Can I accept the condom?

Get rid of her. Why would anyone stay in a relationship where the woman isn't taking the responsibility to protect herself? No man should have to wear condoms should they, it should be down to the woman to take medication

 

I hate finding threads I can reply to only to discover the problem's been resolved... :sad:

Regardless, my advice would have been to try one of those "sensitive" condoms. I don't know what makes it sensitive, I figure it's just thinner or something.
It's good that you two could talk about it and you shouldn't feel guilty that she's decided to take the pill but if it really does bother you then try that talking thing again so you can both be reassured about who wants what and why who's doing what.
Failing that it may be time to visit the "Real Kinky" forum and learn to start compensating for the lack of feeling in other ways

 

No worries Gadget your reply is welcome and never late. I've already tried the 'sensitive' ones and it's still far from the 'real' deal. I think I read this funny but true statement about the use of a condom on these forums;

"Wearing a condom is the same as taking a shower with a rain coat on."

I love that one.

@ChronicTom,

I don't think guilt is the right word for the feelings I have towards her change of mind. Guilt is a lot different from just feeling it's the wrong reason. Maybe I feel this way because I seem to have a very dominate presence towards her. She ALWAYS waits for me, and she lets me decide every step in the relationship - which I like. It seems she'll do anything for me, but when It comes to her own body and swallowing a pill it should be her own true will of decision; just as you're putting it yourself; I can't control her, or at least I shouldn't.

 

You may have the most dominating presence in the world, but unless you are actively trying to stop her from making decisions on her own (which it doesnt sound like you are), then you are not responsible for her decisions, even when that decision is to do what you want.

 

I find it hard to believe that you can't feel anything. Like someone else said, try some of the super thin condoms. Put a little bit of lube in the tip of it before you roll it on - that will help.

 

I don't see this relationship working out long term. You need something she is not able or willing to give.

But there are a number on non-barrier methods of birth control. If she's not willing to give one of them a try, I think you will continue to be disappointed and it will kill the relationship eventually anyway.

Sex is too important in a relationship to settle for less than you need.

 

I don't understand what the big problem is with condoms. I mean, I think sex is great between me and my partner. I will admit though, condoms DO make a difference in terms of feeling. I can only vouch for anal in that regard, however, I still don't think that condoms are a show breaker. And, if you loved her, you shouldn't care about that. I know that when me and my girlfriend are having sex, my number one concern is her pleasure.

 

She told me she's going on the pill so I'll be getting what I wanted in the first place Call me mr. happy..

I'm concerned about her pleasure as well, but I don't love her at this point in time. The relationship is still relatively new.

 

if youre ever in this situation again i would say just get a vasectomy. Especially because to me you just seem like a big baby who can't get over using a condom. No guy likes using a condom but they shop around and find one that makes it enjoyable still. You were thinking about dumping the girl before trying out different condoms, jeez.

 

It's funny how most men and women each have a different opinion about it.

I've already tried different condoms and it's all just the same. I tried again last night, and guess what!? My dick went slappy cause I didn't feel anything, and she went laughing.

I'd rather have no sex at all than having to use a condom. Men are different, some can feel a lot I guess, some not. I'm one of those who can feel almost nothing.

 

I would be ready for side effects though. I've been on the pill forever and it drops your sex drive big time.

And I don't think it's just the girls job to take the pill, so when she decides to take a break from it for her health shut up, be a man and use a fuckin' rubber.