Could Porn Be Bad For Your Health?

I have had an extensive sex life, not so much lately but that is a different thread altogether. I've also watched a lot of porn and still do pretty regularly. I'm not sure how I feel about this topic because I think there are a lot of different variables. It would seem like it could definitely be harmful. And in some sense I'm sure it's harmed me. But I think that in the overall realm of sexual/intimacy dysfunction, porn plays a small role in comparison with all of the other factors and issues that can contribute to some condition like that.

I will say though that in my last relationship I still wanted to watch porn, and the sex got worse and worse, the relationship got progressively worse to the point I preferred to watch porn and jerk off than have sex with her. That disturbed me. Because I was used to having a good sex life where porn seems pointless to watch. So I'm a little confused about all of this stuff right now I suppose.

 

No, that's not the only thing you should base your self-worth on. Human relationships in modern days aren't built on socioeconomic values; sexual desires even less so. I'm not particularly wealthy at all, which is not something that has ever held me back; on the contrary, my personal qualities and personality are appealing to many women. A man that works all day and night to 'add socioeconomic value to a woman's life' will be too busy and stressed to provide her with the emotional value that a woman needs in her life.

I agree. I have had it easy with attracting girls, anyway. It's just that some guys are excessively awkward around women and can't get laid as a result. And when a guy has no confidence at all in his own value or abilities, then why should a woman? It doesn't really have anything to do with 'high' expectations on her part, does it?

Single women spread their legs pretty easily for a man who can just make her laugh and feel at ease with him. And I don't think that's an inherently negative thing, don't get me wrong. When they're just looking to hook up, they couldn't care less about your income.

 

I've heard it can be bad for your wrist

 

Well, some people want more than mindless hookups, and they definitely want more than settling into a marriage with someone who has finally grown tired of sleeping around/is afraid they're losing their attractiveness and doesn't want to die alone.

The mindless hookups and hedonism are a big part of why it's so hard to find someone worth dating.

 

Kink/submission and porn shouldn't be lumped in the same category, imo. You can be very into kink and submission without being very interested in porn. The two don't necessarily coincide.

I don't mean to thread jack, but submission can be one of the most intimate acts you can engage in. I believe my friend said it best:
"The truly submissive girl*doesn’t*hide.This is who I am, she says; take me.It’s not only her body which she makes available. She invites total intimacy. And is not that what we all seek, even if we so often refuse it? In doing so, she inevitably makes herself vulnerable. In letting you reach right inside her, into the quivering core of her being, she runs the risk of being harmed. You can do damage if you*aren’t*careful. But she trusts you enough to run the risk."


^^^ you don't get that from porn.

 

Indeed... But that's from a female point of view, and men who have only seen 'submission' in porn don't necessarily see it that way. They would think of the girl that engages in it as a 'worthless' skank who wants and needs to be abused and degraded, rather than seeing an intimate aspect in it, or the roleplay possibly having some kind of limits.

 

I would never recommend anyone get into any sort of submission kink without extensive research first. Obviously, that's not the way it always works out. I don't know that I blame porn though. It's a great outlet to visualize a fantasy without actually acting it out.

Also, sometimes it is a girl that engages in it as a 'worthless' skank who wants and needs to be abused and degraded. And there's absolutely nothing wrong with that so long as all involved parties are consenting. Then again, this is all my opinion. I'm sure there's plenty of people out there who believe bdsm is an unhealthy practice.

 

I don't want to judge, but personally I'm inclined to think that people who go to extremes with it have some kind of issues to begin with. I'm very aware that most females seem to love being 'taken rough' at least from time to time, and I enjoy giving it to them, but I simply can't see how any kind of extreme humiliation, or violence that causes physical damage to the receiver, could be a part of a loving relationship between two mentally stable individuals. Daddy issues, at the very least.

 

That's a common misconception, and you're certainly entitled to your opinion on the matter. I have no doubt there are people with mental issues and daddy issues in the bdsm community. That's not saying the vanilla community doesn't have plenty of people with the very same issues. I've always had the same view on this subject: as long as all parties involved are of legal age and consenting, then anything is fair game. I've done a lot of sexual things that people probably consider extreme or even demented. Heck, I even have a bruise/bite mark/hickie fetish. Am I crazy? Absolutely. Do I have mental issues or daddy issues? Absolutely not. My father is one of my best friends. In my every day life I'm your average daycare provider and homemaker....but then I have this other side that's, well, different to say the least.

I should also add, I have absolutely nothing against vanilla sex. In fact, I love it just as much as I love kinks. Each have their appropriate time and place.

 

I don't have anything against a bruise fetish; heck, I can even understand rape fantasies and roleplays, but I can't understand why people would get off on extreme pain, permanent physical damage or extreme humiliation. Those, to me, reek of mental issues, and while consenting parties can partake in such activities for all I care, my point is that no sane man would want to become tangled in the web of women that are into such things - not for any longer than one night, anyway.

I also like plenty of kinky stuff, but there are some things, like hitting her with full force or spitting in her face, that just cross the line from sexy to downright creepy if she's into that.

 

I'll admit I don't understand that level of bdsm. I also don't condemn it. Actually the other day I saw a photo of a woman who likes leather straps wrapped around each of her breasts, then having them tightened until they turn purple or bleed. I don't understand that....but I see nothing wrong with her as a person. I like to take a good flogging once in a while, and I'm sure plenty of people think that's strange.

Anyway, it's nice to have a conversation with differing opinions without dramatics and critical levels of butt hurt. That's becoming rare on this forum.

 

I don't think our opinions are that different. I just started the conversation in a way that made it seem like I was some kind of a preacher of sexual purity. To the general public, we would probably both be considered dangerous sexual deviants that have taken it too far.

My viewpoint is somewhat influenced by this girl I knew who had major daddy issues and other kind of mental problems; she was extremely eager for me to hurt and humiliate her. But that shit just doesn't turn me on, and becoming too involved with her very nearly made my entire life hell at one point. The only thing I miss is freely calling her names like slut, skank, whore in bed. LOL!

 

We are all going to die alone. Whether or not you have your life long partner there or your family at the time maybe inconsequential to that realization that this is it, the end is near. How you actually feel at that time might be very different to what you assume now.

I'm reminded of one grandfather who banned anyone from seeing him in those last days - likely cos he didnt want the pity party, that was too depressing, didnt want anyone to see him like that.

65 to 75, is the peak range for cancer deaths, despite all the hubbub about smoking and diet, cancer is foremost just a genetic lottery, half of us are going to die of cancer no matter what we do, and most of them in that age range

Once you get past 75, cancer related deaths take a nose dive, the main causes then become heart disease which remains steady, stroke which increases and then Dementia, there is a big jump in dementia as a cause after this age. And guys drop off on average a decade earlier than the girls

So, as for getting married so I wont die alone - the reality is, especially if one makes it past 75, fair chance you arent even going to be aware who you are, if female likley that hubby has already been dead for 10 years, so its just you and the girls anyway, or family around you, whom you may not even like, or kids or grandkids that are really mainly there to make sure your will is up to date...or you may just not want any of them there cos the looks they give you, the way they are carrying will just bum you out.

Or if its not dementia and you are still in charge of all your faculties, hubby or wife still by yourside; that realization in those last few days......that your biggest regret is not getting enough sex, you should have had way more "mindless" hookups cos thats when its the most raw and fun rather than being emotionally blackmailed for it everytime.....or that realization that the person you want to see the most isnt the one you've been married too for 40 years, isnt any of the kids, its your first kiss in junior high, cos he/she the entire time has been the love of your life

 

if your gonna die alone, at least die with an erection

 

that's easy to say when you're 23 :smilielol5:

 

haha, u could try viagra or something?

 

Back on topic, this is why whole thread is retarded. Even if they managed to remove all porn from the world, wouldnt change anything, people would just use their imagination.

Just simple biologocal functions, get cranky if horny, fap to relieve the cranky

And guys that talk like this:

Are always completly whipped anyway, just parroting what their wives/girlfriends tell them, and whipped to a point where their wives dont want to fuck them anymore. For what is "real intimacy" - kissing and cuddling, talking about your feelings and hopes for the future?...or being neurotic and jealous about that other half bumping uglies with someone else?

So, whether porn exists or not, isnt going to change the fact its a lot quicker and easier to fap it away.

If porn didnt exist, they'd still find something external to blame it on rather than admitiing they've turned into a nightmare of a nagging shrew. Absence of porn isnt going to change the fact that most of them where always going to get hornier for mean guys that treat them bad, ones that remind them of their daddies, old rich guys that buy them lots of stuff, or guys that are too pretty or cute.....all these categories over the dumb mutts that do everything for them then wonder why wifey doesnt get hot and bothered over them anymore

 

SMH.. you sound like a very bitter man. I'm a younger guy, and I wasn't even referring to 'kissing, cuddling, or talking about feelings'. This is about sex, and I'm saying that it's bad for young guys with no sex lives to become completely conditioned to use porn as a means to get off, instead of even -trying- to find a girl to fuck, something that porn addiction discourages them from doing. Fapping without all the porn and using your imagination is still different from a psychologic perspective.

 

Here are two good videos for you to watch. And I hope they help!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WcprboiLOLw
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Pamohdb1eGo
The first video is about Masturbation. The second video is about Porno addiction. Both videos are done by Ralph Smarts!

 

"Some people die at 25 and aren't buried until 75." - Benjamin Franklin :wheelchair: