I really do enjoy giving my bf a blowjob. I love looking up at him and seeing his eyes closed, smiling in total pleasure. Also, he is very appreciative and I think that makes a big difference...
I enjoy doing it. I don't do it just to have it done to me, though.I don't feel like I'm obligated, and I don't feel like he should be either. I've never expected it and I've certainly never done it for that purpose. I do it a lot though. hehe Anyways, I enjoy doing it. I just find it sexy. I'm weird like that. My friends all hate doing it. To each their own, though.
I just wanted to thank you guys all again. turns out I'm not gonna get a chance to try any of your suggestions, the guy I was seeing wanted to have sex and I thought it was too soon, so it's ended. Ah well, another relationship another lesson. thank you all so much though, you're all wonderful
SOmetimes, when you simply don't feel like fucking, it is a nice alternative for your man (that, and he'll then go to sleep and leave you alone ) I don't mind it at all. Bear gets 3 or 4 a week, with or without full sex along. <shrug>
I can't do it. I've tried a couple times, and it brought me to the level of discomfort where i felt like gagging, and the one time i swallowed, i nearly threw up, and went and put my head over the toilet bowl the entire day. He wasn't dirty or anything, he's very hygenic, i just couldn't do it.
if you're gagging it's cos you're trying to deep-throat it. It's anatomically impossible to deep-throat for most ppl. Think about it, the average erect penis is 5 inches and above, the average woman's mouth is 3-4 inches long. Beyond that length is where bulimics aim with their fingers, and that is essentially the area the penis reaches, this is why you find yourself gagging. Instead, you can effect a deep-throat by stroking his dick with hands in sync with your mouth. Use lub/spit along the shaft and have your mouth focused on the head of the penis. I even twirl my tongue on the head (this is the most sensitive part of penis, and clits). I also tell my man that my stamina for this is limited, so not to expect extended bj.
What's tit for tat for me is intercourse for cunninlingus. i don't cum from intercourse and need cunnin' to cum, whereas he has sex for his orgasm. Fellatio is over and above that. I am givin' to quickies and will give head occasionally but for me, it's not tit for tat. If my man expects to receive head as often as he will be giving me head, will then I will have to send him off to find someone with whom he'll be more sexually compatible with. That's just the way it is.
No, trust me, I don't try to deep-throat. I gag just by bringing it in a few cm. If I give him a bj with a flavored condom, it's fine, but without one, I gag.
green - it's probably better that you guys use a condom anyways! (unless you've been together for like three years and both of you have never ever done anything with anyone else).... std's taste bad
Hmmm.... My man takes ages. It always makes me feel crap like I'm no good at it. I mean I've been able to bring my ex boys to the brink within about 6 minutes... but he takes about 45... I just cant do it... and he looks at me like if I just went a little longer he would, but he never does... It feels yuck, I love the idea of it, and I dont mind to start with, but becuase he starts to thrust into my mouth I nearly vomit every time, and then I slavate becuase of the gag reflex and it goes everywhere, and my mouth gets dry and I feel like crying
I was a virgin before I had sex with him, and he didn't have any std's, so I don't really see the point of condoms. They're annoying, and they're impractical. Me loves my pills. lol..
oh Groovy, you need to ask your guy to not thrust into your mouth so much. It makes me feel all gross verging-on-vomitty too... so I usually hold his hips down with my spare hand. You could always try tying him up too, to try and prevent him from thrusting too much I don't really know any tips to make him faster other than asking him what he enjoys. Or trying out a small vib on his balls/perineum and along his shaft.
Retro I wouldn't be sad about this situation. I'm just like this guy. No girl has ever been able to 'finish' me off, I doubt a porn star even could and if they did, I'm sure it would take at least 45 minutes. So I usuallys stop the girl I'm with at the longest around ten minutes and move onto something else. Some guys (like me) need that steady constant rythm with constant consistent pressure around them that only sex can provide to reach orgasm. Now I certainly enjoy the act as part of foreplay, but it just isn't a means to the end with me and from the sounds of it, same with your guy.
(((((((((((Retrogroove) Grrl)))))))))))))))) Oh. honey, then don't do it. Sex should never make you want to cry (unless it is because it is so good.) Let him know how excruciating it is for you, no man who loves you would want you to feel like this for his pleasure. A good man wouldn't feel pleasure when you are so miserable. Communication, is the key. Yes, it sounds like a cliche, but you and he need to talk. Blessings, Maggie
sometimes its cool bc you feel powerful and if you really like the guy i guess you crave it- but i get bored if the guy takes forever to cum- its like ok how much longer can i do this?? but i also get insecure ab like whethor im good at it or not- do you other ladies get insecure ab your down there talents?
I actually enjoy giving my husband oral sex. It turns me on quite a bit. For a brief while, I was a bit squeamish about the whole swallowing ordeal (this happened after the birth of my twins and I had this weird mental image of little spermies swimming in my mouth and it grossed me out *lol), but I'm doing well with it again.