Do you compare your life to someone else's based on age?

that's true, it's very likely though sometimes it can work.. but it's hard to grow-up while being committed.. oftentimes it turns out people go a little nuts around 40-45 if they became adults too young. but not always. of course there are exceptions for everything. I'm glad I didn't get married though.. not that I wasn't in love.. but I needed to grow-up. WE needed/still need to grow-up. I'm glad we broke-up instead of getting divorced later.. well.. same thing but.. it would have been more complicated and I hate paperwork. or it could have worked. I don't know. we can never really know.

 

Thank you

I think so too, I kinda float around already.

It's doing good, John's at work, Jack's with his mom. The baby is in my belly.

 

Penny
Yep we can never "know".Maybe all we can do is be content/relaxed about the past , present and our outlook.

I think it needs to be 2 things - right person and right time.

I've also seen some people seem "ideal" for each other , but they were too young to settle down/ needed to explore different types of people.
Or one of them had other distractions to juggle with.

I'd have settled down by now , but setting up my own business made it all harder...

 

We were right for each other.. but we were/still are children. Troubled children. And it wasn't/still wouldn't be the right time. I don't think I needed to "explore" more cause I already had before him (and well I have more now since we broke-up anyways.. but I didn't really care to be honest) but apparently he did.

 

Can I babysit when it's born? I'll teach 'em how to kickbox.

Glad everythings going well Aura.

 

But if u settle down with the right person at a really wrong time , I think it would most likely turn out wrong.

I still wonder about atleast one girl from my past.
Maybe , there is a case for looking "back to the future".

ie renewing relats that other people tell us are ancient history.

Dunno..

 

I dont know. I fear I'm gonna be one of those moms who dont leave their kids with anybody haha

But you can definitely teach the baby how to kickbox. Hell, I wanted so badly when I was a kid to be in some kind of martial art class, kickboxing came later on, but my mom never listened to me

 

sometimes,
especially when it comes to shit talking 18 year olds...

 

I used to compare myself to people my age constantly and it would make me feel terribly insecure, inadequate and a complete failure. Also societal pressures of going to university, finding the right job, getting the boyfriend, then house etc, etc seemed to fuel my anxiety even more. When I was 23 I ended up having a complete break down. Once I began to come through it I gradually learned not to compare myself to others all the time and i realised that we are all different people and we all have our own individual path in life. Not everyone gets married and has kids by a certain age if at all. And even if you don't marriage and kids are not the be all and end all.

I've realised that there are very few aspects of our lives that we are in control of. For instance you could be happily in love at 25 and plan to marry at 27 which might happen or it might not for many reasons. There are no guarantees in life and I think you just have to go with the flow, be in control where you can be and make your life the best you can.