Could This Work To Secure Women's Safety?

Interesting but also very worrying......

 

Traditionally in Britain the police didn't like to get involved in domestic stuff. That's changed over time. I think though that if you're in a relationship that's got to the point where you need to call the police, it's probably all over.

I'm sure that if a man went and reported a rape or other form of abuse he'd be listened to and the cops would check it out.

 

You're right - it's certainly changed alot over the years, and for the better, although can still improve.

 

2009 was the last time I tried to report abuse, I was told to go away. Nobody checked anything. Maybe it's changed now, but I doubt it.
In 2010 the police paid me $10,000 in an out of court settlement while admitting no liability, but agreed 10 of their staff would be retrained.
They estimated the 9 month investigation cost them another $150,000.

@morrow, good find on those stats, they seem quite reasonable.

@Asmo, we'll never know if they went missing after dates, we can't ask them!

Almost impossible to go missing in the UK with out being dead these days IMHO .... too many ID checks.

 

I've been punched, groped, threatened many times by women. It's usually done under the assumption that men wont fight back, or if they do they'll then get beaten up by a gang of men.

I didn't mind the groping.

Some women think because they are women they can get away with this behaviour, and they most often do. It isn't helped by the misandrist stereotyping in the media that promotes this kind of behaviour. It's funny if a woman hits a guy on TV, or pours a drink over his head in the bar, other way around and it's assault.

 

Lot of truth there...

 

I assume that you're not talking here about British police as the figures would be in £ not $.

 

I covert to $$$$ as its an American forum.

 

As I previously posted, two women used a 'date rape' drug on me to rob me, I'm told it's fairly common.
http://www.local10.com/news/2-men-drugged-robbed-after-meeting-woman-at-bars-wednesday
Google, "man drugged and robbed" then read some of the hundreds of hits.

I'll include this one for the extreme anti-male sentiments,
http://www.nydailynews.com/new-york/nyc-crime/stripper-describes-crime-ring-drugged-robbed-clients-article-1.2479029
Can you imagine the outcry if a man had drugged and raped a woman, then the news report called her a "rich sucker"

 

Old dude, I see what your saying, but don't get me wrong, but how does a woman rape a guy?

See I don't get that at all..if your saying they drugged you and robbed you. Then that must have been awful..

But please don't get me wrong, it wouldn't be quite the same..unless you can explain more..

 

Leo male it's great that you feel that way, but men are less likely to be attacked, but less likely to report it..
I think guys still get a raw deal, but they don't make it easy for them selves

But thanks for your input!

 

Event 1
She followed me home from a bar, pushed past me, then overpowered me and had sex with me. I was drunk (no informed consent possible), I also said no, clearly and more than once. I didn't know her, I didn't want to have sex with her.

I believe under current laws that was rape.

Event 2
My live in girlfriend, would have sex with me while I was asleep in bed. No consent was given. One time she woke me up by punching me in the face, while raping me.

No consent and assault, clearly rape by modern definition, that being penetrative sex without informed consent, or after the other person said no.

 

No disrespect old dude, but do you have a permanent hard on?

I was married a long long time! And I could never have sex with him without him knowing!

How unfortunate old dude..me thinks your choice of women has not always been good!

Your a minority, let's hope! Your fortunate that the police paid you so much money so fast, in my experience in the uk, they take years! In most cases at least 5! So well done with whatever you did!

 

If you go out and get so drunk that you can't defend yourself from the advances of a single woman it's really your own lookout.

 

I could say the same for a woman too drunk to defend herself.
It appears you are happy to blame me, but would be outraged if someone blamed a woman in the same situation.

 

So you are suggesting if someone has poor judgement in their choice of partners they deserve what they get?
Didn't you admit to such a poor choice in a previous relationship?

 

Old dude, I was married 38 years..erm, what part of my marriage were you referring to?

When my 3 children were born? I think not...one long relationship, and no others..??? I'm fortunate, I'm enjoying singleton, so what do you refer to Sir?

 

Relationships can be/are Good, Bad and Ugly
People - of either Sex - can undergo danger, abuse - and worse!
These scenarios can be sensitive, frightening and traumatic,

The initial post from Morrow :-

did not select a gender or one particular for priority, or identify a perpetrator because of such.
The point as I see it, is that in order to feel - and be safe, there is a mechanism in which to do so, and it is that which is keynote

 

I'm not blaming you. You were abused and that's not acceptable. It's a fact though that alcohol is often involved in such incidents. I just don't think it's a good idea to drink yourself incapacitated in a public place. Man or woman, you're making yourself vulnerable.

 

Sorry morrow, I may have confused you with another poster.

I was also married for 30 years and 4 children. I don't have one Happy memory from that 30 years. If I could roll back time and erase that relationship and the 4 children, I would do it in an instant.