Do you mind being called gay?

I don't do labels too often, I say I'm like a pendulum, I swing both ways. I don't really tell people my sexual preferance. Unless I want to sleep with them they don't really need to know.

 

I'm a male and probably have had a ratio of 4-1 sexual experiences with mostly males, but that doesn't say i don't like girls. I have girls when there available, but lately that doesn't happen.

 

Elton would tell you he's gay; that's what he has said in many interviews.

I'd rather be called queer because that represents all non-heteros. Gay is more defined as being a guy who isn't straight.

Someone mentioned about hating "labels". Many people say that but, like it or not, everyone and everything is defined. That's why a dictionary exists; it's basically a book of labels.

 

My best friend is gay, but he used to be bi so if anyone asked him "are you gay?" He'd always say no, but he'd also say no if he was asked "are you straight?" So he definately prefered bi, but now like I said, he's gay. I'm bi and prefer bi too! But I'd also consider myself gay if there was something for gay people. Does that make sense? I had a weird dream last night that relates to that, but I'm still tired so can't explain lol

 

wow i couldn't agree more! you perfectly articulated something i was trying so hard to express in simple terms. thanks for saying that, it is so true.

 

It is down to personal prefrance - some people may chose to not advertise them selves as gay, but others may want to. - Either to attract action / sex or as a way to express them selves and there sexual prefrance.

 

To be honest, I grew up in the culture of everyone calling everyone "gay" for all sorts of reasons, even before I knew I was bi/gay. It still doesn't bother me as no one knows I am gay. But I think if I was labled "gay" or discriminated against for that, then I wouldn't be too happy. But hey! People are ignorant and scared at the end of the day

 

It depends. If it's someone who thinks that people (or guys specifically) can't be bi, it would make me mad. Especially gay people since they should know better.

 

I still identify as gay at times, pansexual at other times so I don't really care. I don't think sexuality is set for life I think it changes throughout your life so I just like to live in the moment, if a girl is hot and we're both into it go for it, and the same with a guy.

 

when i had my first girlfriend, we were pretty open with people we knew about the fact we were together. because she was gay, most people assumed i had "gone gay" too.

it wasn't helpful at the time because i was still adjusting to what my own ideas of my sexuality were. i had very strong feelings for her and having lots of people (who maybe werent sure how to react to a previously heterosexual friend now being in a same-sex relationship) saying "so are you gay like Emma now too then?" got me thinking that maybe i was...

it was only towards the end of our relationship that i really reconciled with myself what i felt was my true identity and realised i was bi, rather than gay.

if people assume im gay now, i dont really mind because theres nothing wrong with being gay! but at the same time its an incorrect assumption about me and if its worth putting them right on it then i will. but it doesnt upset me or make me angry or anything.