are girls not attracted to emotional, more needy guys

I am initially attracted to the needy type, as I have very strong healing and nurturing instincts, but I have been in that kind of relationship and find that you become that kind of guy's "mommy" very quickly, which is NOT who I want to be. So, while I am attracted to it on some level, at some point, my brain kicks and goes, "whoa. no. just no." And it's over. There's probably always an attraction, but never again a real "crush" I guess you would call it.

 

I am very spoiled myself, so I dont need one person more to take care of.
Although, I do have a nurturing instinct myself , otherwise I wouldnt be a med student. I just dont want one needy person more...

 

REPRESENT!

 

Well, I am honest

 

i dated somebody before that was emotional and needy, and he reminded me too much of a girl and i had to end the relationship. i like men that are there to defend you and be macho, but inside they are sweet and nice

 

As far as I'm concerned, girls can defend themselves.

 

We can, in certain situations. But I like to feel protected; it feels nice to be taken care of. I like manly men...not mysoginistic men. It's a fine line, but there is a difference.

And actually, from a more practical standpoint, it's not so much that I need to be taken care of, but, if it's a long term relationship, one day our kids would need to be taken care of. I can't STAND this trend now where men think that playing games with their kids makes them a good parent. Like when people say, "He'd make a great dad--he's like a big kid himself!" AHHH!! VOMIT!!! I cringe everytime I hear that. Yes, it's good to play with your kids, but theres more to parenting than that! If more men would grow up and be Men it would create a more balanced household.

 

I always tend to date guys who eventually make myself into their emotional outlet. They freak out when I haven't said "I love you" before hanging up the phone. Stupid crap like that. I'm a very generous and giving person, but there comes a time when usually my guy doesn't really have someone to talk to about his emotions and gets a little moody when I'm just playing around or I'm not giving him the attention that he wants from me.

I can't stand being guilt tripped into supporting the emotional needs of my partner. Bothers the shit out of me, and eventually I'll just want to throw in the towel if he doesn't find some other way to express himself when he doesn't feel 100% about himself.

It's not a problem that guys have emotions, I just find that some of them don't have an outlet for them, and it lashes out and spills onto me every now and again.

Not that I am dismissive of my man's needs or emotions, it's just that I find that I am in fact attracted to men who are touching, loving, sweet, strong, affectionate and caring - but I always seem to pick the guys that get hurt if I say that I'm going over to my parents' place for the weekend and I won't be able to see him.

Guys tend to get angry and let you feel as though they are disappointed in you when they feel like they don't get what they want/need from you.

It's a strange thing the silly things men feel hurt by, sometimes.

 

Phew!

 

!needy isnt good but i like guys who are in touch with their emotions for sure