Candy no longer talks with me

Hey Ajay0.

Have you seen the film?:

 

I do not have an intense dislike of you and how you can come to that assumption over one particular post just bemuses me. I am quite perplexed to by honest by your behaviour and also your attitude, In my honest and experienced opinion all you are interested in is you, you do not appear to have any concept of the world outside of your little bubble, we ALL have problems, some much much more significant than yours, yet YOU are the one who constantly feels the need to tell in great detail the minutiae of all your problems.
I would strongly recommend that you seek professional advice regarding your issues because you will not find the help you need here, for the simple reason that you are for whatever reason either unwilling or incapable of taking the advice given to you by people perfectly able to advise you. I'm sad to say it but I am once again reminded of your posts about suicide, now every so often you post up about how depressed you are and how badly you want to end it all. You then get people giving you advice but because it isn't the advice you want, or it isn't going to change your life instantly you choose to ignore it. Then you start posting about how much alcohol you have drunk or how many tablets you have taken, conveniently none of which is enough to present any threat to your life.
Unfortunately for you my friend, I know your gameplan, you are one of those individuals who is constantly seeking attention and that is wrong, It is probably best that you do not have a girlfriend because you are the type of person who, should she want to end the relationship, would immediately threaten to harm yourself in an attempt to make her stay with you, it is called emotional blackmail!
I have unfortunately known several people who have taken their own lives, and believe me, not one of them gave any indication of their intention to do it, one day they were with us and the next they were dead, just like that, one of whom was actually my brother, please do not misjudge me or take me for a fool, because that is one thing I am not, If I dislike anyone I tell them, simple as.

 

What if someone beats me up to the death when I am blackout drunk? I put myself in dangerious conditions when I am blackout drunk. People don't like me and I don't like them either. I got beaten up when I was drunk. Brow went off, 10 stitches were put. Also one time, a car hit me when I was blackout drunk. However it wasnt serious. When I started remembering things, there were police around me telling me that a car hit me. I dont remember anything myself. But it must have hit slowly since I had a very little injury. Nothing important. I dont remember anything myself. I was blackout drunk. I must have walked to the car road when blackout drunk. Also another time I fell passing out in the street when I was blackout. Once again a lot of stitches were put around my eye. I was using glasses back then and when I fell passing out drunk, the glasses must have cut my face. Around my eye. I cannot remember anything myself. And one time after I drank, I sobered up in police station and spent the night in the lock up. I dont remember anything. Nothing at all. I sobered up in police station.

I learnt the reason in the police station after I started sobering up, which was that I broke the electrical panel of a neighbor in the same floor after I argued with him. I dont remember anything as I said. I stayed the night in the lock up, police station. It was a few days after I had a shoulder dislocation.

 

Drunks and people who can't take their drink are a pain in the arse, I've seen so many drunks involved in car accidents where an innocent person has died and yet they come happily staggering out of it with only minor scratches, the best way to avoid injury is to allow the body to go floppy, which is exactly what happens when you get drunk
The main question is WHY you feel the need to get drunk so badly, believe me NOBODY.ever found the answer to their problems at the bottom of a bottle. Whatever problems you are having YOU are going to have to work on them, I have PTSD, I've had it for over 40 years although I only found out what it was fairly recently, yes I've been to therapy sessions, yes I'm a lot better than I was, but I will never be 100% cured I learn to live with it, as the old saying goes, you think your hard done to wearing badly fitting shoes, until you meet a man with no feet!
Go away and think about that one and when you understand it you may be on the road to learning a little more about yourself, good luck.

 

Candy Girl is a long time member on here, she's really nice and will try and offer help and advice to anyone who needs it, unfortunately she's having problems of her own at the minute and a certain person is sulking because he isn't getting enough attention. lol

 

I am 30 despite the people on forum that think I am older when I post my pictures.

I have a few friends but we dont meet often. I live alone at home. Mother died 3 years ago at the age of 46 and father lives in a different city, which is far. We don't talk. We don't like each other. I am his idiot, drunkard son.

He made an another child with an another woman. I hope this one won't be an idiot like the previous one.

 

This Candy as you put it, is a lovely Woman I have known in forums for around 8 years.
Her threads and posts all try and make this forum a happier and fun place to be.
Candy Gal is a credit to the forum, as she is a breath of fresh air here whenever she is around.

You my friend obviously don’t know either what or who you are talking about.
But I do know we’re your talking out of.
May I respectfully suggest that you stick a plug up your arse right now!

Please note people.
No offence is meant to Willy!

Cheers.

 

The problem with Candy is that she tries to spread her love too much around the forum ,When she can't do it some people notice.And that's the position we are in at the moment. For once she has had to place herself and her family first ,which is the right thing to do .

I am sure that once this situation is rectified that normal service will resume .

Like many others on here I love her to bits xx xx xx

 

These are my thoughts almost exactly, but I have persistently tried to advise him one step at a time and all to no avail. I have little doubt that he is alone and feels very isolated, but rather than join in on all the threads that we are discussing and add some input, he chooses to dismiss his opportunity to become part of our little community.

 

What do you mean you have little doubt that I am alone? I live alone.

 

The home was bought by grandfather (mother's father) who is dead now. I used to live with mother and step father but mother is also dead now. And step father went away after mother died.

Father (real one) lives far away from where I live and we dont even talk. No communication. No talking. Not any more.

Mother and Father had divorced when I was 8. And I am one. I dont have brother or sister.

Edit:

Drinking alcohol and sobering up in the hospital became a habit for me. There is no one to control me. I drink, I pass out in the streets and I sober up in the hospital. Then I come back home. This became a habit.

 

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Please allow me to second all your emotions.

 

What earthly difference do you think that your age is going to matter to anyone of us on HF

I can see why you feel lonely at times, but you are the only person who can resolve the problem.

You should give this situation some serious thought. How about contacting your father and proving to him that you are not an idiot. It will not happen overnight, but a step by step approach will make a huge difference, particularly if you can convince your step brother or sister that you are a decent everyday person.

 

Out of question.

 

Step one. Break the habit

Step two. Behave like a 30 year old man.

 

It took you less than 5 minutes to work out your predictably negative reply.

WHY is it impossible,????
I can accept that it is impossible for you to become the next US president, but contacting your father should be somewhat less difficult.

When I was 13, I wanted to work in the theatre. Ten years later I was appointed as the companies chief engineer.
Then at 23, I dreamed of designing and building my own theatre. By the time that I retired I had designed and built 3 of them.

NOTHING in this world is impossible. US president may be aiming a bit high, but how about studying as a doctor or something a bit harder.

 

Becoming an adult consists of recognizing that you control yourself, among other requirements of adulthood. Whining and seeking pity does not serve you well.

 

By out of question, I did mean I don't feel like doing so. I feel like doing quite opposite of it. I did mean NEVER by it.

So, should I have said ''never'' instead of having said ''out of question''? You know english is not my native language.

To hell with him (father).