Can't cum during a blowjob

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I have the exact same problem. Not really a problem though, except for one week out of the month...

 

yeah it would have to be a ripper of a BJ to make me cum now. Its not easy to get enough friction to get there. Hand movement is the most important thing girls ! And in my opinion, faster is not better. Im not really into the "finger in bum thing " but that works for some guys ... but would do it my girl wanted to do it.

 

Everyone's bodies are different. A lot of women can't cum during intercourse, so it's no surprise that some can't cum through bj's.

 

Anybody have any idea what the deal is, I love this but I wanna cum during a blowjob, and she wants me to too!!


I've had this problem at times too. I would suggest one of a few things.
Having your taint/asshole rubbed (or fingered) during a BJ can sometimes push you through. And depending on how badly your girl wants you to cum in her mouth, I find that thrusting helps when I can't cum. However, this essentially means you'd have to fuck her mouth, and some girls aren't down for that.
Also, if you get yourself worked up throughout the day (look at porn for a minute, jerk off just a little, have your girl flash you her pussy throughout the day), I find it helps me to be a bit quicker (and you cum a LOT). Best bet is to communicate with your girl, tell her what you like/don't like, and find out how badly she wants to make it happen-if she wants it bad enough, chances are she'll be open to experimentation. Hope it works out for ya!

 

I did have a machine gun BJ once that made me cum in a flash... I wasnt expecting it and the girl was very pissed off .. as she wanted me to fuck her ...ooops never mind.Few and far between though

 

I have read all over the internet, that it takes time, try different positions (Stand up, sit down, lay down, 69... etc) hell even titty fucking, and thats the closest that to her mouth that i have gotten. She has made me cum, a couple of times but she wants to taste it more. should I call a sex therapist?

 

Wow, very interesting thread...

The only time I've ever had a problem cumming from a blow job was when the girl was terrible at it, meaning so slow I just couldn't build up enough. Obviously with you guys (assuming you are getting a good blow job) theres a mental aspect to it preventing you from cumming.

Me on the other hand I really have to hold myself back as the thought of blasting a load into a girls mouth is one of the biggest turn ons for me. My other problem is when my wife goes down on me she just keeps sucking and sucking and sucking, basically doing exactly what will make me cum, she doesn't change it up, lick the shaft, lick the boys. Basically she goes for the gold and pretty much makes me cum within minutes

 

I find it difficult too! Maybe it's because it's not usually quite as... rhythmic?

There is a thread on here somewhere about a blowjob technique that's supposed to always work in making the guy cum... I could find it if you want - it's very recent.

 

Yeah, this is the one you're referring to I think http://www.hipforums.com/newforums/showthread.php?t=303064&f=281

An old GF of mine used to hum while giving me a BG and boy that worked wonders as it pretty much turned her mouth into a sucking vibrator. Just saying...

 

yeah that's the thread!

and lol what an interesting technique!

 

I've run in to this issue with a partner before. Turns out, it was kind of performance anxiety. All the attention was on him, and he felt pressured by that which inhibited his orgasm. We found if he had something to do like playing with me or doing 69, then he didn't feel any anxiety and could orgasm easily.

 

Mama hit the nail on the head here. I usually never have an issue "rising" to the occasion or "finishing" the job, but that said there have been times that hasn't been the case. In those instances there's almost always a psychological aspect which triggers the performance impediment, such as over planning, time constraints, general expectations of performance, nerves, etc...

Bottom line it may be your dinner bell just isn't being rung, or there's too much other "stuff" getting in the way. Or could just be you're a hard nut to crack