Bi men and aging

Maybe it's just me but I believe that as you get older as a bisexual man, the only thing that matters is having the desire to have sex. Race doesn't matter; your particular kinks, fetishes, and other stuff don't matter; cock size doesn't matter as long as the fucker is clean and it works the way it's supposed to and your beloved and sacred preferences should mean even less because as you get older and supposedly wiser, you just might finally realize that if you weren't getting the cock you were lusting after, it was probably your own damn fault.

Because you also figure out that the next time you get laid could be the last time so why would you not want to maximize your opportunities to strut your stuff as a bisexual man? The only things that matter are do you still want to get some dick and are you going to enjoy the fuck out of it when you do get it... and are you now finally going to get off of your old ass and go get some dick? Anything else are just impediments you give yourself to make sure that you don't get any dick...

 

Speaking of "overdone cliches" (as we were discussing earlier, regarding the overkill of black-on-white m/m porn; another is the m/m sex (including spanking) sites; virtually all follow the same old wearisome format of older guys spanking/dominating younger guys.

Hot, yes, but, like black-on-white, too much overkill.

It is almost impossible to find photos/vids that feature YOUNGER guys dominating the OLDER fellows; they are there, but are often difficult to scope out.

I came across some really smoking hot photos awhile ago from a site called "TwinkTops"; here, these skinny young (and hung!) guys dominate big, burly, hairy bear-types (these "twinks" OBVIOUSLY love eating and fucking beefy, furry, juicy daddy-bear butts!)

I not only find these QUITE hot, but also, a welcome change from the atypical "older-tops-younger" format so many sites and photo galleries flood the 'net with.

I always thought it pretty dang hot to have big, hairy, macho guys topped/dominated by guys young enough to be their (legal age) sons and grandsons.

NO 'net overkill in these scenarios, believe me!

 

Yes, another tired-assed porn cliche that's based upon real life stuff from our past - and when some cultures allowed sex between boys and men. Sure, nothing hotter than watching a "son" pounding his "daddy's" ass, right? Or good old dad punishing junior for, oh, the dent in the fender and money isn't the coin of the realm to pay to get it fixed. My protege, who's 48, is all about his young ass getting with guys my age - and he's getting a good sniff from his area 20-somethings who want his daddy dick to play with and he thinks this is the hottest thing since pussy - although he, and not unlike other men, get all weird about age differentials and visions of incestuous behavior bouncing around in their head and I don't get it because unless that is your son or your father, the incest is in your imagination and most likely fueled by our stupid ass rules of relationship engagement where you can't be too young or too old...

Yeah, twinks and bears. My protege loves his bears and some consider him a cub (but I don't see it because he lacks the bulk and a forest of body hair). I'm thinking it's pretty sad that we get sexually excited by cliches than the actual sex itself and we have porn to thank for fucking sex up like this because everything it portrays is a cliche, a stereotype, and exaggerated to extremes.

 

Agreed; too often, the "cliche" seems to get more "mileage" than the actual sex action.

The "stereotypes" in m/m porn (most especially interracial stuff, where 98% of it is black-on-white) are light-years beyond exaggerated.

"Exaggerated to extremes"?

Oh, hell yes.....you know it.

And, again, if the m/m action involves participants of LEGAL age, what all the bullshit?

Think of this:

All we hear is white gay/bi guys salivating over BBC; when do we ever hear of BLACK guys looking to get their butts ripped into by big WHITE cocks?

Again, it's the time-worn cliches and stereotypes that continue to fuel all of this.

Personally, I feel as though it's like saying that only certain ethnic groups are sexually proficient, and well-endowed.

Last time I looked, there are SEXY men and HOT situations encompassing men of ALL colors and skin color.

Yeah, "fetishes" ARE indeed HOT, for sure, BUT, when the "cliche" aspect gets too firm of a grip on things, well, you know the story..................

 

I knew some Black guys looking for BWC to shred their tight bung holes; were not of a mind to let a BBC anywhere near their hole. Are fetishes hot? I wouldn't know - I don't have any (that I know of). Still, we seem to be excited and turned on by those old and tired-assed cliches and I guess it's all fun and games until you're the cliche dudes are clamoring for and salivating over.

The fucked up part is that we believe that only the well-endowed are sexually proficient and, back to being on topic, when you're bi and older, you should know better than to believe this.

 

Agreed.

It's like if a guy (regardless of color) isn't hung like a mule (or, perhaps is just "average") he won't make for hot sex.

Come on, now.....IF you know how to USE it, THAT is what REALLY matters (hell, even I know that!)

Especially as we age; COCK is COCK, period, and, I feel for those older men who are active, you'd be a damn fool if you let a good opportunity pass by, just because the other guy isn't packing am 11" trouser python, you feel as though you'll be "shortchanged".

Duh!

Huge cocks (of ANY color) always grab the spotlight; David Letterman (whom I watched for years) is supposed to be hung like a mule; there were (not surprisingly) 'net pages like "Dave's Basket Page" and "The Snake In David Letterman's Pants".

True, I have always thougt older guys in suits were particularly hot, BUT, you mean there are NO other male celebs who are hung?

Again, I feel, TOO MUCH emphasis is on hefty-sized shafts (sexy as they might be); I have seen actors on television who, clearly, are pretty well endowed (some with pretty hefty balls); still, I believe that there will always be those misguided guys who STILL believe "bigger is better".

I think these guys could use a good dose of reality, it isn't always all about size..................

 

And why, pray tell, would I care about a celeb being hung?

 

Bingo!

That's it exactly!

I know I certainly do not care in the least about how hung (or not) a celebrity is!

I'll go one better.............

Just for the hell out it, a few years back, I read this "detailed" webpage: "Celebrity Penis Sizes".

I actually, honestly, had to laugh; I was like "OK, 'Mr. so-and-so' is hung; 'Mr. Doe's cock is so small it's laughable.' "

What really got me is that, like, do we we ALL want to know what a celebrity packs in his shorts?

Some guys go to great lengths (pun included!) to find out just what some famous guys has between his legs (like they are REALLY going to ever get the chance to have sex with them!)

Some people are trips, for sure.......................

 

As a 68-year-old bisexual man, I don't care about celebrities' sexual proclivities since, um, they're not having sex with me so they can go to hell or wherever celebrities go when no one pays attention to them. Who cares if so-and-so is hung or that chick starring in the new movie came out as a lesbian - and people losing their fucking minds over such shit when their focus would be better used to get their own shit squared away where sex and sexuality is concerned.

So what's next?

 

You are like me; if I could care less about today's celebrities, why should I be interested in who is hung, and who they are screwing? (or getting screwed by)

Celebrity overkill, in general, nowadays, is light-years beyond rampant, and I, for one, have not the slightest interest in any aspect of entertainment (and here I am using the word "entertainment" VERY loosely)

Back on track, I know a lot of older guys lament about their dick size.

Well, um, IF it STILL gets hard, and you can STILL use it, what the hell?

Use what you have and grasp reality, guys!

 

If a gay/bisexual guy is lucky enough to be still getting plowed in his 80s, it would seem that the stimulation would be good for his prostate; also, a fairly regular sex life, I feel, can serve as a major plus in also being mentally (as well as physically) stimulated.

A lot of things are taken for granted in our younger years, that is for certain.............

 

Even jacking off is better than NO SEX at all, if you cannot get it.

At least your are stimulating your prostate (i.e. "manually"!) but it IS better than nothing, so, if nothing else is coming your way, just unzip and take "matters into hand"................

 

my motto is : if you can't fuck, then just suck. so, I suck when offered in the 08060 area. How about you ?

 

.....blessed is he who expects nothing, for he shall not be disappointed......"

 

Regarding bisexual/gay men and aging:

M/M sex should be regarded as a form of "physical therapy"; it not only should be regarded as integral to your lifestyle, but also (barring serious health issues) can "keep the "creative juices flowing" (pun intended!)

Seriously speaking, I feel that the more you have something POSITIVE to focus on (and get involved in) as you pass through your senior years, the better for your mental well-being, as well as your overall physical "hardihood"................

 

Sex is exercise, PT, a way to keep your mind right and focused and even when the aches, pains and other maladies of aging begin to show up - and then, when they do, that means more doctor visits so you can be around longer and able to get more sex in your diet and, yeah, even if it means having to change from being a top to being a bottom; or, if you weren't a cocksucker before, now's a good time to learn how to suck dick and to acquire the taste of cum.

It ain't over until it's finally over...

 

The bullshit isn't about being of legal age so much as it's a thing about us giving too much weight to stereotypes - and, yes, that can include age discrimination as well and all because some young dude managed to fuck it all up for all future young dudes and we keep believing that if one is like that, all are like that. Of course, the reality no one likes to recognize is that for some, being of legal age doesn't mean a damned thing - but it's still about the stereotypes that porn - that son-of-a-bitch - keeps glorifying when you can see a guy my age laying serious pipe to a young man who doesn't look like he's old enough to consent to sex and therein lies the thrill of it.

What remains, as you get older, is what are you going to believe? The stereotypical bullshit or the reality that life can present - and does present on a daily basis? You don't have to agree with something, but you can't act like it doesn't happen and getting older is supposed to come with the wisdom to understand and accept... stuff. Having said that, it doesn't mean that as an older Black man that I should run out and find some young-looking twink just to recreate some stereotypical bullshit; what it does mean that if, by chance, I have the chance to get with that young-looking twink, I'm not going to kick him to the curb because we keep believing that we can't be sexually compatible with young men when, um, duh, we sure as fuck can and are.

 

You are SPOT-ON regarding stereotypes; whether they are referring to one's wexuality, age, or ethnic background, stereotypes are what I term "P.U.B." (Pure Unadulterated Bullshit")

I recall, years ago, when I was still working in the city, seeing posters in the subway for a movie "White Men Can't Jump"; I thought the title was inappropriate and just plain-out STUPID (I would have felt the same if the movie had been "BLACK Men Can't Jump")

The problem with stereotypes is, that, despite our living in an "enlightened" age, we still are a society that sets far too much store by stereotypes.

I worked in the city for nearly 25 years and, believe me, you'd be surprised at how many otherwise well-educated guys still thought that stereotypes were funny; of course, I was NOT one of them.

IMHO, the WORST aspect of "stereotypes" is when young kids start picking up what they hear from their elders (or peers), and take it as gospel truth.

As for age discrimination, well, that's almost in a class by itself.......and it's all so damned asinine................

 

KDaddy23:

Man, talk about a walking monument to ignorance!

So much for being a "mature" adult!

I am now reminded of the infamous "Bull" Connor of Birmingham.

He was once quoted as saying: "God did not intend the races to mix"

So much for the views of a "good, church-going Christian"!

When I worked in Manhattan, I was friends with other white guys, blacks, Hispanics, and Orientals.

I could care less about their skin color or their ethnic backgrounds; they were my FRIENDS and that was ALL that mattered; you're nice to me, and I'll certainly return the favor.....simple as that.

The SAD things that, after i read what you just posted, I am NOT surprised in the least; the level of intolerance and ignorance that spreads like wildfire in this world today, indeed, is truly frightening......personally, I think we are going BACKWARDS instead of FORWARDS.

Then you have all the demeaning, degrading stereotypes regarding gays/bisexuals.......sadly, ignorance seems to be a disease with an antidote................