Bi men and aging

Yeah, yeah, online bullying. It's a thing. Social media has gone off the reservation and it's out of control and the truth is whatever some numbskull says it is and they don't give a fuck how many people their stupidity hurts. Parents don't give a fuck what their teens do on their phones even though they're probably aware of how fucked up all forms of social media are. Why try to humiliate someone to a few people when you can do it in front of the whole fucking world via social media? And, clearly, those teens being bashed and harassed aren't old enough to be in those situations in the first place; they lack the maturity and common sense to not get themselves embroiled in the dumb shit and, yeah, they all think their parents are clueless idiots... until they get fucked over online and like their parents warned them would happen,

Lots of blame to spread around here...

 

Agreed 100%.

TOO MANY kids (not even in their teens) have far too much freedom on the 'net.

Parents would do well to closely monitor their children's online activities.

For those responsible, vigilant parents who take parenting SERIOUSLY, you are to be highly commended.

Nowadays, a RESPONSIBLE parent will be VIGILANT at aLL times, regarding their children's time spent on the 'net and/or with their phones.

It's all gotten so far out of hand..............

 

Weird when you think that SOCIAL media, all too often, promotes ANTI-social behavior.

All the more reason for today's parents to closely monitor their children's internet/phone habits....

 

I would have their phone so locked down that all they could do was call me, their mom, and their siblings - maybe a grandparent depending where they lived. Zero access to social media platforms and if they don't like it - and I know they won't - well, um, get a job and buy your own phone and pay for it. My own children are lucky that smartphones didn't exist when they were teens...

 

Hinduism and LGBT topics - Wikipedia

Section 377: Hinduism Says Homosexuality Is Not a Sin

I have never seen or read about Indians showing verbal and physical abuse against transgenders and homosexuals. Much of these attitudes came up from the homophobic culture in the west. In India, it is considered bad luck and inauspicious to treat transgenders badly as they have been favorably mentioned in the Hindu scriptures such as the Ramayana, and transgenders are often invited during festivals .

In fact, I have read about an Indian youngster writing to a mental health professional in a popular magazine about how his expressions of love and intimacy to his cousin brought up in the west and recently visiting India, was misconstrued as homosexual by the cousin who even expressed homosexual slurs to him which deeply pained him.

India has the highest population in the world which is twice that of the EU. So its crime rates would be statistically high as well in proportion. Also much of these crimes are reported by Indian media agencies themselves as befitting a democratic country as opposed to theocratic and dictatorial countries where such reports would be censored.

With the improving economy, higher police to population ratio is coming up and this along with other progressive policies such as liquor bans, better censoring of television, ads and movies have resulted in decreased incidence of violence against women.

 

Too bad that more parents do not follow your stellar lead; I truly believe that, if more parents were more strict about their children's phone/internet habits, there would be a helluva lot less grief, all the way around.

We live now in a society that is FAR too "permissive", and, in too many cases, parental supervision is superficial at best, especially regarding just WHAT the kids are delving into................

 

Far too permissive, perhaps, but still gets weird when teen males and females get into sucking cock and eating pussy - and doing heterosexual things - and probably because their social groups said that it was okay to have sex this way or, yeah, again, some parents don't give a fuck what their kids do. But as it has always been, it's the blind leading the blind in these things; having the sex is easy but dealing with the responsibilities that comes with the sex is something they've not been prepared for - and no more than I was prepared for it a generation or two in the past. Getting bullied... is one of the growing up problems; getting bullied for being gay sucked but was blunted greatly because I wasn't gay and if you didn't believe me, go ask your sister and your girlfriend if I'm gay. We stupidly believed that gay men didn't like pussy only to find out later that some of them do - but that's no longer a surprise except to the people who believe that once you pick a side, you can't change your mind about it.

We've made technological progress that is, frankly, amazing... but when it comes to sex and sexuality, we're still a bunch of naive prudes who'd rather believe religion than to believe human nature and real-life shit,

 

Amen, brother!

Agreed 100%!

 

As aging bisexual men, this is stuff that we should be aware of so that we can pass on what we know to those who have a great need to know. We should share our experiences and without any shame or guilt, both the good and the bad so that we're just not in our own head about being bisexual and learn to also see it through the eyes of our fellow bisexuals and all with the understanding that it's not just about whatever opinioned you have - it's about what you've experienced and what you've learn and, hopefully, from reliable sources which, by the way, isn't social media. By now, you should be able to look past the dumb shit - all this social nonsense that's been going on since before a lot of us were even born - so that you can learn some truths about sex and sexuality that our morality would prefer we not know about.

 

Even today, I truly believe that are legions of both bisexual men and gay men who still have not "grasped" the big pictures; many times, the simple, common sense knowledge gets totally inundated with baseless myths, misinformation, and, of course, religious propaganda, which, as we all know, can be quite heartless, cruel, and hypocritical.

Here again, it is a wise move to LISTEN (and not DISMISS) to your "gut feelings", and simply to use your own common sense.

It ain't ALL that difficult, people.......BE YOURSELF, and to hell with any narrow-minded jerk who thinks otherwise.......

 

And, I'll wager this.......

The married, senior bisexual men who, today, enjoy a free, rewarding, and open sex life (on both sides of the fence) indeed did not reach their "advanced years" by being morons and idiots.........

 

Well, no - you don't get to enjoy this kind of success being an idiot and careless. The older you get, the more sense that things can make. You understand in the relationship that it's not just about you, that you both have needs that still requires tending to and if you're unable to handle them, there's nothing wrong with letting someone else take care of them because doing so isn't going to fuck up your relationship or make you love each other any less.
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Make no mistake: You can get to these advanced years and still be a moron and an idiot, which would tell me that you've learned nothing over the time of your life to date...

 

They often say: "With age, comes wisdom"

Indeed, true enough for many, but, somehow or other, totally evasive to those who cannot grasp the simplest of concepts, like being WHO you ARE, and WHAT you WANT to do with your life.

I've read in the past that, especially regarding married bisexual men, that "open marriages" go a long way in making things easisier for the husband.

Then, again, as in ANY situation, many "open marriages" are indeed NOT without their pitfalls, detours, twists, turns, and, sometimes, dead-ends; even I know this.

It's LIFE, my friends, pure and simple.....NONE of us was ever promised a happy, carefree life of rainbows, roses, and never-ceasing sunshine...................it's all simply coming to grapd with REALITY, and working with it as best you can............

 

An open marriage is just a different twist to the existing relationship and, as such, still has to be managed and maintained as if the relationship wasn't open. It makes things easier for the person who needed it to be open and it's not always the husband who needs it open - and if it gets opened, then it must benefit both partners. If you believe in the fairy tale that says you're supposed to get married and live happily ever after, then you're a fool for believing it and a bigger fool for not seeing that it's a socially conditioned lie that, sadly, women tend to believe more than men, but men believe it, too.

When they should know, believe and understand that your marriage is only going to be as good as both of you are willing to make it... and if you are willing, then bending or breaking some rules is warranted - and if you're not willing, well, good luck in your next relationship and if you manage to have another one.

 

Correct; the only places where folks "get married and live happily every after" are in story books and fairy tales; it is NOT real life, in any form or fashion.....believe it!

Just as you said, a marriage is only as good as both sposes put into it; all that DOES transpire HAS to be satisfactory to BOTH the husband AND the wife.

Of course, even then, NO relationship (straight/bi/gay) is without its ups and downs, its trials and tribulations.

And, in ANY relationship, there are going to FIGHTS.....ARGUMENTS.......DISAGREEMENTS........ALL a NORMAL part of ANY adult one-on-one relationship.

"Maturity", I also firmly and strongly believe, is the cornerstone for ANY serious relationship, regardless of the sexuality of those involved..........

 

Of course, there's going to be fights, arguments, stuff like that - it's a part of any relationship and so is agreeing to disagree. My first wife and I were in an open relationship, and we still fussed and fought like any other married couple - but we learned to not act like children about anything; get it out in the open, talk about it, resolve the issue, what's for dinner? Maturity is something you have to learn but the cornerstone of a relationship is open and honest communication; once communication fails, the relationship is on its way to being dead and buried. Maturity's lessons are hard to learn; one of them is being able to watch your wife having sex with someone else and she's enjoying herself in ways that she doesn't with you - but that's what you want her to do, to enjoy the sex she had asked for. Just because you get older doesn't mean that having that maturity is a given.

 

I could not agree more, regarding maturity and age.

Where I worked (for nearly 25 years), I saw more than my share of "mature" adults acting more like spoiled toddlers; I frequently witnessed childish tantrums exhibited my "high end" guys with grandchildren.

Over the years, I also saw grown men acting more like unbridled fratboys than responsible adults.

Again, as you so correctly stated, age and maturity do NOT always also walk down life's rocky road hand-in-hand.

There is "give-and-take" in ANY and EVERY relationship; equality in a marriage (or, for that matter, ANY adult relationship), I feel, is indeed a firm foundation for an understanding, mature relationship, especially where sexual relations are involved.........

 

Marriages or other relationships should never be about equality - they should be about equity. Equality is almost impossible to establish and maintain because people change over time and keeping up with those changes can be stupidly difficult and not all changes are likeable. Equity, however, is about what you put into the relationship and what you get out of it and the equity is easier to maintain and establish. Reality says that you cannot treat each other equally because you're two very different people - but it's a relationship mistake everyone makes.

 

Good comments, for certain.

Makes a good deal of sense....................

 

"Agree to disagree" makes a lot of sense; after all, NO couple is going to AGREE on EVERY point ALL the time; ditto with family and friends.

It is sheer nonsense to think that there will be NO "tensions" or disagreements in your marriage, as the years roll by.....it's all part of REALITY and everyday living.......NO marriage is immune from fights, arguments, and disagreements, large or small.

It is simply the REAL world of REAL married life....this AIN'T no storybook, people!