cutter

my opinion is, if she was happy being a cutter, she wouldn't have started a topic about it...

but I could be wrong.

 

a & o your very helpful here sothank you

everyone else even those whove been cutters cutting is not a cry for help or a way of getting attention as was stated, most cutters hide theyre cutting at all costs

cutting is generaly a way of dealling with emotions theyre unable to express
parents who slap theyre kids everytime they cry can cause teens who are unable to cry..or unwilling to show emotions that theyre made to feel are signs of weakness
cutting causes pain..that pain is used as a method for burying deeper emotions
unfortunately its a self destructive spiral because the more u bury those feelings, the deeper the pain becomes & the deeper you have to cut to ..well you never relieve the pain, but you replace emotional pain your not abhle to cope with with a more easily understood physical pain

lucy..patches offered to help..& i am too..if youneed someone to talk to, i'm here
but a bit of a warning, to get through this..to truly heal from cutting, you'll need to deal wioth those emotions in a more natural way..crying is a natural pressure relief valve..so is releasing anger constrictively
i believe as a child you were expected to always be on your best behavior..never act out..never cry or be emotional, soyou surpressed that ..pushed all your pain down inside you & never dealt with it..or released it

or..perhaps youve had some very traumatic experiences tthat were hard to deal with, & youve never talked about them or coped with the pain caused bythem,?

as for your family not being there for ya...well..guess what..we're family too, & we're here for u

if your ready to heal, jusyt reach out for help..& help will be there for u
p.s... pm me if u want to talk..ever...i may not be a councelor, but ihave counceled others with the same issies..soiunderstand quite well where your comming from..
but..it is an addiction..a dangerouse 1..& letting it go on without trying to heal from it can only lead to even worse problems in the future
please..lets talk

 

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Yeah, I'm not saying I don't understand it... I've been there... I'm just saying... it is possible to quit, and it's very dangerous to have the attitude that it's okay to do. It's not.

Whether or not you really get physically hurt or not, there's something wrong inside, that's making you rely on this...and you need to fix whatever it is inside.

People develop things like this, because it's your subconcious's way of telling you "Hey! Pay attention to me! I'm upset! Help me, please!"

And no, I'm not saying that this is a cry for help---not in the sense that you go and show everyone, but it is your SELF crying for help, trying to warn YOU that something is wrong.

I hid my problem too, when I was a cutter... at all costs... but all along, I knew that some part inside of me was crying out for attention...from MYSELF.

You might not be able to figure it out on your own...sometimes it takes a little outside guidance to help you find the answers, but once you figure out what's going inside of you, it's easier to mend. When you carry on, ignoring what your subconcious is trying to tell you...that's always dangerous. It might not be bad now...but how do you know that if something is wrong, inside, that it won't get worse, and lead to worse problems? THAT'S what worries me.

The thing is, you might not think it's all that bad...but do you know how free you'd feel without this habit/obsession/whatever you want to call it?

 

i never thought it was a big deal when i started at 13. back then it was an eating disorder and i was always having accidents that left bruises and sprains and the like. it esclalted to cutting then burning. now 20years later i fight the addiction every day. i've the hidden massive scars; emotional and physical. the scars are so bad on one arm they would require skin grafts to cover.my 10 year old son is very curious. i always put him off and tell him we'll discuss when he's older. i don't want him growing up thinking mutilation is the way to deal with pain. i've done legit things - i am heavily tattooed and have a few piercings; that was just a bandaid. i went inpatient for awhile; that didn't last too long. i don't do too well in an insitutional setting. it is a long hard road. it is a struggle everyday. if you insist on keeping up with it keep the wounds clean. i've had some very serious infections; some on purpose. don't expect the hospital staff to be symapthetic the day you cut too deep. the psych ward isn't a fun place. there is a help out there but you have to want to deal with the emotional baggage tht drives the obsession, the addiction. that is excactly what it becomes. it becomes an ugly living thing. peace * good luck.

 

I was thinking about this last night...
and lucy, no offense, but from what I've read on this thread so far, I don't think you're ready to face the truth.

I think you know it...but I don't think you're ready to admit it. And that's fine, too, but do not get offended/defensive when people tell you to stop, or are taken aback by the severity of your problem...you know, deep down, that there is every reason for people to worry.

I really hope that doesn't offend you, because I am not trying to... but, just take your time, and when you're ready to get help for it, do so...

My heart goes out to you. <3

 

First, A & O, you look exactly like my sister in law in your new pic up there in your sig. Crazy! Anyway, Lucy, by saying it is a cry for help, I don't mean that in a "bad" way, as so many people are misinterpreting it. I mean it in, that you wish you knew another way to express your feelings. Am I right or wrong? I mean when you are cutting, you are doing so because you are in pain, no? And doing so, relieves the pain. For the time being anyway. But it never solves the problem.

Like I have stated I have cut and I have burned myself in the past to relieve the pain. I thought that it would help. At the time, quite frankly it did. I didn't really get deep into cutting because I found a different outlet (raging, which was a better release for me, however, fucked up my relationships). Regardless, my point was, that you are trying to express yourself and you pain and what you are going through. You are "crying for help". Would you rather not have someone help you? Because honestly, if you didn't want help, you would never tell anyone, and quite frankly, you wouldn't just cut, you'd do something to make sure you die. Not that in any way I advocate that, because I 100% believe that there are many many ways to get through one's problem's. I guess my point was: today instead of facing problems and issues people (especially teens with poor coping skills) have learned to hurt themselves or put themselves down or whatever instead of confronting an issue. I would just much rather you say, this is not my fucking fault and you all are to blame (if that is the case) and I really wish some people (not everyone but there are a lot of people who do this) would stop using cutting as a form of attention. A lot of teens do this these days. It is just another form of acting out for some people. And just as suicide is selfish, cutting is also selfish.

No one I know in my real life including my boyfriend who doesn't believe in mental illness knows about my past cutting/burning, so it isn't as if I showed it off either, it is just that in my head, I showed it off to myself. I don't know if that makes sense to anyone, but to me it does. It was almost like "oh yeah, well you hurt me, well I can hurt myself worse."

Not sure if this clarifies anything at all, but hopefully, from something that someone says here, you will seek help.