Dating a Sex Offender

oh but you can, you see thats how it works.

the system is ^$%^^$%^

Go and do the crime but you never pay the time. Thats why everyone is $^$^$ in the head and screw with everyone .

ITS A CRIME.

THIS guy should not have kids be around kids or alcohol or drugs or cigerattes or anything

 

Didn't this guy do the time though?

 

i don't think ppl that do that kind of thing pay enough time really imho. You think really if this happened to a woman who was raped the after affects NEVER EVER Go away .

 

Well we don't know what was the severity the guy's offense. She's provided no details in that area. So it may not have even been all that bad. I always see people jump the gun on these things, just to show their contempt for sex offenders. I'm sure she's considered it to the point where saying "he's a sex offender, so leave him" isn't going to make much difference. If it was that simple, don't you think she could figure it out for herself? If you want to show how morally superior you are, do it somewhere else. If you have nothing remotely constructive or contributory to say, then don't say anything.

 

zorba are you talking to me like that dude??

 

Yes. Juvie and counseling, group thereapy, probation.

(Sorry I can't spell, this computer doesn't have spell check and I'm in a rush).

 

Thank you for the credit, I would also like to think it was a little more complex than that.

As far as the severity, the situation was actually this girl trying to get back at him for making fun of her all the time. She asked him to do what she did, then went and told her parents. Most of the people I've explained it to have actually only reacted with, "What a fu**ed up kid!" And this is because they know him. He's not a pedophile or a sex addict, at all.

I've known him for many years, from before and after this happened. I can completely understand why those of you who are giving him no mercy would do that. It just isn't a situation as you would think of "rape".

 

juvie probation and "group" therapy is nothing he should have been charged as an adult

 

I completely agree with you in a situation actually like rape. I myself have experience in that sort of department. It's horrible. Even then though I have forgiven the person who did that to me, as at the time he was a different person. He really didn't ever serve the time, but that would be my fault.

What happened to my boyfriend was being set up. Although given that the girl was too young for him to have an excuse to consenting to, it was her that convinced him to let it happen so that she could report it.

I do thank you for being conserned enough to express all of this, I would sort of hope that someone would say this just incase I was an idiot and that was the situation. But I am not, and the pretense of creating this thread was more so that when such a label is put onto a person they should have the right to move on with their life it it was truly a one-time and consented situation. Under any other circumstances I'd just say let it fallow them. But this has screwed my boyfriend out of finishing high school, out of jobs and now that he's living on his own the time and money he is still spending on it is making it extremely hard for him to support himself.

In the meantime, yes that girl might be totally effed up, but I think she already was consitering what happened. People forget that there are girls out there already having sex and whatever else as early as that age. One of my friends has a sister who's 12 and has been having sex for a couple of years... Weird stuff...

 

Well, I don't agree that he should have been tried as an adult. He wasn't for one, and honestly the crime just wasn't that serious. I'd say he's been treated accurately so for in this situation. He's had no other record for anything ever, he cooporated with everything as best he could, with he was in he was just there purely to serve his time, not eff around.

Plus, the juvinile detention in our area is about second in the nation to one in Texas. So most prisons aren't as bad.

 

Yellow- He can take correspondence if he applies himself .

 

What? Sorry, I just don't know what you mean by that.

 

Case in point. You're an idiot. Did you even read her last post?

 

I agree.

 

Zorba i happen to know more than you think - sorry you don't see it that way .



YELLOW
Corresponcence is self taught home school you mail into the school when your done your lessons just like e-learning in college.

Wow! i happen to be going to school for social work Zorba and have a daughter almost your age

 

17 year olds make mistakes all the time. no one got hurt, he didnt intend to hurt anyone, as long as he's not creepy around kids then cut the kid some slack. its gonna be hard enough living on the registered list, if you think you can handle someone in that situation, then by all means stay with him.

 

Oh, you're going to school for social work? My bad. I'll just unquestioningly accept everything you say from now on, even if it happens to be total bullshit. And the fact that you have the capability to bear children is very impressive as well.

 

I have to agree with YankNBurn on this one. I honestly don't see how a 17 year-old lad, even under the influence, could do such an act with an 11 year-old. She certainly did not force him. If he gets that messed up on booze that he doesn't realize he is committing sexual acts with a child, he needs to stay away from alcohol forever. I mean not even LOOK at a bottle.

Even so, only you can decide what is right for you. You know him, and I don't, so what I say really doesn't matter. What ANYONE else says doesn't matter. All that matters is what you say. I only know if one of my good guy friends I have known for a long time, and have trusted, got caught doing that, well, he would not be on my list to date. I am different than you though.

 

What is all this about an 11-year-old anyway? Did I miss that? I thought she didn't elaborate as to his offense...

 

I did, sorry if you missed that.