Big girls (again)

You need to get a therpist that understands people like you. It would help you alot becuase you put way too much importance in physical aperiance and they way other people see you.

 

I tried and tried it as well and then found a really good one last Spring, who empowered me to become a strong person who stopped getting angry all the time and started to stick up for herself in a healthy way.

I went through at least 10 people before I found the one therapist that I clicked with and who could help me.
Maybe eventually you'll find somone who could really help you out. I mean they may just listen at first but after a few months when they know you well enough they can give you advice on how to bring that great person out of it's shell

 

see chris, now you are getting advice in a very sweet way from a few females, take it

 

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what if instead of toughness you classified youself as strong? Strong men are not mean or degrading, but they do stick up for themselves. Tough men tend to me the ones we envision with low self-esteem who are over compensating.

Who are you living in this world for? You or what people will think of you? Think you'll be happy with that choice looking back on your youth?

 

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sorry, but to be honest you come across like an idiot right now, and have no hope of anything good happening.

Intelligence and wise thinking would tell you to see a psychologist to deal with this alienating and all consuming problem you have so you can love yourself, and eventually attract and fall in love with a woman. Its not going to happen as you are now.

You put on a front to impress an image on people you don't even like

just brush it off when some asshole makes a comment, as someone has said, be a better person and better people will be attracted you

 

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Ok.... wow... that was unexpected. An occupational therapist does not have the ability nor should they diagnose a pations. An occupational therapist is a secondary therapist. They are there to help learn skills and coping wich is very helpful but I can't believe that they diagnosed you. You need a psychologist. If you pm me with a location I can tell you where to start looking.

 

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your life, how you act ans who you want to become is in your power. don't give bullies, a bad childhood or even mother nature the power to take over you becoming a healthy person.

The fact is what you are doing now is not working for you and for some reason you are afraid to change it. I don't know you so I can't say what that reason is.
I really urge you to dig down deep inside yourself and let your heart shine through, and crack that shell that encompasses it, instead of building it thicker and thicker.
you're going to do what you want, you're a grown man, so I am going to leave this thread but I do hope you take the steps you need to take to lead a healthy and happy life.
lots of hugs

 

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She's could be a great indoor athlete, give her a chance.
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Dude if I remember, you are studing to be a profesional.

Profesional people don't do stare-downs, that shit is for chavs and toughs.
Folks with kids, a mortgage, ect dont have the luxury of behaving
in that manner.

 

This gurl sounds so sexy!

 

I see a man without a problem
I see a country always starved
I hear the music of a heartbeat
I walk and the people turn and laugh.

Is it in my head ?
Is it in my head ?
Is it in my head here at the start?
is it in my head
is it in my head
is it in my head or in my heart?

I pick up phones and hear my history.
I dream of all the calls ive missed.
I've tried to number those who love me
find our exactly what the trouble is.

Is it in my head? ect.

I feel I'm being followed
My head is empty
Yet every word I say turns out a sentence
Statements to a stranger
Asking for directions
Turn form being help to being questions

Pete Townsend 1973 Fabulous Music Ltd.

 

You
were under the impression
that when you were walking foreward
You'd end up further onward
but things aint quite that simple

You got altered information
you were told to not take chances
you missed out on new dances
Now you'r losing all your dimples

My jacket's gonna be cut slim and checked
maybe a touch of seersucker with an open neck
I ride a GS scooter with my hair cut neet
I wear my war time coat in the wind and sleet,

Love reign over me.


Get a job and fight to keep it
strike out to reach a mountain
Be so nice on the outside
but inside keep ambition

Don't cry because you hunt them
hurt them first they'll love you
There's a millionaire above you
and your under his suspicion.

I've had enough of dancehalls
I've had enough of pills
I've had enough of street fights
I've seen my share of kills
I'm finished with the fashions
and acting like I'm tough
I'm born with hate and passion
I've had enough of trying to
Love.

Pete Townsend 1973 Fabulous Mucic Ltd.

 

awe you're a sweetheart thanks

 

i'm a nice guy, but i'm not soft in the sense of what your talking about being soft is - i'm far from being a pushover... i'm soft in the sense that i dont' need to overpower anyone, don't need to act like i'm tough, where i can comfort others or atleast try. you dont' lose anything by being a nice guy. let people call me a fag or gay or a moron or whatever else they will say - i dont' need to be involved with them, unless they physically threaten me, otherwise all the name calling is useless because i dont' care for there opinions of me.

you don't lose your intelligence from being a nice guy, i'm actually smarter now that i'm a nice guy. i have more time to spend on learning instead of worrying about some of the things you are worrying about.

 

perfectly put

 

please don't turn to alcohol to solve your problems. i've been there, its not a road you want to be on, not at all. thats how i tried solving my problems, it didn't work, it made everything worse.

if you asked my friends how long it took for me to open up to them, they would say a couple of years for me to fully open up to them. it takes time and a lot of hard work looking deep inside of yourselfl. i was throwing everything away with drinking. once i stopped, i was able to open up. i talked to females, i was scared to tell my male friends, absolutely terrified. but you know what happened when i did? they've been nothing but supportive.

theres nothing wrong with opening up, it takes time...may take a long time, but you'll be better off working hard at it instead of taking the road towards alcoholism.