My penis has never gotten any harder before I cum, it’s usually hardest a bit before, than gets a little more plyable before i squirt my juices. Weird.
My fiancée tells me the same thing. Usually, even if we linger a lot with foreplay, we always end with penetration and sexual intercourse because we both love that I cum inside her. She tells me that she feels distinctly inside herself that it becomes harder and swollen, she feels the pressure on the vaginal walls and the feeling of being filled to the limit when I approach the moment of orgasm. She says that the sensation becomes almost unbearable, even if in a positive way, because she is very excited and close to orgasm too, so that strong sensation is also accompanied by pleasant and voluptuous sensations. When I start to cum, she distinctly perceives the contractions of my sex and how rhythmically it thickens during ejaculation. For my part, I too perceive a feeling of tension and swelling almost to the limit that is sometimes almost unbearable. The only relief is the orgasm that comes shortly after. I have the feeling of emptying myself into her, in a closed and narrow space where, despite instinctively I am led to push deeper, I cannot go further. After I come, and usually she too, I have to wait a few minutes before I get out of her. Once, instead of ending with penetration, she wanted me to orgasm while she was masturbating me because she was curious to see what happened when I was inside her. In fact, what happened confirmed her feelings and mine. As my orgasm approaches, my sex becomes much more swollen and harder. The glans becomes darker and swells a lot as the body of the penis reaches its maximum rigidity and reaches its maximum both in circumference and in length. It is raised upwards and very rigid and cannot be folded down in any way. Then when ejaculation starts it moved rhythmically and she felt it rhythmically swelling in her hands. Then we had to clean everywhere.
Mine does. Just before cumming my head swells slightly. Not super huge but enough that every female partner has mentioned it and about half the men. I’ve also had a couple partners that it happens to, also. It is something I need to be very aroused for it to happen. Spanking one out to pass the time usually isn’t enough to cause it to happen.
Of all of the women I have had intercourse with there has been several tell me that I'm going to cum. Just as they are saying it I feel that quick build up to orgasm and let it go. I asked my spouse how she knew years ago when we were still active. She told me she could feel my cock expanding in her vagina most times. She also said she can feel my body tighten as the feeling sweeps over me right before ejaculation. Bottom line many men have the penis get a little larger and harder right before ejaculation. Not every man and not every time but it does more often than not. I think women like it this way.
Not really, I'd say when starting after about three or four minutes it is as hard as it is going to get. When I cum it is usually much the same length and hardness as it was when I reached full erection, except of course for the consuming sexual ecstasy of orgasm felt in the shaft, balls and especially the head.