1000 Facebook "Friends" Ignore Woman's Suicide

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According to the article - her online friends are the only ones that wanted to help.

I don't think you can blame "people online" so much as "people"

 

Yes, where were her loving family while all of this was going on?

 

OK, I'm just going to play Devils Advocate here for a moment. I have to ask the question though if this is the first time she posted something like that? I mean not to sound like a prick but if this woman posted every week "I've finally had enough tonight's the night goodbye cruel world." Followed by "False Alarm" the next day for about 6 months you would probably not take her too seriously either.

My fiancee has Bipolar disorder. Every couple of months she has an episode get's convinced that I'm helping spy on her for somebody. It is amazing that it almost has a script that it follows and I can usually figure out how much longer it's going to last by what she is raving about. So because I know her personally (not online) I can predict what is going on etc. If I only knew her online I would be completely fucking clueless.

It is sad that this event happened but there are large chunks of the story that are missing.

Stay Brown,
Rev J

 

Not every problem in life is "temporary".

I tend to think that in most cases at least, people who truly want to kill themselves, will give nobody a warning that they are going to do so. If you really want to die, why would you want to give anyone the chance to try and stop you? People who do give a warning, are usually either A: In genuine mental distress and crying out for help, (And maybe might end up killing themselves if that help is not given) or B: Attention seeking. I guess the problem is, that a lot of people get the two mixed up, and can often think someone is attention seeking, when in reality, they are really suicidal.

Unless I really was genuine friends with someone online, I would not disclose any suicidal thoughts. Especially not on a public internet site through fear of being made fun of, or even being encouraged to do it. Which I know in some cases, has happened. As for this particular case, nobody has 1000 "friends". I think if you can find even one or two people in life that you can class as genuine friends, then you are very lucky. Aqquaintances are not friends. Even offline in the "real world".

 

950 of the facebook friends were probably just mafia wars adds

 

You'll all denounce me as being a horrible person, but:

People post stupid shit on facebook all the time. Stupid incoherent shit like she did. People like attention. Suicide attempts are usually not suicide attempts, but attention attempts. And if it's REALLY suicide, then, well, it IS their choice. Sounds like she may have thought someone would show up in ten minutes with naloxone, with such a poorly planned goodbye and all, but.... shoulda planned out that attention getting strategy a bit better, I guess... play with fire, ya get burned.

I've seen, literally, hundreds of people asking for suicide advice, saying that they are, etc, on some of the imageboards I frequent, and I expect a few of them died, and if they really look serious I might try to throw in a kind, hopefully deterring word, but nothing anyone on the internet says is really going to change their mind..... It's unfortionate that the friends who lived close didn't do anything, but I see why they thought what they did. (Also, depending on what she took, and because of the stupid, intoxicated nature of her message, it very well could still have been too late)

 

Ha, well I was a rebellious acid head teenager, and told my mom in an argument, that I wouldn't want to live my whole life from her perspective, left for a friends, she called the police, they tried tracking me through the woods, but failed, they called my phone i had to give my self up to mental health arrest. blah...Such such stupid ass fucking moment on everyone's part...psh that's why I want to kill myself, not really, only people who know they're darn near twisted for the rest of life do it. RIP Roma Khabursky, Glod bless....It was almost stoped by his past lover, I can't near imagine the feeling she had going through the park to the bridge. Really is a selfish choice.

 

You can't blame her 'friends' for what was her own irrational decision.

What a stupid article.

 

diffusion of responsibility ftw

 

After more reading, it really is a sad story. However, it's modern day blame culture.

The mother said 'i'm disabled and could not reach her flat'. Fair enough.

But a friend says 'she OD's all the time and lies'.

So why didn't her mother know anything about this? She obviously had a while longer than one night to figure out her daughter was unhappy.

I can't comment on it for definite, but its sad that people closest to her failed to see the issue, as for her Facebook friends

they should have perhaps taken it more seriously, but familiarity breeds contempt.

Horrible, but it's a blame game.

 

I do agree with you, IB. Suicide is innately the fault of the perpetrator, not their friends or family.

 

And perhaps that is because Facebook is just plain stupid shit.

It's the dumbest fucking bullshit site ever created. It's basically Myspace with a lot less privacy and a grow your own virtual farm application. The only reason it ever got popular is because of media hype. The same media hype machine that said going to war was a good idea.

And the millions of stupid retarded sheep spend the majority of their freetime on it when they should be in the park saying hello to stranger or offering to buy a cute guy/girl a coffee in a local caffee shop.

 

Thank you. If i'm honest, I say this because i've had personal experience. A girl I knew many years ago used to 'brag' that she was going to kill herself. She would ultimately make a joke out of it.

People worried about her, tried to council her, and she never attempted suicide. The problem was that four years or so passed and people started to become uninterested in something that was 'probably not going to happen'. Then, she tried to overdose.

My year group was blamed with irresponsible action. That wasn't fair.

 

:toetap05:wow thanks for that rich opinion, loveandlaughter. blame it on facebook.

yeah, IB, suicide is the most selfish move anyone could ever make.

 

You are aware that Hipforums is a social networking site, right?

 

having read most of the 16 posts by "love-laughter" i can only conclude that they have chosen a highly inappropriate user name

 

I would hardly call this a "social networking site." It's at best an electronic version of a supermarket post-it board and user generated info/newsletter.

The windows of the Pudding shop in Instanbul used to provide similar a simular non-electronic venu.

Whereas Facebook is an over-hyped privacy invading Myspace. It's basic user base is thousands of callous homophobic idiots just trying to be popular and get laid.

I believe in Tough Love policies are the best form of education. And trust me, I have no choice but to laugh at some of the opinions and ideas or else I would be filled with rage.

I'm not sure when exactly it happened. But at some point in the last 10 years or so, the "average guy" stopped being of average inteligence and became a damn idiot. It's like trying to explain how to make popcorn without a microwave because for $1.50 you can get 2 pounds of popcorn instead of 4 little bags for a buck. It's like trying to teach rocket science to a monkey.

 

Completely disagree that suicide is selfish. At least it certainly should not be considered that in all cases. Its not as black and white as that. Every case should be judged on individual circumstances.

I also wholeheartedly disagree with the notion that in all cases of suicide only the person committing suicide is to "blame", and outside factors never have any bearing on a person's decision to take that step. There are far too many grey areas, and an almost infinite amount of different circumstances that could be applied to every individual case to be that matter of fact about it. Its not always that simple.

 

social networking n - the use of a website to connect with people who share personal or professional interests, place of origin, education at a particular school, etc

'Social networking' was around before it became a buzz word, ya know.

Tis existed since the 80s.