Asking girls for their number

"Hello! I was thinking about you today when I was in the city because I thought you might like all the stuff I saw "yadda yadda ya" I'd love to bring ya in with me one day so can I have ur number?"

I often put the "can I have ur number" bit when the girls are still trying to work out what ever it was that I said.

 

look, dude, Im giving straight up advice. Point of the matter is it aint that easy..there's the whole sniffing butt thing. but dammit, I gave you advice from the FEMALES perspective. I coulldn't have been more blunt and honest. Im guessing the reason why you are having issues is that YOU DONT LISTEN TO PEOPLE or take advice given to you. I honestly have no idea what you want. And that probably shows. Your insecurities might be showing as well.....

 

Are you asking for someone to write a script out for you? you want people to tell you what to say? that wont get you anywhere. use your smarts and wit. that'll get numbers. ill tell you this....starting out a conversation by complimenting a girl works every time. Nice shirt....great shoes....gorgeous eyes...

 

Talk to her. Begin with small talk and move on to subjects and you and her are interested in. Get to know her a little and see if you're getting a good vibe off her. In a very subtle roundabout way try and find out if she is single. If so then ask for her number.

 

We have already suggested that to him, however this answer is not satisfactory.....but April, from one female to another, isnt it just that easy?

 

If you want a girl who really doesn't put much thought into relationships, then by any means, introduce yourself and ask for her number immediately. Most girls will reject, and if one says yes, she probably won't be worth it (anything of value requires effort).

If, however, you want a meaningful relationship, try to get to know the girl first. At least get a summary of her personality, which doesn't take more than a few minutes. What do you say? You say something like, "Hi, I am __, how are you? What do you do for fun? What kind of music do you like?" and then say you have to run but would love to talk more and ask for her number. Someone did something similar to me the other day at school, and I had no problem giving him my number.

People keep suggesting good advice, but you seem to skip right past it hoping someone will come on the forums with a miracle-working solution to get numbers without any effort. The sad thing is, it doesn't even take that much effort to begin with!

 

Between us all he's getting some good advice here. It's not easy but it's probably the best way in getting someone's number.

 

I was being sarcastic.

 

I think ima just chill really, thanks yall for the advice tho +)

 

good luck to ya. I really dont think anyone will tell you anything different that we told you here. try our advice and see if it works. just once.

 

see ausin! i guarantee you most girls think this way. itll work

 

fine okay ill try this, although the reason I worry about this method is that I never seem to have a good opportunity to talk with the girls long, so I dunno, the setting is always to public or to rushed near every time

 

All the people here gave great advice. But the way I like to do things is to start off with a complement. Or if they're like in class with you comment on the class or something along those lines. Having a good starter is pretty much key to it. I still say the easiest way to meet girls is if they live in your dorm or go to your class. But start with something like a complement. Then find out a little about them, without being creepy, which can be hard. Don't be too invasive, they'll just think you're weird. As one of the above posters stated "keep the spotlight on them". Best thing you can do. Then if you "have to run" or "go somewhere" say something like I'd like to continue this conversation or I'd like to talk more with you but I have to be somewhere. Then ask for her number and say it was nice talking to you. Be respectful and listen to what they have to say.

And don't whip out the phone immediately, it just makes you look desperate and weird. Also can make you seem insecure because it's like you can't hold a conversation and you'd rather get it over with. Good luck!

 

Lure her out the back door. When she least expects it, chain her up and place a tape recorder in front of her mouth which she MUST record her number on

 

you know the odd thing is, I like being alone, yet my sexual urges don't agree with my mind on this issue at all heh +)

 

But generally realize, Ausin, the majority of women out there want guys for their looks. They crave assholes, and only assholes. Nice guys always finish last.

 

my looks are up to par, that aint my prob actually, Im just a really shy guy in general.

 

Ive been trying this strategy for almost 2 decades. It doesnt really work for me.

 

um....you're 18. how could you have been trying this for 2 decades?

 

dont plan it out, just say whatever comes out naturally. just, "hey, what's up, think i could get your number" then walk away. there's really nothing but balls to it. there's really no need to talk unless you're in a bar, poolhall, or club or something.

as for the girls that hit on you, ask them if they wanna go somewhere alone. they'll take the hint.