only possible explanation is that whatever amount of Irish whiskey didn't end up inside me, ended up inside him. Well, that or it being a windup. If anybody was drawn to me in that state then they must have posters up all over their neighbourhood with some contact details, a photo of a plot, and in big, bold letters, the word: MISSING.
yes, well - I usually do. I just had some emotions to suppress that night - I'd just been let down (although rather gently to be fair to her) by the girl i'd been seeing, and of course there was that jammy soft injury time equaliser (which by the way was most definitely OFFSIDE) up at Deepdale the same afternoon as well. The whiskey certainly did the job. Ironically, I was very careful that time to watch myself and not make a mess inside the house, nor inside my own halls when I got back - I succeeded as well - didn't throw up at the party, and made sure I went outside at home. The last time I took a bottle of Irish whiskey to a party following a depressing afternoon, and drank most of it myself, I managed to upset the people who lived there by not making it outside of the front door in time. Now it seems I managed to avoid that particular mess and do some damage of a different nature. Maybe it's my own fault for economising and buying a Tesco blend of Irish Whiskey instead of Jamesons, just to save a few quid.
he probably got your number from someone else if your sure you didnt give it to him...i might be making assumptions here but i dont think its really a guy thing to tell their mates that they like them...i think its safe to assume that your new friend has some sort of homosexual tendancies...go for the drink and get talking and find out more about him, even if he is gay you can still be mates
Sort of what I was thinking. I'm pretty sure I can let him know I'm straight pretty early on without sounding like I'm keen to let him know I'm straight. It will also mean I won't have to worry about finding out whether he's gay. I can just tell him the reason I got drunk that night was because I was gutted over a girl I'd been seeing. Surely I can't do any damage that way.
UPDATE: Turned up tonight as arranged. Best think that possibly could have happened happened. He failed to appear. So it was probably a wind-up after all.
