Bi men and aging

Of course. I recall that there's a reason why those statues had teeny weenies... but I forget what it is. Maybe a sign that cock size didn't mean anything when the artists created the statues; perhaps their main concern was finding a young and nubile guy to sink their prick into?

 

Funny you made that comment.

I had read, long time back, that many Greek and Roman soldiers would have sex with their brother soldiers, before going into battle.

I think I recall reading that this was to "strengthen" their battle skills/"solidarity".

OK, I'll be honest here........I always found those old gladiator movies "stimulating"......

 

I remember reading that as well when I was digging into any written history of homo- and/or bisexuality. Quite the relief to have learned that guys having sex with guys was pretty much the norm in a lot of cultures. Rites of passages into manhood and, um, just having sex because they could but then Christianity came along and sought to shut it all down... not that it really happened. Yep, solidarity of brothers in arms before going into battle was a great reason to have sex because you didn't know if you were coming back with your shield... or on it. I'm sure you liked those movies of half-naked gladiators... being gladiators.

 

Well, let's just say that I've watched "BEN-HUR" and "SPARTACUS" too many times to count, and leave it at that!

Many years back, I DID have a HOT vhs tape of guys through history getting at it HOT and HEAVY, starting with ancient Rome through WW2.

Oh, yes, the part where there two hot and hunky Roman Centurian/soldiers were REALLY getting at before a battle was hot enough to set off a smoke alarm, if they had them back then!

Totally agree; but, with the advent of Christianity and organized religions, well.........need I say more?

Look at all the older Bible scholars/theologins, who, despite their age (where's the wisdom that's supposed to be a part of their age?) who are forever suck in Old Testament mode and continue to spew fire and brimstone, regarding gays and bisexuals?

One might think, 24 years into the 21st century, that society MIGHT be a little more "enlightened" and tolerant.

In fact, I heard from a friend of mine from out West (CA) who also posts here, who said he is now "in my boat", meaning, he is now preferring to remain celibate (like myself) with too much sick homophobic shit taking place.

He even told me there has been a lot of shit happening where straight guys posing as gays go on gay dating sites, to "hook up" with some unsuspecting guy, only to rob and beat them....or worse.

My friend, in the past, had been in a brief relationship with another guy, but, sadly, this relationship did not last.

Like myself, he finds it much safer to just jack to porn.....and remain safe, instead of risking becoming a statistic.

Sad, sick, world..................I truly feel for the gay/bi teens growing up today.........how much more anti-gay/anti-bi will the world be when they become mature adults?

Damn shame.......no wonder so many young people have serious issues.............

 

The anti-homosexual shit has been with us for centuries and it's done nothing to eradicate it or bisexuality. This shit can't fuck with you if you don't allow it to and you just do what you gotta do, even if you have to take your lumps from time to time because that's just how life is. I feel sorrier for anyone who lets the social and moral bullshit stop them from being who they need to be... because the haters win.

 

Again, you make a great deal of sense; perhaps if I were of a bigger, more solid physical stature, and hadn't been so intensely bashed by my "friend"/co-worker back in 1986, I would think and act differently today.

I fight many battles alone, standing as straight and tall as I can, and retain my dignity.

Sure, I have no social or sex life whatsoever, BUT, at least I DO know that I will NEVER put myself in harm's way again, and am GUARANTEED that I will not be physically bashed, nor emotionally battered.

Again, I, ALONE made this decision, NO ONE forced me to live the life I do.

Yeah, it sucks, BUT, I don't bemoan my situation, and instead, focus on my interests, hobbies, and also, remain quite self-assured and comfortable that NO ONE will EVER hutry me again, in ANY way, manner, or form.

I just gotta "walk the walk" as best I can, and not have to depend on ANYONE (emotionally or physically), nor do I have to worry about putting myself into a dangerous situation...............

 

That can be a very lonely road, GrayGuy. I'm content with my own company and I too have maintained that independence for several years, in the past.
Not just sexually but so independent that the only people I chatted with were those I had to chat with such as shop assistants, delivery people etc.

Much better to have contact with fellow humans, provided they are humane. Most are, which can seem unlikely on occasions.
Please just bear in mind that the drop from maintaining healthy independence and being isolated and alone - in a cold lonely place - can happen suddenly.
I didn't 'go there' but I know a guy who did and he just a shadow of his former self and took a long time to get up again.

There's a different between being 'alone' and being 'lonely'. Lonely isn't good and should be avoided if at all possible.
my 2c.

 

You tell him, Bazz!

 

bazz:

I indeed do greatly appreciate your comments, my friend.....thank you.

But, as I was not only bashed by a guy I THOUGHT was my friend, I was also scarred very deeply emotionally several times in the past, by platonic buds who, out of the blue, stabbed me in the back for no reason whatsoever (and, to think, I was totally supportive and giving when one "friend" was battling cancer)

Believe me, this HURT deeply, especially as it came out of nowhere

I do talk to a few "long distance" friends a few times during the week (two of whom were co-workers), but that's about it.

I was NEVER a guy with an "attitude", trust me, BUT, today, I'm like: "No one's gonna fucking hurt ME again!"

The ONE guy whom I totally trusted was my best friend from work (he was much older than me, totally straight, and became another brother to me; we "bonded" deeply and had a lot of great times together, over the years.

He could not have cared less that I was gay.

Sadly, he lost his battle to a rare form of blood cancer, 14 years ago; I still miss him deeply.

He could ALWAYS be trusted and would NEVER stab me in the back, or hurt me in ANY way, God rest him.

To those gay/bi guys who do enjoy solid, trustworthy relationships with male friends, NEVER take what you have for granted.

You are far more fortunate than you know, believe me....................

 

Oh dear. Maybe I was too forthright, it certainly reads like that, to me.
Apologies GrayGuy, though I appreciate your response.

 

NO apologies needed, my friend, none at all.

You are most welcome to my response, and I also thank you for your concern..........

 

No doubt that my desire is getting stronger with age. I now find men sexually very attractive. I drool over their goegeous bodies. This is something I used to do looking at naked women. I still love women but it takes a man today to really turn me on. Sometimes I wonder if one can become gay with age. Were it not for my wife, I would be sucking cock every day.

 

The urges that bi married men (or even single bi men) to have sex with other men never evaporates as the years go by; if anything, in many cases, they grow still stronger.

The trick is to satisfy said urges without causing a major rift in your marriage.........

 

So true, it is not easy to remain happily married and at the same time lust for a male body. It is also asking a lot to have your wife allow you to have sex with men. Some have no problem with it and are very supportive. Mine has no problem for me to be bisexual. She is turned on by that idea in some sense. The active sex part is another story.

 

From the accounts I've read here from a number of other bi married men, it seems that there is no "middle ground", regarding wives and their bi husband's desire to have sex with other men.

Some are totally OK with it; others are like, "Well, OK, just don't tell me about what you do with other men, and don't neglect our sex lives".

These husbands are indeed the FORTUNATE ones.

I've read of some real "meltdown" stories where the wife goes totally off-the-wall, threatening divorce, and tearing families apart.

It CAN get PRETTY ugly, for certain.

In any event, it is often far, far from easy, being a bi male with a wife, and trying to enjoy relations with other men without destroying your marriage.

Indeed, a bi married male often has to pay a VERY steep price for just trying to be honest with his feelings and urges, without turning the world upside-down......

 

i've become the same way. back in the day, i got so turned on by women, but these days it takes a man to really get me going while women don't do it for me as much. not sure why that is

 

Perhaps, it's a case of "with age comes wisdom"?

 

or perhaps "with age comes a craving for cock and male ass, and a realization that pussy isn't worth the hassle"

 

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VERY valid observation, my friend, and WELL said!