Do I tell my children daddy is gay or should I wait a while, thoughts please? Thanks.

Unless theres a serious reason your kids need to know , I would say just leave it alone. I have always felt that the parents private life should be just that , PRIVATE from the kids.

 

He should be the one to tell them.

 

why do the kids need to know about their dad's sexual preference?
what the fuck is wrong with people.

 

When the kids begin asking questions is when you/he should tell them...

When my son was 9, and about to meet his uncle (who lives in Cali) for the 1st time, he asked a lot of what I consider "normal" kid stuff...is he married, does he have a kid, does he have a g/f...I decided then and there to tell him the truth - that his uncle was gay.
My boy's answer/question back then was "Do you mean happy?"...(he knew ALL about sex having practially grown up on a farm)...I laughed and told my son "no, I mean he is homosexual, although he is happy, too". He knew that word and also that gay WAS even associated with a male homosexual 19 yrs ago. My point is he was FINE with it...

Don't lie...but I wouldn't start yapping about it until they expressed an interest in it.

You say you live in a small town...that may make the girls ask a little early, and its like Vanilla said (way back) the 9 yr old probably knows more than you think already.

 

I agree with Aerianne. I also think you both should be present and that you should tell them soon so they do not hear about it from some other source.

 

they don't really need to, but unless they're retarded they'll figure it out pretty quick.

they do tend to respect parents a little more if they don't blatantly lie to them though.

 

I have had several of my kids friends come out after their divorces. My ex came out as Bi after our divorce. My thought on this is to not come out and tell them directly. Let them get old enough to ask. Always be truthful with them. Never lie or tell mistruths. Be as completely honest and open as the questions they ask allow you to be. They do not need to know the intimate details, but as they get older they will ask questions about everything. Answer them as they come up. Honesty is best, but only give them as much as they ask for and wait on everything else.

 

Um, excuse me, but a nine year old KNOWS what sex is and what gay is, too.

The 3 year old won't have a clue.

If you tell the kids, you'll just have to expect the 9 year old will confuse the 3 year old (maybe scare them, bore them, annoy them).