My first wife was horrified that I had pulled off with a friend when I was 16. She turned that against me, smearing my name all over the place. I smoothed that over, and my now wife is much more accepting of the idea. I've had a couple of friends living alone, and I sucked cocks with them but she knew always. She assumed I was taking it up the ass too although I wasn't, only oral, but she was ok if I did it. I even picked up a woman and had sex with her many times,vans the wife knew. Can't do it now. I'm too old, no confidence, and she's too ill to just leave her, but I'd always be open about it. Having a pull is the best I can do now.