Do you believe in "the one"?

I think that choosing can have an impact on this.

That is, you start out your life, and there are thousands of people who could be "the one." You find one of those, at the right time in your life (had a friend once say that a person was "ripe", good word). Choose them, and they become the only one possible from that moment on.

My adopted grandfather spent the last 10 years of his life missing his "one," who he'd been married to for 50+ years. Died from a broken heart, really. He tried to date, but no one could substitute.

 

I believe "the one" is out there, but unless you`re out & about all over the place; you might miss out on that person in this life time. That is what reincarnation is for..... you`re soul mate roams around some place.. you`ll find them again, someday.

 

oh, really??????

 

A very deep down part of me wants to believe this.
But ultimately, no, I don't think that there is "the one" for someone. Or if there is, then let me put it this way: I don't believe two people can stay together romantically, happily, until death.
I think my previous life experiences are the reason for this pessimistic belief..
But the idea of there being "the one" is quite beautiful and tempting.
On the other hand, if someone believes in that, it could give them a lot of pressure and anxiety when they are in a relationship with someone, because they may be worrying the whole time, "Is this 'the one'? How can I know", etc.

 

i actually thought about making this joke when i saw this thread get bumped, but then i figured i had already done so. i must be slipping.

i'm pretty sure reincarnation is for differentiating otherwise similar religions from each other.

 

I am sure you will meet a girl that you appreciate and love. But as a side note, you wont actually be in love with Her more as you will be in love with the image you create for her. Hell, you might even meet a girl thats the complete opposite of your image and fill her bad qualities in with your dream qualities. Nobody is perfect, especially if your are looking for "The One" Then your standards will be too high, and your odds will be too low.


Goodluck mate! Let me know if you do find her and tell me how you did it!

 

either that or your wit has now risen to a level above the obvious humor of mere mortals

 

no, that's definitely not it.

 

I do agree. Timing means so very much.

 

I do.

 

I believe there is someone for everyone.

 

I believe in someone being perfect for you... obviously not perfect in general, though.

As to whether it's "the one" or "a one" I'm not sure. I think you can have more than one person who can be perfect for you depending on circumstances, but at the same time, I have someone right now, and I have a hard time picturing being as happy with someone else.

 

To this, I completely agree. In the past I would try to force something out of a few hints of the first quality, such as a similar interest in movies, music, etc. The guy and I would be good friends but we really wouldn't work as a couple, the other parts were missing. While my last relationship was ending, I met a guy at work. We clicked immediately, and after almost two years we're still discovering interests and habits we have in common. I was surprised I didn't have to try to make it happen. I didn't have to "teach" him what I like, he already knew. Sometimes we talk for hours, but other times we don't have to talk at all. No words are needed, and it's that level of connection that I think makes the difference.

While there may be many people we are compatible with, which may or may not develop into a lasting relationship, I do believe in a soul mate. No one's perfect, but a person can perfect for you. I think "the one" is when you love everything about them, even their flaws. The combination of these three things at least for me, is a man I know and trust more than anyone, my lover and my best friend, and that's what I call meant to be.