Do You Wear Shoes on a Date?

I only posed this question to the group, because someone in school was asking me 1000 questions about my lack of shoes and they asked if I would show up barefoot to take a girl on a date. Little did this person know I don't even own a pair of shoes. So, I usually would just show up barefoot without even thinking about it. But now that I do think about it, I was wondering how a girl would possibly see it.

I did like the point someone made that if the girl knows me to begin with, she would know that I never wear shoes and shouldn't be suprized too much by my lack of footwear.

 

Depends on how well the date goes! Wakka~Wakka!

 

i had several dates bf'ed and the vibe varied from a rare perfectly OK, dear, let's kick the shoes to a rather common fuck u , so i think that a professional dater should adopt shoes in this crazy shoddy world if he/she is hunting for the pot. and, fritz, there are legions of deranged folks that get laid in socks, not to mention perverts in stilettoes. that's the sad truth

 

I've went on dates barefoot.

 

i wouldnt go on a date barefoot, i think it makes too much of a statement and can be a bit shocking for someone not used to seeing it. It shouldnt be that way but it is.... I find that by mentioning it after a couple of dates by the time the girl realizes ur a half decent guy, there are no problems whatsoever.

 

I don't really ever go on dates anymore but i know with my last x he knew i liked to be barefoot and he never had any problem with it...

I think you should do what you would normally do...
And not try to be something else.

 

Sadly, I have to agree. I've been married 16 years, so my dating days are in the rear view mirror, but I wouldn't go out barefoot on a first date, especially if it was somebody I was really interested in. If she was already a barefooter, that might be a different story, but in general, it's a good idea not to expose all your "freaky side" up front. Once she gets to know you a bit, it would be fine to bring up the topic and/or give it a try, but I'd suggest letting things develop a bit first. Just my 2-cents.

 

For me, if he were put off by my bare feet, even on a first date, there is NO WAY I would want a second date. Not if he were the last guy in the world. Going barefoot is one of the most important things in life to me. A guy who doesn't accept my bare feet or would want my cat to go, will never have a chance with me. Almost anything else I could accept (well not serious crime, a serial killer or rapist who likes bare feet and cats wouldn't be good, but any habits/opinions/preferences/biases... you know what I mean ), but those two things are my life.

To be fair I should add, I'm very happy single, although I don't say I wouldn't ever date if I came across someone and sparks just started to fly. If you're the type to get lonely when you're single then it makes sense you set other priorities too.

 

This is mainly replying to mryana, do you not think there are people you may have written off not just as potential love interests but also in social circles just because of a first impression, without getting to know them properly?
And do you think you may have lost out becuase of that? I know I probably have.

I personally would love to meet a girl who was barefoot on a date like many others on here, but I still maintain that for people not used to seeing it, they need a gradual introduction to this particular way of life. Most people would be perfectly accepting of it similar to opening up about any other lifestyle choice.

 

Some places require shoes, so if this person wants to go to a place that does you should probably have something in hand just in case, but the places that don't can you take you so much deeper anyways.

 

i think txbarefooter makes a really good point, and if you are going to ask the person on a date why not just casually throw in the conversation that you'll most likely be barefoot. =] i would dig it, i'd probably be barefoot with ya haha

 

Agree.

I never went on a date barefoot, well, at least the first date that is. I agree, it's best not to show your "unique interest" right up front. Coming from a married man of 14 years who has played the dating game long enough, show up on a date barefoot with no shoes in sight and you run the risk of your date saying "see ya". I've been turned down by women in the past just by dressing nicely, making good conversation and not having any serious mental or social issues.

I once met a gal who enjoyed going barefoot, in fact that was a topic of conversation on the first date, kind of nice . I believe our third date involved taking her to a park and having a picnic lunch where we later shed our shoes and walked around barefoot. She was nice, but sadly to say acted rather immature for her age, so I ended up breaking off our newly founded relationship.

 

I wouldn't be "shedding" my shoes on the date, I wouldn't be wearing shoes at any point, since I don't even own a pair...lol

Well, I'm not sure if I would have to even throw it in the conversation. If it was someone at school they probably figured out that I never wear shoes and especially if they know that I come to school barefoot on a daily basis.

 

haha see well there you go. =]] don't wear shoes, anywhere for anyone man. =]

 

Did anyone ever go on a date where the other person showed up totally barefoot?

 

No, I don't feel I have lost out dating, because I am happy single!
Also I remember well that in the years I did date, the times I set aside something truly important to me thinking we could work around it... well it didn't, LOL. We always parted as friends but to actually date/love/live with someone... I don't understand how people do that anyways even when they don't have serious differences about something extremely important to them, let alone when they do!

Socially, well I didn't say I wrote them off as a friend on a first impression did I? I don't, I thought it was clear that the topic of this thread was dating.
But I'll answer it anyway. I think the situation in the Netherlands might be a bit different than in the US. Anti-barefoot myths are rare here, people generally believe it to be healthy (if a bit weird) rather than gross and dangerous. I'm sure there are many who are turned off by bare feet on a date (as in leading up to intimate relationship), but it's not a big deal when going to the movies or a museum or something like that. I've gone places with colleagues, people I've met through the book club, people I've met through the fantasy/SF conventions, people I met through my previous job at a computer help desk... Most of the time people are curious, asking me questions about whether it's not cold, if I'm not afraid I'm going to step in something, mayve if I don't get a lot of strange looks, but generally they don't seem to have a problem accepting me a casual friend and I don't write them off if they mention they would not like it if their partner did it, or they would feel embarrassed doing it themselves.

I'm sure there are people here in the Netherlands too who don't want to be seen with a barefooter in a movie theater or museum and have kept their distance (even within those groups mentioned above), but really I have all the friends I can handle. I'm not a social person, I enjoy the outings I go on with people but I wouldn't want any more, I decline at least 3/4 of the times I'm invited. That's my social limit and has nothing to do with what I wear on my feet.