am i gonna have to kill someone?

It seems to me that the child is going to be the one suffering the most from all of this. So far, it's been looked at more as a dollar sign than a human being. If the mother is sleeping around and is on government assistance, then she is apparently just out to have a good time. It doesn't seem like there will be any stability or structure for the child. Since the mother is on assistance, she's obviously struggling to take care of herself and may view the baby as an additional burden.

Before you found out (have you even verified it yet?) that she was cheating, were you looking forward to fatherhood? If so, what changed? Another man's cock in her snatch? That's got nothing to do with the baby. If you want to be a father, keep a record of all of her transgressions and go to court seeking custody, proving that she would be an unfit parent. If you are awarded custody, she would be responsible for child support. If you are the father of the child, you are obligated to pay the child support if you don't have full custody. If you are worried about her using your money on items that do not pertain to the child, you can request that she submit a record of how each payment was spent. My father did that to my mother when we kept getting upgrades to the house and she kept whining about being broke. She had to account for every penny of his child support payment or he could take her ass to court.

The other thing to remember is, if the child is yours, you will have to deal with this woman for the rest of your life. You share a child together and that is a bond that does not go away. I can certainly understand your anger with her, but the two of you should work on forming at least an amicable relationship, if only for the sake of the child. For goodness sake, don't do anything stupid like beat up the other guy. Remember if the kid is yours, you want to provide her with as little ammunition as possible for her to use in court.

This was just my 2 cents, I don't mean any offense. I hope the situation gets resolved quickly. Good luck to you.

 

those are very good thoughts, but this thread was from 2006. these issues are all long since resolved.

 

fixed..

 

wow i say you should kill!

 

That is quality humor.

What's even funnier: That guy is probably Ryland's real dad.

 

Okay so what happened?

 

the kid she had and i helped raise for 3.5 years wasn't even mine.

 

wow so it was all true?

 

yeah

 

:leaving:

 

If you're in need of a Name and a Place of someone to kill, please contact me via PM, I have a very easy target. You'll be doing me a HUGE favor, believe me.
Thank you.

 

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