All kinks are about power...?

Well, I think a good deal of kinks are about power, but my primary kinks aren't.

large clits:......I don't see how this boils down to me wanting power. Sure, I'd take that thing to town, but I really think they are beautiful and power isn't really an issue for me here.

nipples: again, not about power. I just love their look and think they are beautiful (not to mention fun as hell to play around with and press, though I do that for fun and to get turned on, not power.).


When it comes down to it, like I said earlier, I believe a lot of kinks do have a power element, but for a lot of people, it's just about how things look, and how they appeal to that person's fancy. For me, clits and nipples etc are just plain old fun, visually and physically. I don't wish to be the "master" in my relationships or to have power or dominance over a woman, hard as it is to believe. In fact, I'm happy when the woman has more power, as long as I get a say in things from time to time as well, in the interest of fairness.

As far as my other kinks are concerned, there may be some slight element (and I do mean slight, as I'm really WAY more passive with my ladies than aggressive) of power, but it's a bit much, at least in this guy's opinion, to say all of a person's kinks involve some element of power. IMO, kinks mostly are just fun little things that get your juices going. It doesn't necessarily mean you need to be in control to enjoy them, because with some people, they can enjoy their turn-ons without a second person involved physically.