A hip issue.

Do what you want. If you were doing it before you even met him, then he knew what you were like and that you enjoyed doing it, so if I were you, I would leave them up.

 

My $0.02....

He has the right to ask you to remove the pics.

You have the right to say no way!

Personally, I would love it if I knew that other men envied the hell out of me!

 

but again, retro, he's not asking you to stop taking the pictures. he isn't asking you to stop expressing yourself artistically. he's not asking you to stop being who you are, because you can still take and pose for the photos. he's saying that the way you display them on the internet isn't appropriate. it's a message board, not an art site. and frankly, it seems like if you're so set against taking them down, then it's not the nude picture-taking expression itself that you enjoy, it's actually the attention from strangers that you're after... and if that's the case, your boyfriend is definitely right.

 

I took them down. Meh.

 

I think by taking them down you are letting him control you. I mean its your body not his. If he told you to jump off a cliff would you do it? if he said he wanted you shave your head would you do it?

 

I think putting them up is expressing herself artistically. That is asking a person to change who they are and HOW they wish to Express themselves.
She can pose for pictures - AS LONG as no other MEN see them.
That's control and coming from fear.
What we FEAR we create. So taking them down might be kool today. But that fear he is sending out will create his worst nightmare.
This is a Message board-she had them up on THE GALLERIES. Galleries like in Art. There are so many great Artists on THE GALLERIES. Go check out Jennifer19's Work. Ashers and a ton of other people (Artists) on the gallery.
This again is a Forum and all talk...which I also think is Art.
I really don't think Retro is seeking attention from putting up her photos. She expressed herself really well and her photos have ALWAYS been in good taste. I guess his next step will be for her to dress in a deferent way too-GOD FORBID another person looks at her and admires her beauty. That's very sad and again Controlling and based in Fear.....not Love. Peace The Wiz
BTW Lawn Girl-How come you have NO Photos up of WHO you are? I'm wondering?
I'm not saying naked-just a shot of who you are BEHIND your keyboard.

 

Right On Jenn!

 

you shouldn't have taken your pics down retro. It seems this guys really has you under his thumb. wake up girl!!!!!!!!!!

 

Zep....yer wasting yer time i think .......

 

i wasn't necessarily saying that she SHOULD take them down, i was just trying to clarify what her boyfriend meant... because people are saying things that make it sound like he wants her to stop taking the pictures altogether, when that's not what he's saying. his request is acceptable and worthy of honest consideration, whereas making someone dress differently crosses the line. her boyfriend hasn't crossed the line in this instance (and i didn't read anything about him threatening anything if she didn't comply, but maybe i missed something?). if it does lead to him crossing the line, that's awful and she should leave him... but until then, it's jumping the gun.

and also, i'm not saying that retro is just doing this for attention. i said that if she is after the attention, then her boyfriend is justified for feeling bad. just wanted to clear that up. but no, i don't think she has ill-motives. as far as i can tell, she's a lovely lady.

and as for why i don't have any photos up of myself: i had some photos up for a little while, and i got more attention in that week than i've ever gotten in my whole time on the forums. i don't want people to agree with what i say because i have a pretty face, or for people to only talk to me because i'm cute. and even though that's not what i'm after, it's what happens... if i were to put up photos, i'd just be bothered by a bunch of people who want to jerk-off, instead of talk to me... that's whats always happened in the past, anyway...

 

yeah it seems that way...i shant waste my breath (fingertips) on this again

 

OK kool-sorry if I misunderstood what you wrote then and thanks for taking the time to let me know OK?
WOW LOL They must be some hot photos. LOL
Peace The Wiz

 

it's cool, buddy. i'm just glad you asked and we got it all cleared up.
haha i don't think the photos are that hot... it's just the pervy internet lurkers that feel that way and make me not want to post 'em.

 

dude, i don't think someone can fire you for putting nudies on the net, because that is your personal life. well they could, but not justifiably. i have an account at, and frequent suicidegirls.com a lot, and most of those women have respectable careers, and the pinups they do for SG are a hobby on the side. and most people use screen names, so there's no way an employer could look up someone's real name on the internet, then find that person's nude pics because most people use a nick-name.

 

Thanks all of you for your opinions, they were very helpful.
I took them down because Ibelieve that relationships should have compromises when problems come up. I wish he would do the same about his ex, but apparently thats not going to happen.

 

You're the one making compromises, Retro, he isn't going to. You are not going to change him into Mr Right by blindly doing his bidding. Quite the opposite.


It's your funeral, Toots, but you made a BAD mistake. Good luck. Boy, are you gonna need it.

 

Compromise: A settlement of differences in which each side makes concessions.

I hate to make a sore point but it doesn't sound very familiar does it

Any time I talk to you straight after a weekend you're depressed about some heartless thing he's done to you, but any time I talk to you right before a weekend you're getting excited about going out with him.

I hate seeing you do this to yourself, it kills me, it really does

 

Thanks matt... I guess I'm just inda scared of being alone...

......

Phew, that was harder to say than I thought...

I figured out why we're never going to be a happy couple, and it really isnt because hes an 'asshole'. We just have totally different ways of seeing things, of working problems out, and attitudes to how relationships work. And because of that, there is always goingto be problems because where as I see him fucking up and being heartless, hes there wondering what I'm so upset about.

 

So now that the photos are down. Is he going to have everyone who saved them....take them off thier Screen Savers all over THE WORLD?