At what age did you completely lose respect for your parents?

I used to idolize my mom and find my father pathetic (because my mom divorced him and my stepfather was a super macho, handsome, superstar). Then I realized my mom (who raised me) tainted my opinion of my father a bit.

Later, I realized that I internalized a lot of her judgmental excesses ("The only thing you're good for is being handsome") and lack of personal boundaries as a child. I also internalized my stepfather's compensating bullying.

My mom's father died when she was 2, and I now think that has to do with her hatred of men (she's single) and subsequently my hatred of women.

OK. These days I respect all three of them (and my little sister) but I am quite aware of their limitations and I set my boundaries. But I do love them, and they will continue to be a part of my life within certain basic limits (they always want more).

 

I lost respect for my parents many times, but I've always loved them.

I gained a lot of respect for both my parents again very recently. Probably these past 4 years I've started to really take care and appreciate my parents.

 

I think growing up I didn't have much respect for anyone to be completely honest.... as I've grown though, I have a ton of respect for my mother, she is probably my very favorite person alive

and my dad... eh, I don't respect him too much some days, he makes it really hard to.. but I try. he is a good person, just a bit confused

 

i dunno... maybe 15
my parents are my parents and i wouldn't be the person i am today or will be tomorrow without them
but they are fucking dumb as shit
respect is earned and not just given to someone based on their age or role in my life
i have absolutely no respect for my parents and i doubt i ever will

 

i find that alot of people don't truely know what respect is....and they do not use it accordingly

 

I can't get over the number of people that do not care for one or both of their parents. My dad was my favorite person and I still miss him terribly. Though we live 300 miles apart I visit my mother every summer and talk on the phone regularly. Sometimes are calls will last an hour or more. It seems a shame that so many people don't have the relationship with their parents like I do. I am truly blessed.

 

maybe if so many peoples parents weren't total fuck up douchebags less people would feel this way.

 

Yeah, you don't have to respect everything they did or didn't you know. Of course they're not perfect, you would be an idiot to expect them to be. My father and also my mother are certainly not my favourite persons but they're 'just' very good people seriously. Which showed very well in how they raised me (I can only think of one big flaw). How could I not respect them? They're very lovable as well :cheers2:
I'm aware for other people it's a different matter. It does me good to see most people in this thread seem to do pretty alright despite their shitty parents they seem to have had.

 

Perhaps pretty easy to say but you shouldn't let it get to you so much. Looks like you're feeding your problem.

 

Oddly enough, I have a lot of respect for both my parents and even my step mom. They've been through a lot to get where they are and they still keep going.

Though, I went through the cliche "I hate you" phase with both of them at one point or another... never really stuck.

 

Do you care because that is the rule, or because they are worth caring for? Not everyone got loving, caring parents.

I have a great relationship with my mother.

My father was and is still abusive. That's not something that garners respect, just fear.

 

i still respect my mother a lot, coz she gave me freedom to do whatever i want since i was a kid, she always gives me money and she orders sushi. However i don`t really like my grandparents, coz they don`t know the meaning of the term "pricvate space". For instance i have gone out of my room for 10 min to buy something from the store and i remeber prefectlty how i`ve left my room. Where the book was, were my ciggs was , where my bottle of milk was. When i came back after those 10 mi and enter inside the room everything is changed epically. Everything is on a different place, everyhthing is cleaned up even the lamp is shut down. for 10 min!!!!! and thats not the only case they always go through my wardrobe and everything. so much weed have disapeard from my room is unbelivable!

 

Perhaps they're secretly stoners

 

Your g'parents are stealing your weed??!!OMG - Are they getting stoned? :rofl:

 

i truly hope they are, coz if they throw it instead i will cry my eyes out for all the spend money for nothing!

 

I lost all respect for my parents as a teenager when I realized they were two of the biggest idiots on the planet.

Then I gained it back and became more humble when I got into my 20's and realized that they were right about most things and I was an idiot as a teenager.

 

haha so true.

 

In first person?!

 

I'm sorry - that just destroys me!! NaNa and PawPaw are getting wasted on your weed -- hahahahahahahah

 

haha.. I just posted that in another thread. :cheers2: