Talking about masturbation with mates.

You are not the only guy who didn't talk about this stuff. Talking and even thinking about sex was guilt when I was a kid, so always after masturbation I felt guilty. The religion beleavness were the most factor that nobody was allowed to think about sex before marriage. But now everything has been changed because of mass communication as well as internet. So, don't be shy anymore, you can chat me privately anytime.

 

I can but it's not brought up or practiced like it once was.

 

Sure; if you can't talk about it with your male friends, who can you talk to about it? This is something that most guys aren't going to say much about to a wife or girlfriend; most women know that we masturbate but don't want to hear the details but talking about it with the fellas?

100% normal in my experiences even though there's always been an air of great privacy around masturbating...

 

True...in my experience (except for on these forums) most men don't/don't like to talk about it.it's considered taboo or even gay.

 

Some believe that masturbation is a sin, hence the taboo of it... but it was never a sin but more of a story to keep us boys from finding out how good it can feel to play with our cock and, later, when puberty hits us, how really good it can feel but it comes with a sticky mess that has to be dealt with. There's the "shame" of doing it that comes when you're told in no uncertain terms to never play with yourself but, secretly, you probably figure out how good it feels to play with yourself before they told you not to. Once upon a time, masturbation was an official mental illness and the "cures" for it were pretty horrific, up to and including electroshock therapy.

Is it gay? Oh, hell, no, it isn't. It's just something that you were probably told to never talk to anyone about - and that includes having sex. I haven't had a male friend who hasn't asked me if I beat my meat and they've been beating theirs... or they wanted to know how to do it. As an adult, you're not going to talk about jerking off with just anyone but with someone you consider to be a friend? At the least, you confess to doing it; anything after that? The horse of a different color.

It's 2023 and guys are still weird to talk about jerking off...

 

We still don't want to let out just exactly how much we really do it....

 

I've always been open and available to talk about it because it's nothing to be ashamed of.

 

It's like this: If I know you do it and you can reasonably assume that I do it, why can't we talk about it? It's just talking and it's not like I'm asking to blow you, well, I might but not right now since you seem to have a problem talking about something guys are very well known to do.

 

Cool

 

Growing up not so much with mates but used to talk about and/or masturbate with my cousins male and female. Later on talked online through forums and also then girlfriend now wife, open discussion with masturbation. Now talk openly with several friends male and female about masturbating also masturbate with or in front of them and my wife.

 

It is great that you now have the freedom to openly talk about this topic!

 

After being adamantly told by my parents that masturbation was dirty, wrong and a sin, I lived with the guilt of my "sinful" habit for too many decades. I never discussed it with my friends or classmates because I thought I was weird and abusing my body, but I still enjoyed it through all the guilt. During puberty me and my friends always looked at porn and discussed what we would love to do to those naked women, but we never admitted that we loved those magazines because they got us excited and we could masturbate to the photos. I never really got to the point of accepting my masturbation as normal and natural, until the inception of the internet when I started discussing it with anonymous people, thereby finding out that almost everyone masturbates, that most people were taught that it was wrong or sinful, but still did it anyways and a lot of people were living with the same guilt complex that I was because of their masturbation. In this day and age with all the factual medical information available about the physical and mental effects of masturbation, I think parents should wise up and stop trying to discourage their children, both male and female from masturbating. They should explain to them that masturbation is very normal and natural and a very good way to explore and learn about their bodies. There is no need to burden children with guilt for masturbating and doing something normal, natural and definitely fun!!!

 

We never talked about it, we knew we all did it, we just didn’t talk about it.

 

The last time I talked about it was maybe when I was 13, then I just did it.

 

Same!