are you afraid of people seeing the real you?

You can't be true to anyone else un till you are true to yourself

 

I think that this is very normal... we all wear many hats... a professional self, a nurturing self (mothers and fathers), a reckless self ... I'm talking about me here of course. We do have faces that we portray for different interactions. This book was saying that we all feel like we cant measure up because all of our lives we were "trained" to act "good", or we were considered "bad" by parents, teachers, and society. We then came to belive that we were bad.

 

pfft. my parents treated me like i was the second coming of christ. it's taken me years to develop a decent inferiority complex.

 

Everyone adapts to differant situations.After all,we all have the same potentialities IN action OR nascent all the time.We all can kill--we all can love(with some exceptions)You don't JUST meet someone and go "hey motherfucker,let's get drunk tonight"!Maybe later you would.Maybe never.A person wouldn't walk in an old folks home and start mentioning out loud how pathetic they are.It's about being civilized,maybe courtesy--just adapting to the human condition in our own way--ie:nature and especially nurture.--------doing certain things out of context or acts of an outrageous nature could begin to get into the area of mental illness.Or big fun.Depends.

 

Oh yeah--and the answer is hell no.I yam wot I yam-gug gug gug.

 

I am beginning to feel that I am able to be myself around everyone more and more now-a-days. Sometimes I feel I need to restrain myself and don't have to give them the "balls to the walls" nutty self that I have. But I'm learning to definately speak what my truths are to people....

in my college classes I am discovering just how different I am then many of the other students there in my thinking. There seems to be such a closeminded student body that I say things that they take the wrong way. I find alot of humor in it though because it just reveals their dramas so much....as well as my own.

I do know that around my family I haven't felt like I have been able to be myself so much until the last year. I've really been able to cultivate the areas I never felt comfy cultivating in front of them. I am a thinker, philosopher, spiritual seeker and to them I think too much. thats alright though....i have begun to reveal to them some of my thought processes....they might think that I am a dreamer but I'm not the only one


I seem to be coming to the place where I am not so schizaphranic(or however you spell that fuckin word) but more whole in most of my transactions. Some times I hold back sure but its after feeling out the situation. I don't want everyone to know everything about me....because they can't handle the truth :lol:

 

the problem with being myself is that OTHER people think i'm nuts.

 

KC don't give that thought any power!


*still listening to the book*

 

well, they do. they start to sidle away and never call again. that's okay, i've found my people.

 

fuck dat! i would hold your crazy hand right to the end... :hug:

 

i know. you're my people.

 

the kingsom of heaven is in this thread I have the eyes and ears to see that truth.


(still listening to the book)

 

oh, goodness.

 

Also, i disagree with the generalization that you should just be yourself. There are plenty of fucking people who would be doing the world a big favor to pretend to be someone other than themselves. :toetap:

 

i think the implication that the self is inheirently chaotic is inhierently false.
you DO need to pay attention to what you are doing,
but not doing so is part of the self deception, not of the true self at all.

=^^=
.../\...

 

When I turned 30 something clicked. I knew what I wanted in myself and in my marriage. The way I wanted to be with my children. I've done a lot of work on myself over the years to find the real me. I'm still working on it.

The real me isn't so bad. If people don't like me for me then maybe I don't need them in my life. It's all about respecting each other. We're all different.