Do you prefer petite girls / woman as a bigger advantage to taller one's or not?

I just know a very nice figure when I see one. Some guy is bound to tell her she has a great figure if she asks him or not.
I have done that before if I know them well enough. Some 'do' appreciate a compliment. Wether asked for or not?

 

My partner flattened a guy who said "Nice tits" to her. Just laid him out with an elbow.

Some 'don't' appreciate unwanted attention.

 

If a woman told me she thought her figure was not that great & I thought the opposite , I would tell her that I thought it was nice looking & thats a great compliment to make. Then not only would I feel good telling her, she would feel better about herself as well hopefully.
If she hugged me as well, thats her accepting my comments in an even more positive way.

 

Gaaaahhhhhh! D:

 

FFS.......someone tell him, he ain't listening to me....


nzmale, I can only hope you are making all this up. If not, you are

a) giving our northern hemisphere brothers and sisters a strange idea of the behaviour of antipodean men;

b) behaving in a way that will probably get you arrested or, if you are unlucky, beaten up. I have a stunning 16 year old daughter. If she (or any of her friends) saw a bloke older than their father behaving as you say you do, they would stomp him to jelly. Then, they'd call me to finish the job.

Honestly mate, as an Aussie to a Kiwi, knock it off.

 

Yes, it would be nice to be younger again, but I'm young at heart at times anyway & in different ways emotionally, physically & sexually etc.
We can all fantasise about things in our life's & some great things 'do' happen in real life that we don't expect.

 

I give up.

 

Ok so in short I think nz male is saying this:

** He's a man who enjoys looking at the beauty of a women he finds physically attractive.

^That's pretty common among males I think it's safe to say.

What Ivory and many others are trying to point out, is that he overstepped that basic boundary, and with his posts creates the imagery that he's leering and objectifying females in general as sex objects.


That's basically my nutshell understanding to the point in this thread about nz male's posts.


In my humble opinion, nz male can fantasize whatever he wants too in his head as long as he treats women with respect and dignity in real life and keeps a permanent barrier between fiction and reality.

(NOTE: This barrier may or may not have been crossed when nz male would tell us of an event when he said something about a women's body to her face, that is a gray area on whether it crossed the line or not, because it depends on how the women in question responded to him in a particular environment. Her reaction would change whether it was positive flirting, or sexual harassment)

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To speak from Ivory's perspective as well as being pragmatic, if I had a child who society would regard as top tier in physical attractiveness, my main concern would be will my child be with people who treat and care for them for reasons other than physical qualities.

nz male's comments hit a nerve, because his comments raise a red flag that he is from the demographic of people in society who would objectify someone like my child. And so here lies the origin of why lots of people are jumping on nz male's comments.

Regardless there is a logical point to what nz male is saying, and it's basically acknowledging the fact that men are visual creatures and noticing physical beauty in of itself isn't wrong, it's how men are wired. (women too can be visual by the way)

^And here lies the basic premise of why nz male doesn't understand the backlash to his posts. He's probably thinking, "What I'm a guy, I notice physical beauty, don't tell me that didn't/doesn't matter to you too. Just because I'm ___ years old doesn't change that".

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Now that I think I've explained both sides as best I can, hopefully we can return to the topic of this thread, this is off topic I should point out.

 

Wait, most of that made sense.

But are you saying that the nature of NZ Males actions (Harassment vs Flirting) depends on the woman's reaction, not his behaviour?

 

Yeah I am saying that. And it's an extremely grey-area too as far as USA law is concerned. I don't know what other countries do in these cases though. Does anybody know how the rest of the developed world handles sexual harassment lawsuits? (I assume the details of the case matter, but generally speaking).

 

I can appreciate that the etiquette might be unclear but... It doesn't roll with me that the same action is only ok or not based on the whim of the second person.

I'm thinking context is the key factor here.

 

Agreed context is what its all about...but that's where miscommunications happen and where lawsuits come in. Alcohol makes the situation worse too.

NZ male did say in a former post that he only complimented a women's body IF he knew her well enough...so in some situations I can see where that's not creepy at all.

So yeah context is totally key.

 

I'm 4ft11. Sad, sad face.

 

i did say "starts" to be too short. i'd still hump you, just not quite as readily as if you were an inch taller.

 

Yes, I only compliment a women on her looks / figure if I know her well enough or want to pay her one because she may appreciate my comment in a good way. Thats not creepy at all - thats how most guys / woman end up dating total strangers, because they see & like that person's looks / personality etc -many thanks for your positive comments !

 

Those damn inches.

 

Sometimes I have seen a nice figure from behind & liked it & then when they either turn around or I see them later (just by chance) they are either teens with a nice shapely body or an older woman with a eye catching figure. Sometimes if you see a female in front of you who's got her back to you, you just don't know if you are looking at a teen or older woman - true?

 

It's not so good to have a teen girl hobby, but I don't think i't all that uncommon for men to oogle and comment. Once with our pop warner football team, we did a march at a high school. While waiting to be organized by the event people, many dads there with pop warner were saying things about the high school cheerleaders.

 

Perfect! Haha, I'm 6ft6 and I'm just crazy about short girls. One girl in particular I'm very fond of is probably about your height too and she's just awesome. We're not lovers or anything (I do wish!) but man that height is adorable

 

I appreciate physical beauty. I appreciate appealing secondary characteristics in both men and women.

I think that what makes me recoil in discomfort is NZ Male's graphic and salacious descriptions. If I started talking in great detail about being able to see the shape of my daughter's friends' nipples and vulvas through their clothes, or the outline of the heads of my teenage son's friends' penises through their athletic pants, it would, I am guessing, have a similarly disquieting effect on most people.

It probably would also have a disquieting effect if I was describing trying to get a good look at my customers' sex parts and analyzing them in those terms, partly because we're all the customer somewhere.