does anyone else feel that having sex with another man makes them *more* masculine?

I agree with you wholeheartedly. When and after being with a man I feel amazing, almost stronger and ready to take on the world, lol. I’ve never felt feminine at all.

 

I love it when an intimate encounter with a man makes me feel very masculine, and I also love the experiences that make me feel feminine.

I love men and women, so why not embrace my own masculinity and femininity? It feels good to experience both, and it enhances communication skills with people of all gender orientations, which, in turn, leads to more intimacy.

I hear people complaining all the time about not having enough intimacy and sex. I always wonder if their communication skills are lacking due to rigid thinking about the social construct of gender.

 

this is the type of masculine energy you can only get from two men fucking. It’s amazing

 

makes me feel femanine as I like to be dominated

 

My protege hits me up one evening and he's distressed. He tells me that he'd just gotten boned by a guy with a big dick - and I'm thinking, "So, what?" but there's more to this. He's telling me how the guy fucked him, how it hurt going in, stuff like that and I'm still thinking, "So, what?" when he starts telling me how girly he had started feeling and how disturbing a feeling it was. I'm thinking, "Oh, that!" and took a moment to think how to word what I was thinking and told him, "Yeah, that can happen and, no, I don't really know what can make you feel that was when being screwed but, yeah, for some guys, the feeling can be pretty powerful and unless you're used to it, I can see why it bothered you."

He wants to know how to not feel that way and I tell him that as far as I know, there's nothing one can do about that other than to embrace the girly feeling because it can enhance your pleasure when being screwed. He swears that he's not going to be screwed ever again because that "bitchy" feeling really fucked with his great sense of being very masculine. I managed to "talk him off the roof" and we get into other things about him being and the guy who did it - stuff like that. A week later, he tells me about topping this guy and busting a nut in him and when he pulled out, the guy threw him face down on the bed, gave his ass a "seriously good eating," then plunged his big dick deep into him and fucked him until he started feeling that girly feeling again.

"How did you handle it?" I had asked and he said that he just went with the feeling (as best he could - he's "rabidly" masculine) and that, um, it did enhance his pleasure and he'd gone on at length about how good it felt when the guy busted in him. He eventually learned to embrace the girly feeling, and he had asked me how I knew that embracing it would work, and I just asked him, "Now, how do you think I know that? Sometimes, I think you tend to forget that I've had more dick in my ass that you probably ever will, and I had to learn how to deal with that feeling, too!"

 

I have to say, your post really intrigues me and got me to thinking. Yes, as I posted above, having oral and anal sex with guys has made me feel more masculine than ever before. But I've also only anally topped so far. But I've actually lately really begun wanting to bottom for a guy, to give my ass to another man entirely, and for him to make me his. I want to feel his hard and dare I say huge cock deep in my ass, filling me with his body and essence. I have even posted this on my online profiles and I'm now looking for the right guy to take my bottom virginity.

But I'm also wondering whether it will make me feel more feminine. I don't think I've ever been scared of the feminine side of myself, though I present as quite masculine. I love the idea of me being a man who gets fucked by another man, two men just making love, just as I felt as a top penetrating another man's ass and fucking him, making love to him. I don't know what I'll feel until it happens, but I kind of like the idea of it making me feel more girly. I never really thought about it as deeply as your post has led me to think. I kind of see some of my femininity now in my behaviours around the huge gay social group I'm part of, or especially when I'm by myself in my house, skipping around, dancing and jiggling my hips like a girl, with my arms and hands up in that way effeminate gay men can be. Very interesting!

Oh my God, I can't believe how strongly I desire this now, to give my entire body to another man to use as he wishes (in a non-aggressive way of course), to be his cum dump. Or maybe it would just make me feel more masculine, as sex with another man always makes me feel. I'm a man, and as such I feel the most manly thing I could ever do is have sex with other men, as a top and perhaps even as a bottom. As a gay man now, I want to live as a real man, and for my homosexual self, that means doing everything with another man, even falling in love. Real men have cocks and holes to share with each other and to experience true intimacy together. And both masculine and feminine can real men.

 

Back in the late 1960s/early 1970s, women were seriously tired of our bullshit and very strongly suggested that we get in touch with our feminine side. Men heard this demand and... hurt themselves laughing. Feminine side. Yeah, us guys. You gotta be fuckin' kidding me, lady! Gay men, oddly or, perhaps, expectedly, sided with the women on this and repeated that us "macho" guys need to get in touch with ourselves. I've said that what women meant was one thing... and what a lot of us guys did was something very different. Women wanted us to be more emotional, not so locked down, show compassion, you know, the softer side of being human.

What we did was to really get out there to become cocksuckers and guys willing and able to be fucked and revel in it like you wouldn't believe. I always laugh when I think about this and say to myself, "Yeah, those ladies didn't see this coming..." but I... understood what they were saying and spending every available moment sucking guys off or sighing when they unloaded their balls into my ass - and sometimes getting hit with that inexplicable girly feeling - yeah, we do have a feminine in that we can be more openly emotional and not so closed off and more so when there's a hard dick sliding into our asses. At the time, a lot of guys I knew who were very deep into being fucked didn't want to admit that they'd felt that "bitchy" feeling but many relented and admitted that it really shook them up having to be made to feel this way when, at all times, our thoughts and feelings are still masculine but here we are, under a man who's driving his prick into our nether place, and moaning and groaning and responding to him... and not all that different from how a woman can respond to a man when the dick is good to her.

Hmm. I opined that this feeling kinda/sorta doesn't have anything to do with sexuality but it's a subset of... having sex. Most guys don't even know they have a prostate gland until (a) it's time for the digital rectal exam or (b) some guy was poking it with his boner and making them feel some kind of way and, usually, pretty orgasmic. Indeed, I hit a guy's prostate and his body shivers and shakes under mine and he gasps like a fish out of water... then asks me, "Did I cum?" I look down between us and, nope, all clear and I tell him this and he... giggles. I just smile because I've had guys make me giggle with their dick in me and have made me feel like I'd busted the biggest nut known to humankind, too, and he had told me later that the reason why he loves being fucked so much is because it makes him feel feminine.

Then he told me, "If you tell anybody else that I said this, we're gonna have a problem!" and I understood it because when he wasn't sucking my dick and taking it in the ass, he was one of the most masculine guys I knew. And I was really beginning to understand some stuff about "getting in touch with your feminine side" or, as I like to say, letting one's inner girl out to play and, well, you know us guys: We don't half-ass things and we've been known to take things to the extreme and, at the time, I felt that this is exactly what a lot of men were doing when they said, "Why the hell not?" to learning how to suck cock, swallow cum, and finding the joy and pleasure in being fucked. Get in touch with our feminine side? Hold our beer, baby girl...

A changing reality is saying that if you're a male cocksucker who also loves to be screwed, you could be gay, you could be bi and, yeah, you could even be straight because any guy, if he wanted to, could choose to dive into the sex without seriously impacting his innate sense of being male and masculine but, yep, it has been known to make guys... feel a bit girly and that's because it's the only point of reference we know about. And, ahem, since giving a blowjob or taking in the butt can make you feel girly, I'm not surprised that it's being asked if having sex with a man makes you feel more masculine because that girly, bitchy feeling can be a motherfucker that some guys can't fully process, like my protege once was.

To RisingBi, first and foremost, you were always a real man so let's get that straight and understood. Next, I've always believed that there's a... pattern to how men indulge in sex with other men and the last part of the pattern for a lot of guys is... taking it in the ass. Jerking off together; jerking each other off; blowjobs both giving and receiving; one guy topping the other and that last part, being topped and there's a bit of trepidation here because (1) everyone knows it hurts going in and (2) that might mean that you're really gay - and that's because it's the only point of reference we know about. And it can go a long way to really getting in touch with your feminine side and not impacting your sense of maleness or even gayness. Once you feel it - if you feel it - then you'll know for sure when your legs are on his shoulders and you can see him pounding his cock into you.

 

like i've always said, only a real man can take a cock up his ass