sarahrei - thank you very much you have helped me and made me understand from a different view, i need to stop and shall stop... with me beign the way i am at then end of the day its making him feel pushed away and will soon notice the difference in my behaviour and i do not want that!.... if he was doing what i was diong i would feel annoyed, upset and feel that after all this time he doesnt trust me enough. not being silly what can my next steps be? start enjoying time with him?
Stop looking threw his phone and get your relationship back to where it was before you saw this stuff to begin with. Start dating again! Nothing wrong with a romantic dinner for two with some great sex after!!