Abortion experiences

Seahorse, sharing your mom's story isn't the problem. The problem is the "trash can" rheortic you threw in there under the guise of help. If you truely wanted to help (rather than spitting out pro-life propaganda) you would have given her adoption or family assistance resources, not fed her a line about what's going in the trash can, or implying no woman is happy with her decision after abortion (even though women here have already said otherwise).

 

you cant deny there's a trash can in the room. i was not trying to hurt anyone i was just calling a trash can what it is...a trash can.

My idea of help doesnt have to be your idea of help. My idea of help is advice, your idea of help is resources. BOth can be useful dont you think?


I didnt say NO WOMAN is happy with her decision after abortion, i said i never HEARD of a woman being 100% happy with her decision.

man, i have to keep repeating myself.

 

No trash can was involved in my abortion.

 

hmm i thought this wasnt about you. Your abortion was much simpler in the early stages of gestation.

Whatever method abortion is done, whether it's heavy bleeding for the mother or a needle at the base of the baby's skull, it's still a matter of getting rid of something unwanted. or, figuratively speaking, throwing something in the trash.

 

I KNOW this thread isn't about me, it is you that singled my experience out and questioned it, and me (with a completely self-righteous attitude). This obviously because I pointed out your rhetoric - which had no place in this particular thread. Your mom's experience is one thing, and relevant. Advice about abortion alternatives is helpful even (of course you didn't give any)...but trying to insinuate that you've never heard of a woman satisfied with her decision (EVERY pro-lifer claims that) and then give her some flashy guilt-laden comment about beauty in the trash can...that isn't going to help anyone.

 

i'm not trying to make anyone feel guilty, i am just stating what i think about the whole issue. I dont have any less respect for you or anyone else who's had an abortion than i do for women who have chosen adoption or raising thier own child.

Being enlightened is not about covering our mistakes or justifying our actions, it's about learning from them and moving forward in the direction they take us.

 

It is impossible to experience trama and not feel pain.

 

Seahorse, this is good advice. I personally see nothing wrong with any part of what you said... especially by ending with "make your decision with your whole heart." Very good advice.
This girl is obviously torn up about her decision... and I know that when I am in a situation like that, I like to hear ALL angles from all kinds of different people.
This thread was never turning into anything but advice until sera came in with her pro-choice propaganda. She's the only person who made this thread into an argument.

NOW, back to the real reason for this thread: advice. Think about it long and hard, dear. Sure, some people like Sera and others say they don't regret their decision at all. But others say they will regret it for the rest of their lives. Either way, there is no 100% guarantee that you will feel one way or the other. If you're having doubts about it now... then going through with the abortion may be a nagging question in your brain for the rest of your life. On the other hand, maybe it won't. The point is, you won't know until it's too late to turn back. So think long and hard, and go to your family and friends and people who know you for advice. Don't be ashamed or afraid to talk about what you are going through. Please don't keep it bottled up inside. Have an open mind and an open heart to the advice of others. Be true to yourself and protect your heart.... that's the best advice I can give you.

*love and hugs*
mj

 

you are ridiculous.

 

Wow, why do abortion threads always turn into an argument? This is totally out of hand. Sera, your experience is clear. Seahorse, you have posted your mother's experience. Great. Lets move on and hear from someone else. I have not had an abortion so I am done. Lets stick to the topic now.

 

This is a great resource for anyone facing an unplanned pregnancy:


http://standupgirl.com/site/index.php

 

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hey maybejusthappy... how are you doing now?

 

this always seems to happen a thread where information is asked is turned into a pro-life pro-choice argument i think that people should just respect each other decisions and opinions and just stick to the topic at hand discusiing your abortions

 

What pro-choice propaganda are you talking about? My actual abortion experience, or my defense of that experience when Seahorse singled me out and attacked it specifically? Or maybe where I tried to keep this thread on topic and rheortic out.

Here are the OP's questions:

What belongs in this thread are abortion experiences, what kind, what it was like, and how we feel now.

Seahorse could have kept the "beauty in the trash can" and "no woman she knows is satisfied with her decision" to an abortion debate thread where we are discussing social implications, or the right and wrong of abortion. This thread isn't one of those.

Regardless, the OP didn't ask about what everyone thought on the issue, she asked for experiences, type, what it was like, and how we feel now. Opinions on the issue of abortion are off-topic and should be taken to one of the many debate threads we have.

 

looks like the original poster doesnt have a problem with this thread like you do.

and AGAIN, for the 3RD time, i said I HAVE NEVER HEARD OF A WOMAN BEING 100 PERCENT SATISFIED WITH HER DICISION TO HAVE AN ABORTION.

(hope you didnt miss it this time.)

 

heh. That was pretty immature doll face.

 

I am 110% "satisfied" with my decision to terminate my pregancy. never had many doubts before hand and never had a single feeling of regret afterwards.

 

i guess i'm supposed to be impressed now. Should i congratulate you girls?

 

so why be regretful about getting pregnant if you can just take a pill and it's over with? i mean, after all, it's just a lump of cells, right? If it's not wrong to abort, then why did you regret "getting" pregnant? Is it just because it inconvenienced your day to make a trip to the clinic? Is that the only reason why? It would pretty much have to be the reason why if you don't think of the baby as a life that you ended and feel no trauma whatsoever from the abortion experience.

So I guess it's true that abortion isn't the issue and it never was... the issue is that people are having sex irresponsibly and not wanting to deal with the consequences of their actions. People are using abortion as a form of birth control and it's sad. I know rape is a different issue, but most abortions that are taking place are not by rape victims.

Yeah, I know this thread is off topic, and everyone is saying to keep it on topic... but honestly it was gone a long time ago. And what did anyone expect with an abortion thread of any kind? This is what happens....someone posts something and it leads to another thought, which leads to more conversation, and before you know it... no one's talking about the designated topic anymore. I guess it's just a classic case of humans interacting with one another and sharing opinions and ideas. Imagine that... on a forum of all places. What an awesome concept.

Seahorse shares her point of view and it offends someone else because they have a different outlook on the situation so they say so. Then that person shares their experience, Seahorse responds to it, and then WHOA! Sea must be singling out that person's experience just because she responded to what she said.

Like I said.... ridiculous.