Being a 21 year old virgin

Actually...no. Virgin generally means less experience, by default, lol.

If you see sex as insignificant after you have done a lot, then you probably just aren't interested much.

 

I'm not sure what you are getting at. Experience = happiness? That would also be false.

Sex is insignificant. It's perceived as very important mainly by people who aren't having any. Sex for the sake of an orgasm is on par with masturbation. You might find that preposterous now, but go have sex with 50 people and then get back to me.

Sex as a physical expression of the love two people feel for each other is a different story.

 

^I guess that's what I've concluded to be much more important and I have refused to have sex for the sake of having an orgasm. I'd much rather connect with another person, rather than skeet with somebody next to me...

As for love...eh...idk about that haha

 

the problem is you're a Kansas City Chiefs fan. find a new team and the booty will come.

 

I view sex as important, but I've never done it, so you could be right. In saying that though, I agree with everything else you're saying. I have no interest in sex for it's own sake, it's just "not me".

There is no right and wrong where this is concerned though. Some people get a lot of enjoyment out of casual sex, and have no real need to have a connection or feelings for the person they're with in order to get something out of it. And some people need to feel love and a special connection with the person they're with in order for sex to be of any worth to them. Neither is a "right" way, it's all about what's right for everyone as an individual. We all have different wants and needs. Not all men have the same sexual needs, just as that is also true for women.

Oh, and yes. Leaving someone's life for being a virgin is absolutely pathetic, and anyone doing so was never a real friend to start with.

 

If u want to connect then u need to love....

 

seriously bro, check out this post on the same topic

http://www.hipforums.com/newforums/showpost.php?p=7261689&postcount=16

 

word man. i'm not like...awkward or wound up BECAUSE I'm a virgin. I just need to get laid and am anxious to find someone that isn't an attention seeking whore bitch that is going to put my heart through a paper shredder like I have been exposed to in the past.

it seems the girls i have encountered thus far can't handle the fact that I am willing to be vulnerable and yet unwavering and so they have to exercise some dominance when i want them to be assertive and choose to just stomp all over my fucking self until i feel like i have not only wasted my time but wasted a part of my self.

 

I think wat E said about using condoms was good too. You should look for your size since to b honest u need to protect urself and condoms arent comfortable to wear so u should practise with them.

 

I have enjoyed sexual activity since I was 3 - by choice - and don't just do it 'for the orgasm' either but love all sex play. I continue to have a lot of it and I consider it to be significant. Your statement, in my case at least, is therefore a little presumptuous. I am now getting back to you, as so rudely requested in your post, as I have had sex with way more than a mere 50 people. lol.

My point was - simply - that sex is a prime reason for forming relationships. If someone has had a lot of sex and still finds it trivial and unimportant, then that is simply personal to them, not a general fact.

 

Sex isn't that great. Oh the simple days of being a virgin... come back to me.

 

the plus side to not having sex when you're young and stupid is that when you're older you're not as likely to fall in love with the first bimbo who slobbers on your knob

 

I'm 20 n I'm virgin....I hear stories that girls here in my town get down but I haven't experienced any of it and it's making me go crazy...

 

First of all, you should accept that there is nothing wrong with being a virgin.

Secondly, ever since the age of puberty, when everyone starts to become aware of the changes in their body & start to understand what sex is really about, the chances are that most of your peers will have been claiming to have sex with a whole harem of partners, the chances are, in reality, that most of them are probably also virgins, and just as frustrated about it as you are.

Finally, when you eventually do lose your virginity, most partners will consider it an added bonus to be given the honour of being the one to whom you lose your virginity to.

 

Just talk to more girls. Be confident. Don't make a big deal out of being a virgin.
Hell, I wouldn't even bring it up unless you're trying to lose it in a serious, deep, lovey-dovey relationship. And even then, wait a decent amount of time.
If you make it awkward or come off as desperate, you'll never get very far.