No, when I think about my life. I look from the inside to the outside. There's no need to compare. Im not other people, so what's the point? I dont think of life as some kind of collection of awards, achievements, but as a collection of experiences and how they make me feel.
You can compare experiences too. I've do that a lot actually because unlike all you lot I'm indoors a helluva lot.
I know you can, I just dont see the point. I can appreciate someone's experiences and be all like wow. Like when John tells me about the time he spent homeless, traveling as a teen. I LOVE hearing about that, because I think is such a cool experience. I dont know to me comparing yourself to someone else is a sign that you're really not happy with who you are and your life and you need to either compare with someone who you think has a "worse" life than you, to make yourself feel better, or you compare to people who to you seem in a "better" position.
im constantly doing that in a negative aspect. I always look at other 18 year olds and think about myself. Most 18 year olds have a job, a car, graduated high school, etc. And here I am, homeless, jobless, carless, and without any kind of close family. It's kind of upsetting, but at the same time, Ive also experienced a lot more than the typical 18 year old. So it kind of evens things out.
I don't know, I thought of it more as a review. Reviewing your life so far and thinking about .... where it could be. What you could've done. What to do for next time.. sorta thing..
Well I do review my life a lot. I used to think a lot of what I could've done, but not anymore, because again, it's very pointless and would put in a weird mental place. What is done is done and hopefully we learned from it
everything you've been saying is making me feel better, Aura.. I think I tend to get bitter and put my life down cause it's not where I WANTED it to be.. years ago.. and when I see people my age that have already reached the place where I USED to wanna be.. well it makes me feel all.. bitter I guess? Or.. I don't really know, it's strange. But then again.. it what I USED to want and it wasn't necesarrily what I needed or.. why should it matter if I don't even wanna be where I used to wanna be now?
Im happy that Im making you feel better I think sometimes it takes sometime for us to let go of the idea that we really dont want something anymore and it's a bit scary, like what the hell? Then what DO I want?
I compare my life to someone elses based on gender. I'm trying to be the greatest man who's ever lived. Right now, I'm somewhere above the middle. Beating the curb isn't so bad I guess... but there are a lot of men. What I'm saying is comparing my life to someone else of my gender makes exactly as much sense.
Why do you want to be the "greatest" man who ever lived? And who is going to determine this? You? The world?
I don't. The frivolity of the whole thing was my point. I don't care about being the greatest. I'm a rockstar in my own world, Aura. :biggrin:
That's why I put "What I'm saying is comparing my life to someone else of my gender makes exactly as much sense." :biggrin:
Youre only 4 days behind then! Actually everyone seems to be doing things later than they did say 20 yrs ago.1st marriage age for guys has gone from 27 to about 35. And in England , people would get careers at 21.Nowadays half of graduates seem to be working in McDonalds at 26 or so.. Personally I think people who marry young are more likely to divorce /be unhappy later- as I saw with friends.