Abortion experiences

This thread is about the discussion of those who chose abortion and their experiences with that decision. Not about those choosing the other way.

 

good advice. everyone around you will have a different opinion and outlook but in the end the decision and the consequences (not necessarily bad) are yours. i'm glad today that i never let other people make my decision for me......and believe me - they tried.

 

One more OT post and other bans will be instituted. Huck, if you want to start an OHTER abrortion debate (God only knows why) then do it on an OTHER thread, not this one.

End of story.

Please continue with the thread.

 

Nice spelling.

This place makes the Rush Limbaugh show seem well-reasoned and balanced by comparison. The exchanges here are so intellectually rigorous and enlightening; I don't know how I would ever cope with being banned!

 

how long should a person take off of work after having an abortion? warpedsoaper, you said you experienced both... how long did it take you to recover and was it a lying-in-bed-all-day recovery, or just a take-it-pretty-slow-for-a-while recovery?....

 

I was out a day or two if I recall...

 

I had an abortion 10 years ago. I knew as soon as I found out I was pregnant I would not continue with the pregnancy and it was the smartest decision for MYSELF at the time. I have never regretted my decision for even one minute. You just need to make the best decision for you. It is normal to have mixed feelings afterward.

 

Didn't sound like a very smart decision for the BABY, though. Problem is, it's not just about you-it's about somebody else too.

 

I think this thread is not about our personal opinions ON abortion, but reserved for the women who would like to talk to the original poster and share their experiences if they have had one/knew someone who had one. There are a ton of threads on this site about our opinions about abortion.

 

I just wanted to say that I'm glad I found this thread!

I have not had an abortion or been pregnant, but it could happen. I have severe mental issues with babies/pregnancy/small children. It's sort of a phobia. In fact, I usually just tell people I can't have kids, because it's a lot simpler than explaining about my phobia/mental issue.

I know that if I got pregnant that I would HAVE to have an abortion. There would be no other option for me.

I'm glad to hear that so many people who made the decision do not regret it. I'm also happy to hear that it's not as traumatic an experience as people make it out to be.

Thanks Ladies!

 

Peculiar, would it maybe be better to have your tubes tied? You are only 23, you have a LONG reproductive life. Either that, or work on your phobia. Maybe you'll never want to be a mother, and that may be a good thing, but at least working on it would be good for you.

 

I want to have my tubes tied, but the doc won't do it yet. They are still saying I'm too young. I am on birth control though and I'm neurotic about doing everything I can to prevent pregnancy!

I do need to work on the phobia, but that's hard to do when you can't even TELL people you have a phobia. Everytime I mention it, I get accused of being a horrible person.

 

You are not a horrible person. Phobias are often the result of trauma in childhood. It could be something else, too. A good therapist will NOT judge you, and will help you.

It makes me really angry, than even when a young womyn knows she doesn't want children, doctors are always so patronizing and think they know "she'll want them eventually." Not everyone wants kids, if a womyn wants her tubes tied, they should do it. I am sorry you are having such a hard time.

 

i agree, that is definitly unfair. do they have an age when when you 'decide' to get your tubes tied? or is it just at the doctors disgretion? if so, then that is wrong and id see another doctor. if there is an age, start your countdown.

it seems to me we live in america, and if you want your tubes tied, then for heavens sake you should be able to get them tied!

 

My understanding is that you have to be 30 OR have two kids (in texas, at least.)

I think it sucks. I know that I don't want kids. That's MY decision. I don't think that he should have the right to tell me what I can and can't do with my own body.

 

How can they legislate how old an ADULT has to be to get an operation?!? That is bullshit and I would fight to get that done if that is what you need.

 

Most docs won't due a tubal ligation on a woman who is under 25 or hass less than 2 kids. I think the reason they say is because if you change your mind later on, a tubal was very hard to reverse. Nowadays, I believe they do it differently as to allow for a reversal ( I could be wrong). There is a way to get one though. You (get this!) Have to go to court! You need to be evaluated by a shrink and then go before a judge an plead your case. Then they decide. I have a friends who is now in her late 50's and knew she never wanted children. She had her tubes tied at 20. Which was in the 70's and she really had to jump through hoops. I am sure if you want it done, some doctor somewhere would do it for you. I also think you shouldn't be motivated out of fear to do it. It is a serious operation. If it is a phobia that makes you feel this way, you should really look into the fear. Having a tubal will probably not cure your fear.

 

Women should be able to get a tubal if they want one. Period.

 

I'm not looking to use a tubal to cure my fear. I want the tubal because I hate kids and I'd rather PREVENT pregnancy than have to abort it.

Kids disgust me. End of story. I am not a person who needs to have one. I wasn't always phobic about kids...it was originally more like a marked distaste towards them. It actually progressed to phobia during the last two years.

Even before the phobia developed, I never wanted kids. There is no way in hell that I'm sacrificing my life for some squalling brat! I'm not giving one minute of my free time or one dollar of my free money to some kid...just not happening. I value what's mine far too much to ever give it to someone else (yep I'm selfish.)

Phobia or not, I'd be a horrid mother. I'm selfish and have a violent temper. That's not somebody that needs to be having kids, in my opinion.

 

Have you explained that to your doctor? Surely they can make exceptions for certain situations.