children and religion

I really don't feel it is right to push your beliefs upon your children.. I've only see it do harm not good...
I believe in a freedom of choice... if Aden wants to be christian..buddhist.. pagan.. and so on.. I really don't care as long as he's happy and spiritually fulfilled.. now I'm going to share with him my own beliefs.. and the beliefs of his other family members. but it will be his choice if he goes to church with his grandparents or stays home with mom and dad.. I will never love him any less if his opinions don't match mine..

 

well that sounds familiar =)

but exactly
religion is personal
which means it's one's own choice
i'll tell my children about religion if they ask (as i plan to study diff. ones in college)
and if they choose to follow whatever religion
then that's damn fine by me
i'm agnostic as of now
and if i still am when i have kids
i won't tell them to not believe in god because they can't be sure if he's there or not
nor will i simply neglect religion as a whole
religion is a part of everyone's life
as everyone is affected by it
so i'd prefer my children to be instructed, not ignorant =)

 

very well said..

 

The way I was raised, was to believe in the bible, but read it myself and make my own sense of it. My dad always told me to stay out of churches until I had read most of the Bible, because then I might notice that a lot of them were ass backwards... and yes I did..

 

Religoin was intended to be good advice, you should give your children good advice.

 

I am not sure how I would feel if my children choose christianity.
I would berate them, and shame them for worshipping the desert
god, but i wouldnt disown them. Just make their stays unplesant,
or just avoid talking about it.

Would still love them of course, but it would be a horrible shame
for them to choose the lie that our ancestors were given, rather
than to honor and worship our gods.

To teach your children religion is good, but to teach them
lies is not. That is the difference. I wouldnt want them being
chrisitian, or any other crazed cult out there. That isnt religion.
Of course they will choose, nothing will be truley forced, but
i dont have to be tickled shitless about it.

 

lol, what a christian attitude, it reminds me of the way my granmama treats me and my faith.

We try to teach our children our faith, and to allow them to be exposed to others. That said however, we like most parents of course push our faith more, and I have to admit I am trying to keep them away from all organised religion's until they are older and not so subject to mind control. While I let them hear others belief, I have a brother in law that would snatch them up and take them to the baptist church up the road if I would let him, but I won't. So I can't claim total neutrality.

 

How is that a christian attitude? I am not close minded to my children being of other faiths, i said that before, i am closed to them being christian. I would give them a hard time because it is a fabricated religion, with no basis, other than political control, and a horrible track record.

If they want to be buddhist, fine, atheist? thats fine too, though disappointing. We have pride in our ancestry, and our gods, and
to betray that for Christ is one of the worst things my children could do,
that and drug addiction.

Christians have the attitude you referenced because they think that only they are right and any thing else is the devils trickery. I on the other hand, do not claim to be the only right choice, but that doesnt mean that there arent wrong choices.

So take your fluff and stuff it, because its not only a christian concept to give people a hard time for their choice. If my children turn to the ignorance of Christ then i will wonder where I fucked up, and I will test their knowledge and reason of the choice they made.

Thats the attitude i have, and it is not a christian one.

 

damn, i was just commenting that your post struck me as funny,

I am not christian, and know NOTHING about you or what you believe, so I also have no opinion on what to teach or want from your children. I personally would be very upset if my kids chose, christianity, islam, jusism, or any religion, I believe all religions are mind control institutions. However, I would not give them a hard time or do anything that would keep them from wanting to visit me. I love my grandma more than anyone, but really it does get tiring for her to tell me about christ all the same things that you are sayin. She feels I betrayed her (and my families) gods (or god or whatever) I feel I found a better and truer way. If my kids decide that is what they want, oh well. I certainly would not consider it my right or duty to teach anyone's children anything, or to tell you how to treat your kids. lighten up

 

Sorry then, just struck me wrong i guess, a christian attitude as you put it is quite offensive lol.

sorry =P i am defensive.

 

I understand, perhaps I came off wrong. I actually agree with you in theory, and was thinking to myself that you will probably not have that problem anyway, because you will be teaching your children wisdom instead of "do this because we say or else".

sorry if I offended
peace

 

I am not religious, so I really have no religion to pass onto my children. I do plan to be open with them regarding my opinion on different religions, and considering the way some religions push themselves on people I will make sure they are educated properly about different religions and religious history so they aren't easily manipulated by religious conformity techniques. I certainly won't let any person try and tell my young, impressionable child that they have to follow their beliefs or they are going to go to hell after they die.

It wouldn't bother me at all if my children wanted to experiment with different spiritual beliefs at some point, but I would definitely give them a peice of my mind if they wanted to start telling me I am going to hell or I need to be saved, or tried to drag me to church. I'm with Heron on this one, there are just some religions that I will not encourage (and specifically discourage) in my household.

 

I'll not teach my kids to believe hear-say and mythology. They can evaluate that stuff for themselves.

 

I guess that means you just have nothing to teach.

 

everyone is a little crazy, just as everyone is at least a little brainwashed. To proceed, modern people have to spend a considerable amount of time removing parts of the superego.

 

I think it is almost inevitable to not share your beliefs with your children. I ws raised Christian but would provide my children with whatever religious texts they want. I believe in being a good person, not hurting others, and having a respect for the planet and its animals and each other moreso than what a book has told me. I am happy with how I live and I believe if god exists then she/he will see that I have done what I can and would appreciate everyone being compassionate.

 

My parents taught me judism ever since i was born when i turned 10 i started wondering away from it reading up on other religions i just came up with my own theorys , i never settled down to my religion , Hey i might tell my children to find the religion that tickles there fancy. If they really want to get into that stuff.

 

indoctrination and brainwashing only differ in one main aspect, the age of the person you are forcing to believe what you think they should believe. No, I do not believe in forcing my beliefs upon my children. I am raising them with a broad religious education and the ability to choose whatever path is right for them.

 

im the exact way, except my dad isnt lutherin. he lives in pittsburg. started thinking right brfore confirmation too. and i feel the same way. except i know gay people and CCD is on sunday for me

 

my family isnt too open minded, my grandpa's sister and her husband and their kids. go to that kind of church, and i am the only one of the grandkids of my grandpa (cant figure out how to word it, maybe the 2nd generation? the kids)
who does not resent them for not being catholic or protestant and who doesnt think them "weird stupid liberal hippies". if i did, i would not be on this site