Are People Turned Off By Strong Women

perhaps it's just your perception of them, colored by your own attitude? a lot of those women are used to being treated as less than and end up developing a somewhat harsher attitude towards people they can sense despise them from the get-go.

i'm wondering if you last comment applies to me in particular?

 

Yes,it is true. All ignorant and fearful people feel negative towards strong women. No one cares what they think least of all you!
I love the challenge of any strong willed person but especialy women. There s nothing more sexy than a woman with a brain. I learn nothing from unexcepting people but learn so much from strong willed women. This is more inportant than beauty on all levels. Beauty fades but the smart women only gets better. I wish I knew you personaly!

 

I'm a strong willed woman. It takes a very special man.....to understand me. I find it frustrating sometimes. Communication is the key I believe....but I find my myself having to explain....my reasoning all the time. That is the most frustrating issue I deal with on a daily basis.

 

The strongest people I know are always trying to improve things.


Everybody else just seem to be trying to prove something.

 

mmmmm I don't really care whether or not a guy is turned off because I'm opinionated the only men I've found who can't handle me tend to be kinda bitchy and to me a guy who's a bitch is far less appealing than a woman who's opinionated...

 

I know for a fact that many men are turned on by a strong woman. Which shouldn't be confused with being a rotten woman. Kind, & assertive behavior is strong too. Having strong opinions is better than being wishy washy.

 

i really like strong woman. lots of my friends don't, but i do. its not much being turned on by it, its just something i've always liked. and for the most part, most of my attractions for girls i would like to date have been strong woman...

 

exactly and that's because you had a good mom. The only guys I have ever dated who do not like my strong (in the sense that I can be challenging I don't take anyone's balls away I like those) personality are one's who had horrible mothers as kids. My ex-fiance's mom was really horrible to him when he was a kid (she is great now) and he can't stand opinionated women and sucks for him because I have damn opinions.

 

interesting. never thought of that.

and you have have damn good opinions

 

hehe you crack me up

 

well, more of cracking ya open

but i do my best

 

heh it ain't whaat ya think it's what you do

 

true, less thinking, more action

 

exactly

 

I wouldnt have a woman unless she had strength.

Lets not confuse strong with bitchy though.

 

what who wants a strong woman? All men want is a woman who is weak and insecure , so that she can make their lives miserable. that is why they are turned off by "strong women" , because misery is a turn on.

 

Hmmm... this is an interesting discussion.

There is a difference between being strong and assertive and using that to help others understand your point of view or educate someone, and just being a bitch and using what you might think is strength to be bossy and selfish.

I am now considered a strong women, and those that know me here know that I'm quite opinionated, but I'm not mean. Sarcastic, but not nasty. I like to debate, and I like to listen to other people's opinions and gather facts and express my view. I see nothing wrong with that. When my boyfriend first met me, I was pretty meek, still opinionated, but afraid to ever speak up for myself. He taught me to say what is on my mind because people may not have thought of my ideas and I might help change something. Or if nothing else, at least I am not bottling up my feelings on some particular topic. He loves it when I am assertive, he hates it when I'm just mean (sometimes I think mean things, but don't say or do them, its not my fault there are so many stupid people out there).

But I have a friend who my boyfriend thought was a very strong independant woman when he first met her. Turns out she is selfish, manipulative and pretty much a bitch. She is now dating my boyfriend's best friend. She forces him to buy her things all of the time, and she expects him to do everything around her schedule. It is her way or the highway regarding everything. And if one disagrees with her on something, my god watch out! After getting to know her better my boyfriend realized that she is just bossy and insecure.

I guess my point is appearances can be deceiving. Neither one of us gals is ugly, nor are we winning any beauty contests either. Just average gals with different personalities. Both are opinionated, she just expresses hers differently, therefore people are often rubbed the wrong way by her comments, and more apt to listen to me. It just comes down to how you try to get your point across. You can be assertive and very intelligent when making a point without being bitchy and down right mean.

Reminds me of Ann Coulter. Some people think she is just assertive, others think she is a rotten bitch.

 

I absolutely love Ann Coulter. Do not always agree but still love her straight forewardness.

 

I rarely, is ever agree with her, and I do like the fact that she is a "strong woman" and very straight forward and speaks her mind, however, I really do think at times she says things simply to be mean or nasty and it has abosolutely nothing to do with any point she is attempting to make. Someone who can debate well does not need to stoop to the level of name calling.

 

I know there are men out there who just love strong women!
Both physical and mental attitude strength!