cripple needs place to live

How very appropriate that you should come back on here after several months without a word & start in on a movie instead of offering an update. But I guess if you want to play silly games, you can.


Sooooo, did you ever get out there and take control of your life? Are you posting from a place of your own & was the move the reason you haven't been posting?

 

nope.. still playing video games and watching the seasons change...

 

video games are cool, season are good, and changing is unavoidable, but hey everyone moves at their own rate...

 

Is it hard to type with one hand? It seems like it would be a bit slow... my suggestion, pull the stick out of your ass and type with that too.

 

:smilielol5:

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LOL

 

lame

 

One arm, As you can see I don't post here often but I'm compelled to try and reason with you. From your posts it's obvious you're in need of compassion and a few lessons in humility and self discipline.
Don't get me wrong...I mean you no harm. Thing is you show bitterness over your lot in life and throw it at others. That doesn't help your cause.
I can understand your bitterness. I went through the same emotional state after my massive coronary. I'm handicapped for the rest of my days and can die at any moment. But you know what? I got over MYSELF! I can still walk and talk and see. I still cook and do first aid and help in whatever capacity I can at gatherings. Point is...I LIVE! So can YOU!
Don't wallow in misery, bro. A positive attitude goes a long way. Put down that game controller and make some friends here or on other forums.

Now, you may say how much worse you have it than me. Maybe so, but let me tell a little story.....

....At the Wyoming national this year I met a bro from Europe who was a renowned bass player there. Tours all over the continent with a rock band. This bro has a major handicap. Birth defects. No arms and stubby useless hands. Short deformed legs and small but USEFUL feet. He can use a joystick on a powerchair with his feet but had to be carried around the gathering in a backpack. He was dressed, fed and even given hits off the pipe by others. He took it all with grace and humility and is a truly awesome man. He brought tears to my eyes.
We all have our " crosses to bear" ( as my Christian friends say) and bear them we must. But while some of our fate is thrust upon us much of it is of our own choosing.

Happiness may lurk in the least likely places and come in the smallest packages. Strive to find them. Love and care for all and it will be returned.
And don't forget to love yourself.

Zen

PS...Write back...tell us about who you are. Maybe we can start a dialogue and who knows??? Become friends? :cheers2:

 

ok how did the guy play bass if he was Handicapped..............?!?!?!?!

p.s. I was there this year too

we all were

whoa!

beautiful!

 

With his "USEFUL" feet!! Seriously!!! The dude was from handicamp. He was at Welcome Home a lot. That's where I hung out with him. He has some kind of molded seat and special guitar stand. Heard some of his music on disc and the dude can play!

 

fuck yeah!

 

seriously im not bitter, im not down, and i feel lucky to be so screwed up, im a glutton for punishment... im just trying to say most ppl are hypocrits. peace, love, and good luck man hope you find help im not willing but i wish you luck... id like to be friends but lots of you have me all wrong, im a jovial, happy-go-lucky kind of person, if you see anger u need to get your eyes checked, i can be an asshole, and i see why you think im bitter, but you are wrong wrong wrong, lol, come on, i splash around a little in the pool and everyone gets all holyer-than-thou on me... listen to TOOL - hush... now some will say im making this all up to save face... but hey at least you can hear me now. shablam kazam ur a rabbit, see... its magic. ive been in this bed 3 years, words on a screen don't convey meaning, its in the gestalt, picky ppl miss the point, besides sense is for crazy ppl who can't handle the chaos, and other randomness. lol

 

I met a Lady, my first friend when I hit The Haight. I use to sit out on the stoop and listen to her play her 12 string. After a time of listening, I started to sing along. Sister Juniper Odd was her name.

She invited me in one sunny afternoon. As I walked into her flat. I saw she was sitting in a wheelchair., both legs in braces and she would have to place her hand on the guitar with her other hand to start playing. She had polio and her little body was twisted.

Odd had to be carried up n down stairs, bathed and groomed, cooked for ect. But MY GAWD she could play any instrument she picked up. She played the Piano, guitar, recorder, flute, banjo. She crocheted, painted and had a beautiful singing voice. She was not handicapped in her mind, only in her physique.. She was also quiet active in the Womens Rights Movement back in the 60s/70s.

Not once in the many yrs we were friends did I hear her complain about her inability to do the things that others did who were not inpaired.

I would go on and tell you about my very own daughter who was born with Cystic Fibroses and was in and out of the hospital monthly for 25 yrs before she passed in 2000. How she suffered silently and how she devoted herself to helping the young ones cope with their CF.

To me you sound ungratefull. you take it out on your mother and she has had her fill of your selfish, spoiled behavior. Do you ever stop of a moment in your own selfpity and think what it's doing to your mom.

Then you dare to come back and lol about it as if it were a joke. Your somekinda fucked up dude and it ain't about your legs.

sh

 

dont talk about my moma

 

Yo momma is so fat........

Hey One-arm, How good are you at rolling joints? Back in the 70s had a friend called One arm Larry. Lost his arm in Nam. Best damn joint roller you ever saw.
Loved to roll em. A lazy hippies' best stoner buddy!!!

Zen

 

I cannot roll, but i can explain why he was such a good roller... well...my idea anyway. Losing limbs has given me an intimate understanding of the mechanics involved in movement. For an example take the back of my hand... SLAP!...jK I can carry anything on it... remote control, laptop, tv.. jk I also can tell how objects will react to gravity, I can control things as they fall eliciting gasps from onlookers as i push things off tables and deflect them with my hand to land upright in my lap. (ok i admit this response is unnecissarily long and filled with excentric ways of using the language, well reading it again I think it is succinct enough, but the skills I start to explain are not very immpresive... I can only tell you the answer lies in the extent I have mastered these skills) "its called mental masturbation bioches"

 

Heifer, your daughter may have had a lot of grace, but i wonder if you could try just a little harder.
You want one arm not to complain about his challenges, and show grace, but your largest challenge that i've witnessed is the inability to let him be a little upset, and you failed at that small challenge. Then when he tries to apologize you talk about his mom, like you know anything about his mom.
I do think that if you work hard on your attitude things will be better for all. I also think that those that have many blessings should be EVEN MORE GRACEFUL than folks with serious challenges.
I wish i could have said that in a nicer way, but i don't think i was as hard on you as you were on him, so i feel ok, and i'm not going to edit it.
And no, i do not think you should hide your opinion, i just think you could use a little common mercy and grace while you give it.
And yes, i will try to become ever more graceful myself, and am sorry that i don't always reach my potential there.

 

rasta patch, did you actually read the entire thread or see the original uneditted beginning posts? why get on SH for a little tough love when someone else said this?

Originally Posted by HushBull
Is it hard to type with one hand? It seems like it would be a bit slow... my suggestion, pull the stick out of your ass and type with that too.


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After re-reading the thread, I feel like One_Arm purposely placed his plee for a place to live in order to judge & demean others. If you read his post just before SH's, he pretty much admits to it. Trollish behavior IMO

 

NO, "I" did not want One Arm not to post his feelings. But kissing his ass won't help him. It will only enable him.

For him to DEMAND for us to pay attention to him and chastise us for not instantly taking him in, IS indeed acting in a selfish and spoiled behavior. As a Mother of 6 and a g'ma of 14 I do have experience in tantrums. I can 'feel' how his mother is feeling, as I have had to face my own child's Death. He is still above ground, but he wants to wallow in self pity.

Sugar coating only rots your teeth and does not deliver any message. It also wastes time. It is not my method to cover up the truth, but to uncover it and reveal it so healing can take place.

I do not know your methods or the success rate of them so I cannot judge them. I am on the other hand fully educated in many alternative healing methods and I use what methods are called for to re-adjust the dis-harmony with body and spirit.

If the spirit is sick, the body will not heal. By his 'poor me' attitude he is only attracting negative vibrations to his spirit. As soon as he lets go of his disability and starts using what ability he does have for good and light he will remain in darkness to wallow alone.

To feed him "Poor You' soup only emphasize' his predicament. You may not understand my way, but I walk what I talk. The Seed of healing has been planted, let it grow. Let the Gardeners do their work.

Bright Blessings on your journey
sh

 

Ya, been readin' this today. Stayin' warm and fighting a cold.

Sorry one arm. But I see the same things the others do. Anger, bitterness, the desire to make others pay for your "affliction". All the excuses in the world do not cover that up. You are obviously very smart. Too smart to be behaving like you are. Definitely smart enough to figure out how to live with your differences.

Everyone here is offering help. Just maybe not the help you seem to think you have coming to you. Maybe open your intelligent eyes a bit wider to see the bigger picture.

I met a guy when I was a teenager who was a paraplegic since he was a year old. Fell out of his high chair and broke his back...

He went bowling every day. He rode my horse several times, at a dead run! Actually got on without help! He could do darned near anything without help (except walk). Climb a set of stairs? No problem. Amazing upper body strength... He showed me newspaper clippings from where he hitch hiked from California to NY by himself in the late 60's.

On other hand, we had a really good friend who used to be a state champion wrestler, whose UNCLE shot him in the neck and made him a quadraplegic. He still hunted and fished regularly, had his own ATV specially fitted for him to use in the woods. Had literally a couple hundred friends, even tho he hardly ever left home. And when he DID go someplace, whoever he went with took care of his needs (catheter and piss bag, etc....) Why, because he was a genuinely good guy who everybody liked. Even on a bad day. But he drowned his unhappiness in alcohol and drugs.

He overdosed on morphine a couple years ago...

I also live with a disabled person. Not physically, but mentally. Actually, there are SO MANY "disabled" folks floatin' around and LOTS of people live with someone like that. I guess it's just not that big a deal to a lot of people any more. Oh, you are in a wheel chair? Big deal... So are lot's of others. What makes you special above the rest? You are really smart, so I KNOW you have the ability to figure it out.