Can someone tell me..

I thought that was the point of letting her drive in the first place :sunny:

 

Meh, I never expect the man to pay, even if he insists. It makes me sort of uncomfortable (especially if I am familiar with his financial standing, and it isn't secure), but I appreciate the thought.

 

my girlfirend and i are both poor as fuck. she's a student and i'm unemployed. we pool our money, buy whisky, get shit-faced and then go out somewhere cheap and loud. i think if i offered to buy a posh meal for her in a restaurant she'd laugh at me.

chivalry and chauvinism are luxuries we can't afford, or can't be arsed to bother with.



leaving aside the sexual politics of it for a moment, i suppose there are different dynamics, i think a lot of it depends on age, if you're with someone from when your in school or university, you know each others budgets a lot better, and you're used to trying to have a good time on zero budget, its what you do. the emphasis is less on money and more on creativity, working around having no money, finding shit you can do on the cheap, that's the game you play. meet someone for the first time in your late twenties or thirties, maybe the emphasis is a lot more on demonstrating the amount of money you have, as being an indicator of your career/standing etc. there's a lot more bravado and, if we're being honest, deception involved. A lot of it appears to be putting up a front, projecting a more desirable image of yourself on a date with a stranger. if someone's known you for a long time before you date them, then trying to big yourself up in their eyes is kind of a waste of time/impossible.

 

It's social convention that the person who does the asking out pays. Why? Because you're asking. It's usually the guy that does the asking which I think is the root of the annoyance for men. Not that they might have to pay for 2 meals and only eat one, but that they are stuck running around chasing tail all the time while women just wait for men to come to them.

One of these days I'm gonna ask a guy out on a date and buy him dinner.


---Edit---
I didn't actually read the thread and see that "my" response was already given several times, most especially in the previous post.

 

You fail at irony. Just like you fail at macho.

 

One of the nicest things that ever happened to me was when this gorgeous girl came up to me,and after initial eye contact and assessment, said "Do you want a relationship." We fell in love and stayed together for about three years.I also had a Jewish princess who paid for everything;restaurants,hotels and holidays.I'm single now,but unhappily so.My one close female friend is a born-again Christian,and although I have tender feelings for her,I just can't fall in line for that.