Bad sex = unhappy relationship?

good. if you think he's into porn and you suspect it is interefering with your sex life you could try watching it with him and seduce him while he's watching or you two could make your own movies to enjoy. Imagine how he would feel if you started sucking him off while he was watching or if you saw something that obviously excited him and said :"I want you to do that to me".

 

Yeah I might try that. Thanks for the suggestions!

 

What is with this ED problem?????? Of 6 men I've been with in 18 months, 3 have ED. Their age is 48, 49, and 57. Yes, I think it's me! It's a terrible feeling.

Oh wait, this isn't my thread.

I think once there is an episode of ED (often from too much porn/wanking, or mental as in distracted or troubled) it can get worse the next time because of anxiety. So finding some way for both people to relax and let go is probably step number 1. But thank god for ED meds!!!

 

Talking to other men roughly of my age, ED does seem to be somewhat endemic. I think Hypertension and depression are the main culprits. the drugs used to combat these conditions seem to wreak havoc on a man's erections. Find a way to get off the drugs and the cock springs back to life. I lost a bunch of weight and had my Doctor take me off several drugs. Now I am pretty much a walking erection and not just semi-hard but steel pipe hard ons. Also since I have lost 72 lbs my cock is much bigger.

 

I wish my guy had a steel pipe. He's only in his 20's though! So its not like he's declined with age. He definitely needs to stop worrying about it and possibly see a doctor.

 

His problem staying hard could be from the fact the he does not feel like he is satisfing you! It is probably eating away at him and causing him to not be able to stay hard. If he loves you, but doesn't feel like he can give you what you need he might be worried he is going to lose you, because of it. Which it sounds like he might so maybe he has reason for his concern. It does sound like he is trying to put an effoert into which tells me it might be able to be fixed with some work on both of your parts. If he starts going limp don't express that you are disappointed. Instead grab his cock and put it in your mouth, or slap it on your face or tug on it and tell how much you love his hard cock. Make him forget about what is causing the mental block.

 

Thanks for the suggestions. I dont think I look dissapointed after, I try to be reassuring... Its just so frustrating! He has yet to really satisfy me. :/

 

I believe it would be frustrating to both of you! If he is putting an effort though you guys might be able to get it working right together. It is your call really and I know from being in a relationship with a terrible sex life I would not do it again unless the person I was with was doing what they could to make it better in which case I would do what I could to help them make it better. Sex is best when it is a team sport.

 

Woohooo! Although we still have the problem of him struggling to get hard and then going soft inside me we did manage to have a really nice session 2 nights ago. We'd had a nice relaxed night in but then had got worked up over it as he couldn't get and stay fully hard.. I kissed him lots and reassured him it was ok and that he should just relax... We then went downstairs and he managed to go for a while..even though he went soft a few times we managed to get him hard and go again. I really enjoyed it... So he feels happier now he saw me so pleasured. Thankyou again to everyone who responded.. It seems like we can both handle it a bit better now! He has stopped watching porn also.

 

Also, does anyone know if smoking pot has an effect on erectile problems? We had smoked quite a lot of strong shit before our good session. Just wondering whether it was coincidence or whether the pot helped?

 

Depends, but yes he should be relaxed, and no tension. I think alot of sex is mental, mind set. Try not to pressure him. Try talking to him. Get the oral sex before intercourse. I can hardly ever get my wife off, with out giving her oral first.
good luck

 

The pot probably helped to relax him so he could last the way he did. But he was obviously responsible for the bulk of the result.