Cleaning

I Saw A Saying On One Of Those "Thingy Watsies" You Can Buy In Gift

Shops, And It Went Something Like...........



This House Is Clean Enough To Be Healthy..

And Messy Enough To Be Happy...



Cheers Glen.

 

So now you are blaming this all on me?

Thanks.

I hope you are enjoying your CD today.

 

My room was always clean when I was in high school, my closet was organized, and even though everything looked kind of cluttered, everything was exactly where it was supposed to be. My parents' house is sickeningly clean, my mom cleans it ritualistically every weekday morning, regardless of whether it needs it or not. But my clean lifestyle sort of got forced to hide when I started living over here with Daniel, especially after Jake moved in. Living with two guys who feel the urge to clean rarely makes it VERY difficult to keep up with. I've been meaning to get to straightening the house, but I just haven't had the energy to even start. Once I start, I can't stop unless I'm just so tired I can't keep my eyes open anymore or until it's all done. And it makes me mad because the guys wait for me to get into that mode and they let me do all the cleaning. Grr. Oddly enough, the living room and the kitchen are usually the two that are the cleanest. The bathroom is normally clean as far as human use goes, but the cats love to tear up the toilet paper and toss the empty toilet paper tubes around and leave their hair everywhere...lol. When I clean the bathroom, I'm usually cleaning up after them.

 

No. I was fine til I woke up and started reading all your little threads bitching about me. It's just real disrespectful.

When positions were reversed I came home to an even nastier house, to a bitch with a nasty attitude, and no dinner hardly ever. And you were only watching two kids.

I take care of three every day, and cook you dinner almost every night.

And I have to wake up to a bunch of snide remarks about myself to a bunch of other people. Half of whom know I'm the other part of the household.

It makes me look really bad, IMO, and it's not even true for the most part. It's pathetic and I can't believe you even have to ask why the hell I have a problem with this.

 

FOR YOUR INFORMATION if you read it I never said you didn't do shit. So stop over analyzing and accusing me of downing you.

Bringing up something that happened over two years ago when I was a fuckign acholic who didn't give two shits isn't even fair.... but go ahead and use that as amo if that makes you feel better... again, thanks for being supportive of my turn around. I support you in everything you do, thanks for trying to make me out to be a peice of shit.

Go fuck yourself.

 

Am I Right In Assuming You Two Know Each Other......



Cheers Glen.

 

I don't know him at all, in the context.

 

You never say thank you, ever, and all I ever hear and see is this shit. And when I call you out on not saying thank you, instead of admitting it, like an adult, you say, "What am I supposed to do, kiss your ass cause you make my dinner?"

WTF? Who says that when a simple, "Thank you. Dinner was good" would suffice?

So yeah, I take it personal. You want me on here bitching about shit everytime I'm pissed at you.?

Half your threads revolve around me because you're an emotional infant who can't talk like an adult. Every time you get mad I wake up and find my business all over the fuckin HF's. Knock it off or I'll just fight with you til we both get banned. And dont' act like you dont' care because when I got our IP blocked, you got sooooo pissed.

 

I don't care, except for food stuff, no dirty dishes in the sink or crap spilled. Everything else I don't really care though. There's paperwork from my real job all over the place and you will always find fabric scraps all over the livign room even though I have a room just for sewing. There's packing tape pieces hanging off the end of the coffee table. It's awful. Our house looks like a very poorly run buisness instead of a house most of the time.

 

But It's A Happy And Productive House, Right.??..

Thats All that Really Matters...



Cheers Glen.

 

I just want to note that when I made a comment about Andy leaving his shoes out, it turned into an argument at home because he thought I meant he doesn't pick up after himself or expects me to be his maid. What I meant was. I don't mind moving his shoes because he works so hard and I am sure he has moved mine before event hough I hardly ever work.
Funny how some misscommunication about shoes can turn into an argument, eh?
Men seem very sensitive about making sure they don;t create more work for us. They also seem to need praise for things we don;t need priase for. It seems like the more encouragement given, the better they respond. I found this with couples I work with too.
It can get so frustrating for everyone involved when it's really no one's fault and just a bunch of misscommunication and sensitivity .

 

Yes! It is a very happy house. We just both have messy hobbies. Our dining room table isn't a table, it's where Andy keeps his bottle tree and santizing equipment. We don't have kids yet, so might as well take advantage of having our stuff scattered throughout the house until we do and not havign to eat at the kitchen table until we do.

 

You're telling me, all I said was that my house is a wreck and it turned into me saying no one does anything in my house and I'm the only one who does anything, and I don't appreciate anything.

Yea, I can't vent anything here about my home life, or I turn into a peice of shit by the end of the day.... looks like this just costed me having to find a babysitter, when I don't even have the money to keep my vehicle and having to do everything in the house now.

Nice.

I was overwelmed before, now I feel like giving up all together.

 

Answering the opening post here...
A little bit of clutter is ok, but I have two cats... So, I like to scoop the catbox 1-2 times a day, & try to keep the place well vacuumed. I cover my bed with a sheet and put things on the pillows to keep my bed cat fur free...That's important, can't stand waking up with cat fur stuck to my face, & in my eyes.
Black ants come up on the patio, so I try to keep the kitchen pretty clean.
I have a small dehumidifier in the bathroom, makes cleaning easier in that room. It doesn't develop much in the way of mold or mildew.

 

i don't complain about dave anymore, either. it's disrespectful. it would break his heart.

 

You Live With Two...

Try Living With Six...

Two Cat Doors Operating 24/7/365.

When It Rains, Or If There Is A Heavy Dew, I Have The Pleasure Of

Dealing With Twenty Four Dirty Little Paws Traipsing In And Out All Day.

Sometimes I Think It Would Be Less Trouble To Have Kids.

However Some On This Forum May Not Agree With That Statement......



Cheers Glen.

 

two kids, two cats, one rabbit and a puppy. i'm thinking i went a little overboard with the animals. especially the puppy. i'm thinking it migt be time to let hm sleep in the back yard at night. he's crapping and pissing everywhere. i hate it.

 

You said that you clean ALL the time and every time you get home from work it's all fucked up. Bitching without acknowledging some of the circumstances. Like the fact that we have 4 adults, 3 kids, and 2 dogs in an 1100 sq ft 3 bedroom house. Or the fact that I have all 3 kids all day. Constantly making a mess here.

And as for not appreciating anything... That had nothing to do with this thread. You just flat out NEVER say thank you. In fact, the only one I've gotten in MONTHS was last week and I got so excited to hear it I started pointing out all the good little things I did for the day.

And then when you didn't say thank you for the dinner that I spent 2 hours on, I made a JOKE about you not saying thank you and you blew up in my face swearing I wanted you to call me God and build me a statue.

Fuck. If I cook you dinner 5 nights a week I should get a thank you for at least one right? Does it count if I do the dishes BEFORE dinner to be able to cook and then clean the mess AFTER dinner. Usually rinse most of the dishes, and put all the food away.

And then half the time if I ask you to put the kids to bed, you bitch at me because you "worked" all day... In your air conditioned office playing on the internet.

At least somebody gets it.

 

If you have to get a babysitter I can help you find something subsidized or sliding scale.
My relationship isn't perfect, but one thing I;ve found that helps is Andy always thanks me for making dinner or cleaning and I always thank him everyday for going to work and paying the bills. Sometimes the person working can get forgotten because there's nothing tangible immediatley like dinner or a clean house.

Before we figured this one out we fought so much. I can;t tell you how much a simple 'thanks for putting up with shit today to pay our bills' has changed our marraige.

With three kids, and Adam homeschooling, have you ever thought of giving up on the clean house? It just doesn;t seem like it's goign to happen. You both are workign too hard.