29 partners and counting. Stud or Slut?

I was curious as to what posters would say. It was in fact, a female that had 29 partners. It was simply a hookup, without any meaning.

The majority said it didn't matter, but of course there were a few that said if it was male, it was ok but not ok for females. Double standard, even on Hip forums!

 

Its not surprising, but I feel like attitude towards men and women who have a lot of partners is easing these days, and any double standard that existed, is mostly gone at this point.

Like whether it be a male or female, and someone knew that your # was over 100, I dont think they'd say anyone is a slut or stud. They'd just ask some of the similar questions asked here today. Is it consensual? are they being safe? etc. regardless of male or female. Then they'd just move on and mind their own business

 

No it's not okay for the pure reason that the person referenced in the OP is unconcerned about giving or receiving STD/STI's.


Those who are okay with doing that are equivalent to the saying that the destruction of the human race from a biological weapon or mass pandemic was just hunky dory.

For all we know the biological agents in their body are the origins of the next pandemic because they keep spreading them around willy nilly.


If someone has a STD/STI, they should be barred by law from having any sexual contact with anybody at all until they are "clean" again.

I'm sure many feel the same way I do.


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Pregnancy is another issue, but the STD/STI issue irritates me more.

 

Really?? What gives you that impression?

 

I think Mike0606, hasn't been keeping up with the latest bullying trends and insults on social media that the young people (elementary school aged through high school aged) children/teens are using these days.

He's also not keeping up with American Republican political stances when it comes to how the USA treats men and women differently in the various issues:


1. Healthcare (up until recently since Obamacare passed, but still Republicans are anti-Obamacare so this still applies to them)


2. Pay scale issues (being a woman means they're gender gives them maternity leave which hurts a company's bottom line. Regardless if they end up actually having kids or not, the potential they'll get pregnant and take paid maternity leave is enough of a reason)



3. Misc. More work place issues (women will distract the men in the workplace, and work productivity will suffer)


4. Sex crimes laws (self-explanatory, but part of the reason is women statistically are the victim of sexual assault and rape more so than men according to current data as of this post's timestamp)


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I will say that the double standard is fading, but it's reaching it's floor I think, just like how nazi-sympathizers, or racism have reached a floor. They aren't gone entirely, just minimized as far as those belief systems can go.

 

I don't see the problem here. I haven't counted my lovers, that seems tacky. Sex is a wonderful gift.

 

You and others here really don't agree with the problems of this behavior from the OP, that I pointed out on my posts above?

 

Monk jr, I think you are not separating someone knowing they have and STD and still having unprotected sex with people, which is actually a crime...vs just having consentual unprotected sex with someone where both sides are agreeing, in essence, to take that risk.

 

whats the problem......29 night liasons over how long......u don't say so it's not really possible to make any judgement.

29 partners in one year would be quite active - but 29 over 29 years....?

I'm sorry but I find that inconsequential.....I started havig sex at 18 and have probably had over 100 different partners - guys and girls, but in 40+ years...it's not a lot is it?

And I always take precautions and...touch wood....too date no serious infestations apart from lice, worms.

Life is short - enjoy it.

Simon :sunny:

 

What's wrong with one night stands? You don't have to love someone emotionally to enjoy them physically. It's just two people having fun & enjoying each other. It only becomes an ethical matter if you're hurting a third party who's in love with you or your pick-up -but ONLY IF they get to know about it. Anyone's welcome to "use me" as much as they want.

 

Slut has the meaning of a sexually active female who's sexual behavior is beyond that which is needed in a one on one relationship with the emotion of love involved. It's not really such a bad word. But wait , when I guys feelings are hurt from a girl with a large libido ,it is now a negative thing and the guy is angry and often feels he is owed sex. Even sluts want to be able to choose who they have sex with and it is their right as well. Either way the guy wants to take his anger out. Now being a slut is a bad thing instead of a female that is sexually active outside of a emotional relationship. Sluts equal greater opportunity for a sexual partner.

Women being sluts and men being sluts:
Women sluts are a minority as where most (virtually all) males are sluts. If you have a female slut in your social group ,99.9999 percent of the males will have sex with her ,happily married with kids or not. They can't pass it up.Let's say you are a pretty female with a sexy body and are not actually a slut. You are around a lot of men who are happy to see you (look at you) and flirt. You feel especially good because we are in a barbie doll society where most of our selfworth is based on our sexual power. You like them and the feeling is returned in a self perpetual way. Now the male slut is on the prowl but he is the majority looking for the minority to make a connection with because female sluts are a minority as compared to him. He has to search for the minority sluts instead of the female slut just virtually just having to find the next male. The point I'm trying to make is that if you are a hot female ,having sex is considerably easier and more probable than the average girl or the majority of males if this is their choice. Even if you are a hot guy ,a hot girl can have considerably more sexual partners than you. There is no contest. For better or worse, female and male sluts are not equal.

As far as having sex outside of a emotional relationship, we may go way to school ,not know where we will find work or have to move to keep finding work. More and more things are temporary or rented. We live in an age of 'renters Love'. You need to have sex ,but you are just visiting so sex outside of a relationship is the answer. Sex in my opinon is the 'swiss army knife" (tool) for people with emotional problems. They try to fix everything with having sex and the bigger dose of sex has the most healing power. From getting even with your parental guiders to showing your slut boyfriend up. What is the need for multiple sexual partners?What purpose is served?

edit: For a threesome or group sex there is a purpose because you need more than one participant at once.

 

I hate the word slut. It is up to the individual how many people he or she sleeps with. Sheer it's 1,29 or 100. Although I am a strong believer in safe Sex. STI's hurt the society at large. And having a child from your sexual escapades that you refuse to care for or live is my greatest worry. No child should ever feel unloved.

Otherwise go ahead and fuck away I say. I wouldn't love my wife any more or less if she told me she had been with 100 men previously.

 

We are genetically designed to enjoy sex. It is not merely meant for procreation. I do not care how many sexual partners one has. All I care about is it be safe sex.

 

if it's a girl it's a slut, if it's a guy it's probably an obnoxious douche.

i can talk about driving my car without mentioning my seatbelt, but that doesn't mean i don't use it.

 

If a person is single who really cares?

 

I never see or sense a comparison between (Quality of sex) verses (Quantity of lovers) and I don't think it is an oversight by the 'quantity of lovers people'. Each sexual partner has a value and each sexual experience has a value as well. Some how these sexual partners go to waste if not used up immediately. They expire. I'm thinking that the situation is more of a turn on that the actual looks of the prospective sexual partner ,the shear opportunity of being able to do it maybe.

 

I don't think anybody's sex life should be degraded in anyway. To be offended by it sounds nothing more than sheer jealousy tbh and I know promiscuous females annoy guys because they think why not them?

 

As a guy, I can say you hit the nail on the head. I have felt that in the past.

 

The advantage of being single and promiscuous is we can and will pick and choose between anyone based on our own personal preferences. For single promiscuous females or ones in open relationships, the odds are already stacked against single males.

Mind you some of my female friends have gotten upset over the sex life of some of my male friends too.

 

To a promiscuous anyone , no one has much value as far as they are concerned so the suiters that wanted to be special figure out that they can't be. Why take it personally ,just get in line.