divorce........blah!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

funky i'm sorry that your going through this. its really hard to say much without having a better perspective on things but here is what i can say:
I watch dr. phil on a regular basis (go ahead and laugh) and i agree with him when he says that you have to earn your way out of a marriage, meaning you have to persue every option out there before you get out.
you should be able to get free or donation based councelling from the pastor at either your church or one close to you.
Please please don't fight with jason infront of your kids, leave them out of the whole situation aslong as possible. They are little and dont need to be involved.
and the last thing i want to say is that if things don't get better and you know for sure that its over, then get out, prolonging a marriage that you know is over isn't healthy for anyone, and there are more people involved then you and jason.

if you want to talk you can PM me anytime.
~retro

 

the ymca has sliding scale therapy based on income.

But if her daughter sees her dad acting this way than she will think that is how all men are and that it is okay. If he forgets to take her to school she can't feel that valued by him and she is going to grow up and seek unhealthy male attention. If you leave him you will be the main influence and through your actions she can see that she is valued and will hold her future parners up to those standards.

 

you guys are great...... thats more help than any of my "real life" friends can offer. none of them have long lasting relationships sp they really don't know whats going on. I am goint to ask him to go to counseling with me and tell him we need to make a budget and stick to it for good!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! HOPE IT WORKS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! and explaint to him the rights and wrongs of raising kids, since i guess he doesnt understand how to do it........................

 

I agree w/ the hat issue(I only came to terms w/ that recently), but as far as the video games, I see them as a completely acceptable, adult, form of entertainment. The way I see it, it's just like watching TV, but more interactive, and in some cases even mentally challenging.

 

My ex had an xbox (heh that ryhmes in a weird way) anyway he wouldn't ever play it in front of me even when we lived together. Once I asked his friend the name of a video game he wanted and than got it for him we both laughed our asses off that he played weird games with like underworlds and weird stuff.

 

Hey Phunky, I know how you feel. I went through the same stuff that you did. It is not easy to cange someone that noes not want to change. Hopefully he will agree with you to go to counciling and he "wakes up to reality". I barely know you, but I have seen you around here for a long time and I know you diserve a lot better! You are a very sweet and kynd sister and things will get better for you and your children. Hopefully he will join you guys. If not, you have your family to count on. Keep your head up sister. You will always have a monitor to lean on here in Hip Forums.................



~namaste~