Butter's Girl Issues...Again

Probably very good advice right there... although I wouldn't really know.

 

maybe she feels the same way you do, and she's scared/nervous too! don't worry. keep the door open!

 

What you said about her is very nice shed be very lucky to have a guy that cares about her as much as you seem too. Just keep trying, and be there for her if she is sad, and make her realize how much you care, dont scare her off though, telling her you want to spend the rest of your life with her, may or may not be good. It may make her nervous, but then again i dont know her personaly lol. And i know this sounds weird, but try to act less interested cuz a lot of times girl dont like that, try to play hard to get i dont know her, but personaly it works for me, a guy that plays hard to get makes you want them more. Good luck though she will come around hopefully, and if shes smart she will.

 

Well thank you, I appreciate that. She's an amazing girl and I truly care about her, and I just wish I could get her to see that...

 

I'm happy again, all! Well, she came over last night to watch a movie, so she's hanging out with me again. Problem was, There was other people, so we wern't alone, so I couldn't really say anything. BUT, the way she was acting last night, I think I'm pretty sure now that she is interested. At least I'm more sure of myself that she is now, then before. I took your advice, and didn't seem to desperate. She actual called me, not the other way around, so possibly that says something...So, hopefully something will happen this week. Any other advice on how I should handle this without screwing up?

 

Butters, were I in your position, my nerves woulda been churnin a mighty storm, so it's good to hear you've managed to keep your wits about you! As far as what else to do... I'd just try really hard to find some sort of resolution. She comes over to watch a movie and you have friends there, so the next time; why not kick em out before she gets there? Or when she's leaving, walk her out the door, or back to her room; whatever, just find a way to make that "moment" happen. And when you get that moment to happen, I'd be almost non-chalant about it, tell her you kinda like her and she seems to kinda like you; and ask her if she would like to go out sometime. Simple enough, right? Dependent upon her answer, you've not said too much, and should be able to react accordingly.

Wishin ya the best of luck!

 

i stand beside my previous post...

 

I've actually tried that. I've walked her back plenty of times, but that "moment" just never seems to happen. Its so wierd. She seems that she likes me alot, I can just tell. But right when I think the "moment" will happen, it never does. Whever we're in a group, she laughs at my jokes, and talks to me when I talk to her, but she never seems to start anything with me, and juts seems to talk to everyone else for some reason. So then you all might just so "so, she doesn't like you, get over it." It's hard to understand maybe, but I really think that she does. I just don't understand why she seems to like me, but then doesn't. Ugh, its just so complicated! I'm trying you guys, I am! I want something to work so bad, as nothing ever has with me but, I don't know. I just don't understand it, I'm so nice to her, but I just don't seem to get anywhere...

 

Chicks are like light-switches.

on...

off...

on...

off...
If you make a move she should make up her mind.

 

So then, you guys do still think she digs me? She seems to...at least that's what I assume. Well, minor setback in my plans, I'm sick! Caught myself a nasty cold so I don't think I'll be making a move for a little while now!

 

Girls are very complicated, I should know I am one

Okay, I am going to be honest with ya only to help...

People can sense low self esteem and to some thats a turn off for them. You should be more positive about things, instead of putting your head down and saying, things never work out for you. Put your head up and be happy and proud. Lets say this girl only likes you as a friend? Of course it sucks and hurts a little but you cant let things like that interfer with your life, happiness and your esteem. I dont know if any of this makes sense, I cant explain things that well, as you can tell...
Good luck with everything, ~kayla

 

See, here's my problem. The best way to show you have high self-esteem is to just say what you feel. I should just tell her I really like her. But, I'm so dang worried that if I do, she might stop being my friend. I'm truly in love with her, but I don't want to risk losing her as a friend by saying something, so that's my main fear.

 

Just tell her, Butters!!!

 

Yeah, just tell her. If she stops being your friend then honestly, you are better with out.
Atleast when you tell her, you will know that you did something you were afraid to do, you took a chance, and to me that is one great feeling, and you will feel as though you didnt hold anything back. And you would have some proudness(is that even a word, should have said pride ) for yourself..

 

HAHA, I'll get that "re re" sticker to you asap.

 

hehe yeah, I dont know where I got proudness, sounded like a word to me
haha and I have a job editing and proofing stuff...now thats special hehe

 

hey butters , your sig in combination with this thread is driving me crazy! fact is, you have the unlucky task of being the guy here, and you're just going to have to make "the moment" happen. get ahold of her by the wrist and stop her in the street for a minute - or write I LIKE YOU on a note and hand it to her , then you 'll have to talk about it. just interrupt her right in the middle of a sentence if necessary. next time you feel the words rising in your throat, let them come out. i like " I have to tell you something" .

trust me man , you dont want to be thinking about this girl five years from now. i know this for a fact. i also know that if you hold flowers behind your back for too long, they will die. dont worry about saying the wrong thing too much. if she likes you, she should overlook your stumbling tounge.

get well soon.

 

Well, sorry to dissapoint everyone, but I'm done. I just give up. Nothing so far has worked. Everytime I try to say something, other people come, or she starts talking to others, or whatever. So, maybe she just doesn't like me, right? Well, no one else ever has either, nor will they. No matter what I do, no matter what I say, girls will never like me. Always, I'm pushed aside by guys who look better than me. Well fine, then I'm done. I might as well just throw in the 'ole towel and give up. At this rate, I'm going to be single for as long as I live. She doesn't exactly have her eye on anyone else, its just the fact that I'm tired of this bullshit of acting like she likes me, but then someone else comes along and suddenly, I'm second-rate. I can't ever say that I like her, because I can never get her alone. She will call me and ask if we've eaten yet today, and I'll say no, and that I'm hungry, and my roomate is gone. Oh, then suddenly she's not hungry anymore and doesn't want to eat. What?! Well, I'm done. I've wasted too much of my life looking for something I'll never have, so I might as well just accept it and move on.

 

Right, you are chasing after her, and she knows she's in the lead...hey, maybe you make a nice back-up....in the event that a young attractive girl ever needs one


Some day, and maybe within the near future, you'll meet a girl who might not blow you away in the first hour you know her, but something good, and more balanced might come from........

 

Well thanks for the kind words, but I just don't really think it'll happen. I don't know, but it just seems I'm one fo those guys who will never find somebody. Nothing ever works out for me, and I'm getting really depressed being alone like this. I could be wrong, I hope I'm wrong, but I just don't know right now.