Concept of Virginity

Doesn't mean much to me - not even sure how to define it in my case. I was having various kinds of sexual contact with the friends the whole time I was growing up - what you do and how it feels changes as you get older, of course, but I didn't experience any particular event as being a dramatic change. The first time a boy fucked me, my best friend and I had already been fooling around with him for weeks: masturbating together, giving each other handjobs, and eventually oral. And even fuck wasn't the first time I'd had a cock in me - had done some tentative probing with a friend a couple years before.

 

It does seem a very indistinct area, a theoretical boundary, some sort of coming of age. Nothing changes, just you know you got off. Even in a girl, fingers and hairbrush are replaced with a cock. A hymen breaks maybe. It was an emotional moment, a relief when I first came in a girl, at 20. I felt I'd crossed some invisible barrier as I came in her. I had been pulling off for years by myself and with brother and a friend. It was for me and 'at last' moment. I pulled out all the stops then. She and I fucked like there was no tomorrow for many months. Damn, I should have married her.

 

I grew up in a very sex positive household. I saw what you mention as natural and positive. Everything was open. I believe the taboo subject you mention is banned on here so I won't discuss it in a forum. But for me there was no line to cross as everything was just a natural step to increase my experience, so losing my virginity at a young age was just a natural thing to happen, done so in a caring celebratory and very memorable and enjoyable way.

 

This is the way.

That may be an unpopular opinion, but it beats the isolation and confusion that most of us experienced. Most of us had to navigate the black hole of sex alone. No support or guidance, just inaccurate information, teasing and shame.

I do envy you.

 

In my adult life I got quite close to a Virgin. And then she wasn't anymore.

 

Yes, every woman I've been with has been well and truly fucked. Not an innocent one among them, except my young half sister and she had to stay that way, says I. Later that year she fucked her brains out and still does

 

How to lose something that I don’t know what it is?

 

Agree. It's a social construct.

 

The concept of virginity is deeply based in religion, maybe not quite make first sex as common as first use of a pen. But take the pressure of virginity and loosing it, to make it easier to achieve and less taboo on loosing it. Absolutely get rid of the concept of no sex before marriage.

 

For some people can be big concept. For me, just a physical membrane with no emotion. I just decide when my body told me and I have sex…simple ! Of course I like and have been a busy girl ever since.

 

Someone who died way, way back in the day decreed that a female - and in order to make a perfect wife - should be chaste, pure, and unknown by man or, yup, a virgin. I'm thinking that it took those early peoples a long time to understand that a girl could break her hymen... getting out of bed in the morning and in other ways that had nothing to do with having sex - and there are historical records somewhere that talk about young women actually being, um, checked to see if (1) her hymen is still in place or (2) there's no "evidence" that someone stuck a dick in her. A social construct? I'd agree with that and this decree probably had something to do with a man not having to compete with other men's sperm in her vaginal vault and as they may have had to do with women who were already sexually active and, well, um, if you're the only one who's been in there and loading her up with sperm, the baby is likely yours and, of course, the younger the female, the greater the chances of impregnating her repeatedly and, preferably, producing male offspring.]

There was a time, oh, I think it was in the late 80s, where it was being said that being a virgin was still virtuous and just say no to sex and especially amongst teens who were getting girls pregnant just by looking at them and, as I seem to recall, it was some church who was putting this "it's okay to be a virgin" thing out there and while some males and females just said no to sex, well, until they were married (and as the bible makes clear (somewhere in there)), other were like, "Fuck that - I need to get laid!" sometimes to maintain social status or, as Rana04 said, their bodies said, "Okay, it's time to get some!"

Now, the "out" for those women who should be unknown to man was it didn't say that they couldn't be unknown... to women. A hymen broken by fingers or one of those crude implements that, if you go looking for the history of the dildo, whew, man, those women using those things must've really needed to get off, that could easily be explained away and an "examination" would show that, nope, no dick has been in her... but that pussy's been eaten by women.

 

There's this scene in Risky Business where Tom Cruise is pitching his brothel to a couple of his friends, telling them how much women hate male virgins, and how a woman can practically smell a man's virginity and it smells like dog shit. That's a very different metaphor than when we talk about a woman's virginity!

*Having* my virginity was definitely a big thing. I was very much involuntarily celibate and couldn't lose my virginity. Eventually at age 28 or 29 or something I just decided to call an escort and get it over with. I was sick of feeling like a fuck-up.

 

Male virgins were considered to be a very different critter; not only were we not to have sex - again, until we were married - but masturbation wound up being a mental illness that had to be cured... and in ways that I think would have made Torquemada cringe. I know that growing up, any guy who (a) hadn't gotten some pussy yet, (b) hadn't masturbated or (c) tried sex with a guy would get hazed big time, which is really being nice about it. Girls were looking for guys who knew how to do it; the girls adults said were hot in the ass were looking to deflower a male virgin if and when possible and some male virgins would head for the hills like Scotty beamed them up if presented with an opportunity to have sex with a girl or anyone else for that matter.

I know I was told to keep it in my pants and do not have sex before I'm married and, um, yeah, that's not what really happened but while male virginity was praised in some corners, it was a slap in the face where one's masculinity was concerned to not to have sex and saving yourself until you got married. Virginity in both males and females was - is - considered to be a virtue.

 

No, but I like virgins

 

I fucked a girl on the beach in a i bet youu guys woukdnt do that scnareo. So off we went. Fucked her raw fulled her with cum

 

My first time was really nothing to brag about. It was great because it was the first time I got to put my cock in a pussy, it was the first time that I got to experience what it felt like to have my cock in a pussy and it was the first time that I actually got to cum in a pussy. It was somewhat disappointing and embarrassing because it was awkward, clumsy and quick. I lasted a lot longer masturbating, getting handjobs and getting blowjob, but there was just something about sliding my cock into a pussy for the first time that made me lose control quickly!! So, I would say that it's worth mentioning for a laugh because it was my first, but it's nothing worth revering. Also, it never changed me as a person because none of us are "studs that last for hours" the first time and I quickly got over the embarrassment.