body image issues

I hate my body type because it's not feminine. I only gain weight in the middle. When I'm at my skinniest, I like my body allright. Actually people bitch cause they say I have a hollywood body (I can get kinda skinny looking) but I don't have much hips at all and not much boobs either, and lets face it, what does everyody talk aout and what do most guys want? big boobies or junk in the trunck. Plus, I can't gain weight at all. (I can, I mean I can't LET myself) You know how some people can gain a little weight if they gain it in their hips or butt or something? You know you still look cute if your hips or butt get slightly bigger, or even if it's just a little thigh fat. But if I gain weight at all my slight waist indentation is the first thing to go. Right now I'm very self concious because I'm still trying to lose baby fat (its the hardest fat to lose, am I right ladies? lol)

 

Personally I think little pot bellies can be kind of hot on womyn. Look at the Venus de Milo.

 

haha.... thanks guys

 

I am very unforgiving about my own body, though I am very forgiving for other people, I just feel like I'm supposed to be skinny because that is what people expect of me, but I don't judge other peoples bodies that are more voluptious(sp) to be unattractive.


I think many body types are very attractive, but I won't accept that of myself, or at least I wouldn't before I got help, I sometimes find myself hating my body and thinking I'm fat, when I know I'm not, but because I did gain a lot of weight when I was in the hospital and I'm still thin, but I don't try to lose weight anymore, and I pretty much eat a few times everyday.

So I'm not starving myself anymore and that's good, but instead I've switched from anorexia/binge-eater to normally eating well and sometimes binging, I only do it when I have nothing else to do, but I try to control it and I'm doing pretty well, considering how I was in December, very, very sick.

 

i don't understand why people find paris (and j lo and that type) so hot. i think they look slutty. i find women who are natural and not coated in makeup and silly fluffy glammy clothing much more attractive.

 

I've always had a hate relationship with my body...It's tough being a fat girl in today's society...Those pictures of skinny women, actresses, models and the like...it takes its toll on my self-esteem...

But everyday, I look in the mirror and I tell myself that I HAVE to be upbeat...I have to enjoy myself...Because I have to set an example for all the other younger fat girls who know me...They don't need to see someone who's down about their body...who think that it's all about being what society tells you to be...It's bullshit...So I look pretty, wear clothes that fit, flirt with all the cute boys, and I throw myself out there...And being confident makes me love my body...It's a crap body really...but I know how to move it to make the boys stare (in appreciation, not morbid curiosity)...

But it's taken a very long time to get to this point...And I still have a very difficult time relating to other women...and being around and flirting with one boy....that I can't do...I hate to think of what he's thinking of me...:&

 

now if only i could get myself to believe that...

*hippyfreek2004 i love your sig

 

thanks so much, KJ...

 

I'm glad I went through your gallery before I read that, because I would have looked at you differently. Your pictures don't convey the above sentiments at all. I couldn't believe you were just 15 and already acting so mature about your body in the exposing pictures you had in there... you were my heroine up until I read this! Baby, Paris Hilton is quite possibly the ugliest person I've ever seen, and I really mean that. You are sooooooo much hotter in my book.

This might be a big leap, but try and stay with me; physical ideology is fascism.

fascism- n : a political theory advocating an authoritarian hierarchical government (as opposed to democracy or liberalism)

Physical ideology CANNOT, no matter how hard you try, be isolated from politics. I can't write volumes about it here, but just break down that definition, and try to relate that to body images in todays society. In a nutshell, Paris Hilton is the Euro-American prototype of what is considered perfect, and if that means being a stick skinny bleach blonde, then you have to ask yourself what society is saying to you. When I realized how racialized the western physical prototype is, I realized that I was desecrating my being- my skin, my culture, my heritage, my intelligence, my individuality, my very ESSENCE- by buying into that. The girls who model their lives and bodies after Paris Hilton and other airhead prototypes are destroying more than their own individuality, they are contributing to an even more fascist society.

I'm nowhere near as secure with myself as I should be, but at least I know the truth. And I like your brown skin, and your NATURALLY brown eyes

 

id have to say honneyhannah is one of the hottest girls on the planet, but the pics ive seen of KJ and nisha give her a run for her money. as far as junk in the trunk or big boobs, i kinda like the opposite, but thats me . . . looks arent so important, its very good to be in relatively good shape, but the depth in your eyes and a nice lovey personality is waht gets a guy like me. of course, no one wants a guy like me, but eh, oh well, i can survive.

 

BTW, Holly, I LOVE the art in your sig.

 

THANKS! So do I...

 

sleepy_ashes, how much tail have you gotten with lines like that?

I love men who love women (most men don't).

 

ok. rant time.

...and yet most women in north america are overweight!!! if you want to look like those skinny models you see, here's something to remember : DUCT TAPE AND PLASTIC WRAP!!!!!!!!! now, granted these model freeks are still smaller than we real women think is fair, but those two little things are a big part of their glam. now. the media wants you to think you need to be like them so you will buy buy buy and then they become rich rich rich. BUT you will never be like them and why would you want to be? they starve themselves and obsess over their looks. because once they are gone, poof. thats it. what do they have left? bear in mind too that all those little highschool and college girls you might envy with the perky boobs and tiny bums who prance around like they are better than paris herself are most likely gonna get hitched, have babies, get fat with pear bottom syndrom and saggy boobs. their looks are gone by thirty. SO. love who you are!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! be who you are meant to be!!!!!!!!!!!! you are a beautiful woman!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! each and every one of you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! grrrr!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

ok, rant done.



sorry

 

I'm happy with my body for the most part, and I don't try to over-eat to get bigger, or under-eat to get skinnier. But my friends always tell me I'm too skinny, and compare me to one of my other friends and say how much better looking she is cuz shes not as skinny as I am, and that I don't have curves/"have curves like a stick", and that they don't like girls who are as skinny as I am, etc... So, sometimes it makes me feel bad about myself. It makes me feel like I'm an alien or something

 

do you tell them how you feel about this? thats not cool. you are who you are and they should love you as you are.

 

Your friend sucks, girlie.

 

Hahaha, actually NONE. That's my honest to goodness opinion, I wouldn't exploit it for some action. I have a lot of issues being myself, so the action is more of a lack there of.

But thanks none the less friend.

 

I used to have much worse body image issues than I do now. I realized after awhile it's just not worth it. I still am improving my body (I work out!). I used to be quite heavier. I was miserable. Now, I'm pretty happy. Would like to get rid of a lil more of my tummy but other than that I'm happy with everything. Everyone nit picks themselves. We are our worst critics. I was still pretty uncomfy & made a bold move. I posed nude for my friend's art class. That was really scary at first, but once I was confortable it was fine. I had fun with it. It was really empowering. My friend drew some beautiful pictures of me. Plus, I've noticed that even really hot people don't realize how attractive they are. So, that made me feel a lil better about the situation.

 

I grew up hearing my mother complain about her body, so i think it rubbed off on me. We are big up top.... and can get big in other areas easily. All of the males in the family are big time hockey players... so basically, I am built like a defense man with tits. I have shoulders that are as big, or bigger than most men.

Now, I am fine with my body.. it's not the best, but it's not the worst. And I know if I spent a little more time at the gym (okay.. if i spent any time at the gym) it would be a lot better, but there are so many beautiful things in life, and I have yet to encounter any of them inside a gym.

My biggest problem with my body was that I grew breasts the summer before grade 5. By grade 7, I was a double d. It sucked, and I was terriably self conscience of them. And, co-ed gym class didn't help any. But eventually the other girls caught up, and I quit being known as "the chick with the massive tits". They are still massive, but I've learnt to deal with it, and look for the positive things. Like, sure, I can never find a button up shirt that fits without gaping, or wear a cute apron top, but I can really fill out a sweater. hehe.

I think every female has, at one point or another, had a disagreement with some part of her body.... be it boobs, butt, waist, or left eyebrow. As others have said, the key to it all is just learning to accept who you are.

It also helps to laugh about it... for example, in my teens I compiled a list of 101 good things about having large breasts. I can shelter small children under my breasts during a rain storm, or I can save money on dry cleaning, because only the top half of any shirt gets dirty, or if my shoes don't match it's not my fault.