A Real Tough Decision..What Would You Do??

And what if you get raped by one of your parents?

That shit can mess you up for a good solid 72 hours.

 

Probably longer emotionally.... but yeah, if that were the case I'd say it'd mess you up to the point where one would be incapacitated, unconsolable, even maybe as far as in a catatonic state for at least 72 hours.

 

My best friend had this happen to her. She kept the baby. And so regrets it. I would have carried the baby and gave them up for adoption.

 

I would give it up for adoption. That way, some good could come from a bad situation.

Peace and love

 

I totally agree with LAZULI!

 

You see I HAD/HAVE an older brother. He is not my fathers by blood. He was the product of the evil selfish deed of an awfull man. He drugged my mother to rape her. As hard as being raped is on a person, then finding yourself pregnant of that rape is even worse. BUT, my mother beleived that it wasnt my brother's fault, he didnt do it, he didnt know and didnt ASK to be here. He would have been a beautiful person regardless of the way he was created.

My mother was about 6-7 mo. along and she met my father. He loved her and didnt care that biologically my brother wasnt his, in his mind HE WAS HIS. They fell in love and married by some peoples standards VERY QUICKLY. They loved eachother, wanted to marry and this way my dad would be on the bith certificate. In their very religious families THIS WOULD NOT BE AN ILLIGITIMATE CHILD.
At about 8 & 1/2 mo. my mother felt my brother stop moving in an eerie way while she was driving. She went to the hospital and found he had died. He was then born very disfigured from the waist down. Upon inspection, they confirmed that the drugs the man had given my mother to rape her HAD CAUSED THE DISFIGUREMENT AND HIS DEATH.
You see not but a year or two after my mother had to have an ovary removed due to a grapefruit sized cyst. They said the other was too weak and she couldnt conceive. A bit later, after being told BC would be unnecissary, she got PG with ME. BUT, having me did damage elsewhere and the docs said NO MORE. Since the DR felt it would be safer for him, they had my dad get a vasectomy so there would be no more danger from another pregnancy.

As far as my family is concerned, the rape is just a small part of it. Maybe the starting part, but only a part nonetheless.
This man robbed my mother of her son, my father as well and he robbed me of any chance to have a sibling at all. HE MURDERED MY BROTHER!

I WOULD DO NO DIFFERENT THAN MY MOTHER DID. Because of this I am PRO LIFE. The choice of whether to keep a baby in a situation like that was made, THEN I went for that TAG.

 

some of you girls are very brave. I would choose no to keeping a baby. there are several factors that explain it.
1. one day after the rape we cannot talk about a person yet.
2. I have a daughter, and although she is the most beautiful person I've ever met (and she is yet just a couple of months old) I have to admit that it is very hard to bring up a baby, even If she has a great dad. I possibly would not have the means to give her everything I want without him, financially and emotionally.
3. I do not mean to sound selfish, but a baby changes your life rapidly and drastically. It may so happen that you do not endup doing what you have planned (eg. getting a better job and so providing more for your family
4. there is a great chance that the risk of post-partum blues would be higher?

however, I would most likely carry the child to term for adoption. I see no harm in that.

 

If I were to get raped and end up pregnant, I'd keep the baby, no doubt.

 

regardless of the way i became pregnant i'd abort... be it a rape or vasectomy failure with my partner.

 

id deifnatley take the morning after pill and than abort if that didn't work.
My reasoning for this.
1st I personally coudln't raise a child knowing i had been raped, and the baby looks like him.
2nd if i had put the child up for adoption, when they are 18 they usuallly look for their real mother and father, and if that happens and if i tell him his father is a rapist, i think it would be devistating to them, possibly harm himself or others. I would never want to be the cuase of someone death or distruction or absolute saddness!

 

I was watching the Discovery Health channel a few nights ago. There was a family who had adopted 25 disabled children. One of them, though, was a baby who had been a result of a rape, the baby's birth mother had lined up an adoptive family.....and when they found out, not only that the baby was the result of a rape, but half black, they refused to take him. So, this couple with all the children did.

The idea that a people suggest adoption, and there are babies born from rape that even PROLIFERS won't take........adoption isn't always the answer.

 

well, i think this depends on how old i am at the time. i would either put it up for adoption or raise it myself, but i wouldn't use the morning after pill or have an abortion. it's not the baby's fault. if i was out of high school, i'd probably keep it.

 

the morning after pill is not a form of abortion. there is no baby at that time. infact, there is no way to tell if you're pregnant.

 

A few months ago i would have said i'd get an abortion without a second thought but after seeing my sister get pregnant (as a result of rape) and having an abortion there is no way i could bring myself to do it. I've seen how hard it's been on her and i would never want to be in that position. No matter how old i was i couldn't do it. Although if i was raped the decision wouldn't be so easy.

 

I could never keep the child. Ever. The emotional trauma on me would tear me apart. I know this. I couldn't go through a sexual trauma again, knowing that I had a part of the person I loathe most in the world inside of me. I would be risking my and the unborn child's lives if I chose not to abort.

 

Abortion. I have enough of my own problems to add something like that to them. No offense to anyone.

 

I kept the baby and was blessed with a beautiful daughter who will be 30 in May ....I have never regretted keeping her for a moment !

 

I may sound selfish, but if I had been raped and conceived from it, I think I would most likely terminate the child. I couldn't go through life bringing up a child I never wanted and I think I would resent it, which would be unfair.

 

terminate

 

regardless of the situation thats my baby and i will never kill him/her ---- no termination!!!!!!!!!! i will love that kid with allllllllllllll my h-e-a-r-t!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!