Bullies

Retirement homes? I'm trying to visualize it... :rofl: I probably shouldn't laugh, but...

I hope that people that age are not nearly as emotionally fragile as they were at 15. If they are still extremely petty and immature, that means they never got over middle school. They got stuck in that mode. It must suck to be them.

For most of us, we will never experience a more socially intense pressure cooker than a public high school or middle school. And it couldn't come at a worse time, because we are all immature, self-centered, unsure about who we are and what we want to be, and our world revolves around friendships with the same people who compete with us for everything, five days a week.

Later on, we spend most of our time and energy on work and family. Our self-image and self-worth don't depend so much on the feedback we get from other people. Friends can't be any higher than third on the priority list, and we have more control over the kind of people we spend time with. It isn't as random as high school. We also learn and use adult social skills, hopefully.

If I'm unlucky enough to end up in a retirement home someday with people who act immature and mean, I hope that I'll still be mentally together enough to not care what they think. If not, that will mean that I've forgotten everything I know about life. I don't want to live long enough to go all the way back to square one.

 

Yesterday, I met a pitiful person at tennis. I would never be forward about my disdain for her, but I'm glad as hell she'll never be my friend. She is the type person that 1-would get bullied 2-will have very few friends. As a person gets more isolated, they become more withdrawn, and more of a target. I feel sorry for the kids/adults that are/were not taught skills. What a disservice their parents did. Although if you look at the parent, you totally get why the kid/adult is so awkward.

 

You sound like a pitiful person.

It's quite true that as people get bullied many will withdraw, this is what the bully wants. It's the incorrect response but quite natural.

You sound like a part of the problem, not the solution.

 

Why thank you for appreciating the reality. Not all people are likable. You're a perfect example. Oh and btw, notice how your post is far more bullying than mine.

 

awkward people are usually wonderfully funny and smart, not to mention unique, if one can only get over their own snobbish attitude and take the time to get to know them.

 

Yes they are funny and smart with no skills at letting others get to know them.

 

i'm socially awkward.

 

I don't understand people who try to make darwinism apply to people. Its like when people like to pick and choose what they want to believe from the bible. Either everything is true or none of it. If Darwinism applies to people then it's ok to kill other people to get what u want it's ok to steal the things u want. It doesn't apply to people because we have created a society that includes all people not just one group so we live with people from all walks of life. To make it work we all need to get along with each other or at least treat others how we want to be treated.

 

Darwinism doesn’t address every aspect of bullying nor should it but it does explain away some behavioral aspects, :2thumbsup:


hotwater

 

Bullying, that can go on in nursing homes, can be from the caregivers to the residents. Caregivers earn minimum wage and can take their frustration out on residents who are not able to defend themselves. It is called elder abuse. It really is not a laughing matter.

 

my grandmother used to talk about this one women who would pick on the other ladies at the retirement home, they have their clicks there just like in high school.

in my opinion the best song about bullys ever
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zpGyUKiWens"]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zpGyUKiWens

 

Sometimes you have to meet people a little more than halfway.

That is a completely different thing from ordinary bullying. Employees who behave that way should be fired, and in some cases, prosecuted. These facilities can lose their licenses if they fail to take action.

I thought we were talking about the way that the residents treated each other.

 

I agree. Bullies come in all shapes, ages and forms.

 

I don't really recall ever being actually bullied in my life before. There have been a few slight minor times, but that's only because i went to an all brown/black school pretty much and i was one of the only few white kids lol. Every class had about 30 kids in it, and out of those 30 kids there were usually only 2-3 white people per class, and there were many classes where i was the only one. So for that reason i did get a little excluded from some of the groups that were a little racist... but most of the people were pretty chill and didn't care what color i was.

I was like the person that nobody really hated yet nobody really loved, i was just in the middle minding my own business, and hung out with all the other people just like me that were in the same position.

But now that i'm out of school, i work with a few brown people now and the second i told them what school i went to they were like "holy shit?! what the fuck man?!" and they have the utmost respect for me now i went to the shitties school ever, one year a person got stabbed right outside, a kid got maced, a kid got tazered, we had lockdowns pretty much every single week, and this one year two girls got shot at by a guy driving by in a truck, luckily the guy missed. My school was so fucked up due to all these retarded kids acting as if they grew up in the hood and were all "gangster" yet in reality they're all rich spoiled kids who listened to a bit too much rap...

 

It was just the reverse for me; I was the only black kid in an all-white school and was never bullied. I suppose it helped being an athlete.

I remember looking into the eyes of this one kid after a reverse dunk on the basketball court and the expression on his face was complete awe. That pretty much sums up my experience in school. I dated only white girls but there was no sign of animosity among my peers. I was a good student with mostly Bs and a few As but nothing special.


Hotwater

 

Yeah, I was. That docu showed some really dreadful situations. Old people that got there as a loner and because they are not as likeable for whatever reason they got excluded from the group and had to hear mean remarks about them (generally behind the back of the caregivers). It seemed pretty similar like kids bullying. I was suprised and appalled but yeah old people can be at least as childish and cruel when they give way to their pitiful emotions.

 

Is it still bullying if people are talking bad about u and like discussing u behind ur back and u have no idea it's going on but everyone seems to know u and stuff about u. I remember people going oh yeah my friends and I were talking about u the other day or oh yeah ur that one bla bla I remember I didnt like it

 

I had no clue you were black after all this time, i just saw 'New England' and assumed white right off the bat

my school was pretty much like if you were black/brown and into sports and rap you were automatically cool and had a bunch of friends, even if you couldn't play the sports or rap. And if you were white you were mainly the nerdy kid that brings his DS to school and plays pokemon at lunch hahaha, but i wasn't really either... was never into sports, and didn't hang out with the nerdy pokemon kids lol, i was like the mediocre chill stoner kid that got along with everyone, had a shit load of aquaintinces, but no actual group i belonged too... i liked it. lol

 

I blew up a few too many times at people picking on other people, so I didn't really have a problem with bullies past junior high. When they did pick on me, I quickly shut them down, so I didn't have a problem myself. But those poor kids with lower self-esteem don't really know how or have the guts to stand up for themselves and that just tears them down even further. Some kids can tough it out and rise above bullying, but some kids can't. I don't have any solution to bullying, I just think it's really sad that it pushes some kids off the edge.

 

It is bullying if it's lies about you that are being spread behind your back.